Thankful for short dinner!

sunflower8710

I told my old h.s.friends about the pregnancy this evening at dinner. I live out of state and was excited for the opportunity to tell them in person during this visit. Mind you, we're pretty young, 22 years old so maybe the bad reaction was stemmed from inexperience with pregnant friends....

Well I say I am pregnant and my one "friend" says, "Well hopefully you don't miscarry like I did when I was 19" and then went ahead and made the entire dinner about her miscarriage and her extensive "knowledge" of pregnancy. Side note: I am a Biology major at a major university focusing on anatomy and physiology. I will be the first to admit that I far from getting my MD, but when she spits out advice about hyperemesis (when a few minutes before she hadn't even heard of it) and tells me the cause is probably because my baby is going to be sick with Crohn's disease (wtf!) she gets a few eye rolls.

My other two friends were really excited. But they couldn't get a word in edge wise, and when they did ask ME a question about the baby or the pregnancy or what have you the other friend would answer about her miscarriage (which don't get me wrong, I understand needing to talk to about it and my heart truly breaks for her) or with her own little spin on pregnancy. 

EX- "Do you get any cravings?"

Me- "yea-"

Her- "iiiiiii craved french fries and could not stand salad! When you crave something in pregnancy you should always give into it because the baby is telling you what vitamins you need... Like ice cream- you probably need that perfect combo of sugar and calcium"

 

It was just so frustrating! Finally, as they are dropping me off, my friend asks me when I am due and I say, "September 4th, but I swear this baby is going to to get outta here sooner!" And the "friend" then says "Ooooooohh my bday is August 15th, make me the godmother!"

 

UGH! How frustrating!

squirrelbaby

Next time don't invite her. 

boxergurl

Oh my, she would make me crazy!  I hate know it alls!

sunflower8710

squirrelbaby:

Next time don't invite her. 

RIGHT! next time I am definitely not. People sure can change when you live out of state!!

windsongs

eek- how annoying. 

JLAElliott

That sounds horrible! I would have said something though.. these hormones are making me a little more b*tchy then normal. I don't have time to deal with other peoples stuff. If she does show up next time and tries to pull the same stuff.. You should tell her, you understand that's what she went through..BUT every pregnancy is different.. And different people have different ideas on how to deal with their pregnancy.. ..I'd say it another way.. but you know .. It just seems like she'd be the type to tell you how to raise your child as well.. and NOTHING annoys me more then when someone with out children tries to tell you how to be a parent.. GRRR