Your Child & his/her education

LuckyladyJ

I am not sure if you all saw this article yet or not, but I want to see what your opinions are? I personally feel this lady is a little crazy.My sons education is important to me, but I would never do something like this. I already have a 12 yr old & she is what they call a "well rounded student". She is in all gifted classes, she is in a magnet program, she is secretary for her school & she does cheer-leading amongst a list of other activities. We use the reward system with her & it has worked wonders for us.I know some people are against the reward system, but it works for us so we don't mind it. (also she is not literally rewarded for everything she does, but we do show her recognition.) 

I just want to add that every child is different & what works for one may not work for another. Some children have a harder time with school than others. Who knows my son may have difficulties in school, but I know as a parent I will try & help him as best as I can .

How do you feel about this article & what are your thoughts about your Lo's education?

https://moms.today.com/_news/2011/03/16/6278260-mom-sues-preschool-for-not-prepping-4-year-old-for-ivy-league?gt1=43001

EarsToYou

This is totally ridiculous and reminds me of the book "The Nanny Diaries".  If the school actually misrepresented the education her child was getting, then yes, she may be able to get a refund.  But for crying out loud, she only gave it 3 weeks!  I think the right to sue in this country is waaaaay overused.

TobleroneBar

well, we need people to work the streets of NY... vendors and other street professions...it's clear to me that since the preschool didn't focus on testing skills that this is where the 4 year old is headed.  Good Grief what a waste

JulietL129

If I paid 19K for tuition for a PRESCHOOL then yes, I would definitely want proof that the school was providing my kid with exactly what they promised me and what I was paying 19 THOUSAND DOLLARS for and if they weren't, yes- I would want my cash back however I had to get it back. I don't mean my kid necessarily has to learn it because every kid is different, but this lady is claiming the place was just a baby sitting service instead of the educational institution she was promised.

KristieElizabeth

She only gave it three weeks? I know in kindergarten we spend the first three weeks teaching the basics: alphabetical order, numbers/counting, shapes, and colors. Our curriculum progressively gets harder. If other schools don't meet up to her standards, is she going to pull her child out after three weeks and sue those schools too?

kat81

Yes I did see it. Insane. I won't go into the tuition question...frankly daycare costs that much so I'm not going to balk at the price. But her attitude was ridiculous. It's really sad that people think about preschool having any remote effect on where you go to college...or even that where you go to college really matters that much in life! I went to an Ivy League school but when I went to graduate school afterwards (at a public) I decided that a) a good public school is just as good as the ivy league, as long as your kid can advocate for him/herself and get to know professors and b) if you're going to get any kind of graduate degree, that is what matters, not where you went to college. Many people in my program went to small, regional, run-of-the-mill colleges but we were on even ground in graduate school and no one cares now where they went before.

All of that being said, education is extremely important to me and DH. But we are determined not to put pressure on our kids. Afterall, our very existence will be intimidating because we have graduate degrees. I don't want the kid to feel like that has to be his goal. First of all, we will look for bargains such as state school if we live in a state with a good one. Second, we will not say, "you're a genius" and tell the kid about the reward of the ivy league, but rather say, "you worked hard" and encourage the kid to find reward in doing the work itself. And if college isn't right for my kid then that's totally fine! We won't push it if the fit isn't there.

We also think that education happens outside of school, too. We will encourage reading and game-playing, and we'll probably be the dorky family going to museums for all outings/vacations...that's what both of our parents did. No disneyworld for us as kids! I wouldn't be against going or anything, but DH would be...not his style...maybe I will take the kids sometime if they want to go somewhere like that.