Can people not keep anything private??? Long Vent...

Tyler's gal

So DH's cousins wife is really annoying. Back story: her H was 21 and she was 16 when they got married because her H had the choice to marry her or get in trouble with her parents for having sex with her since she was a minor. At 18 they had their first child after a miscarriage and lots of problems TTC.

Fast forward to now.. I finally deleted her off my FB because all she ever did was whine about how she would never ever want anymore kids and how could people have more than one child, and how they were losing their house because they figured if they didn't pay the mortgage even when they had the money that the mortgage company would lower their payments. She posts everything online! Their credit score, their mortgage issues, EVERYTHING!

Now because I'm pregnant and several other people in the family are, she's decided she wants another baby and that's all she talks about! Every post on FB is how she's buying maternity clothes and baby things and how she'll have to give up coffee in a month when she's pregnant. I know it's exciting when you're thinking about having another baby but can you not keep anything private?

She gets extremely jealous when anyone asks me about my pregnancy and she'll cut them off and start whining about how she can't wait to be pregnant and how awesome it will be. She wants to have a home birth even though she had severe complications at the last birth! But she wants to have a home birth because she doesn't want to wait a few months and get on insurance first so she says the home birth will be so much cheaper! That's so irresponsible in my opinion. I have nothing wrong with home birth but to do it and not have insurance in case you have to go the hospital in an emergency??

The whole situation is so frustrating. I wish I didn't have to see them every week at church and family get togethers. Phew.. I feel better now!!

backinpgh

oh Lordy...she sounds like a pile of fun. I'm a big supporter of home birth under normal circumstances, but it's pretty likely that any homebirth provider will not put her under their care due to her medical history, so I wouldn't worry about that one too much

jen102279

Wow! I have a family member that isn't too far from this and it is pretty bad... I don't need the details of their sex life posted on my newsfeed etc...

I feel your pain.

gabiT09

yeah thats very irresponsible. what does she think will happen if there is an emergency and she does have to go to the hospital? guess she'll figure out when she gets the bill!

iahlgren

Also, a lot of insurance companies will consider pregnancy a pre-existing condition, so she might not be able to get coverage.

She sounds like a total nightmare. Just do your best to ignore her. Maybe you can come up with things to do so that you don't have to see her every week? 

Azrayla

backinpgh:

oh Lordy...she sounds like a pile of fun. I'm a big supporter of home birth under normal circumstances, but it's pretty likely that any homebirth provider will not put her under their care due to her medical history, so I wouldn't worry about that one too much

The bold for sure.

My cousin is kind of like that..However my cousin makes stuff up or exaggerates to get sympathy or praise. Shes on her third with 3 under three. Each will be 16 months apart however she got pregnant while she was in the process of getting a divorce and her ex husband isnt the father of this last child. (And based on dating I have a firm belief this current bf may not be the father either but well see)

She airs her dirty laundry as well about how she had to sleep on the couch during fights, how her current "fiance" (she got engaged before the divorce was final as well) is cheating on her etc... Some things people just dont think are sacred.

She wont post on any of my things hardly though.. My family talks really bad about her (my mom and grandparents) so it worries me what they say when I'm not around. They dont even know were having another yet!

KatKan

Oh yikes that is ridiculous!  I would just hide her news feed from your FB - it's not the same as defriending so she won't know, and then you won't get bombared with all that crap on top of hearing it IRL.  I have done that with more than a few people.

kyashley1227

I know somebody like this too....this chick posts stuff on facebook 25+ times a day...and its always the same over and over again that nobody really wants to know. it's so annoying!

Tyler's gal

Thanks for the sympathy ladies! I'm glad I'm not the only one with this problem! I just can't understand why you would post on FB about all your issues. Just keep some things to yourself!!

candacenally

Oh lady, I feel your pain, although yours is a thousand times worse because youre related to the person. I went to high school with this girl so when I got a friend rq from her I approved her. We were never friends, nor did we ever run in the same circle, but you know how fb is, so i approved it. This girl posted EVERYTHING. Now granted she was never the most classy, but some things can be kept private. She would take about how she was taking her "baby daddy" to court and he was going to have to pay $300 dollars a week child support. He told her he was going to hit her in her face and she said bring it on mother..... you get the idea lol. Then once she posted she was getting a new house and told the world exactly how much she would be paying in rent, who does this? Then once she posted all about how her 16 year old brother went to jail for stealing a car and her mom moved to another state so she had to go to court to get custody etc etc etc. Honestly I found myself checking her page frequently to see if their was any additional train wreck-esque material. Oh and her boyfriend would always post to her page "you look so hot boo I gotta get some of that" Ugh REALLY!?!?! who does that? lol. While it was fun to watch for a while, after a while it just irrated the pi$$ out of me so I deleted her. I am now ashamed to admit that I had several good laughs at her expense. However if she had been my sister in law - gosh I don't know what I would do. I was tempted several times to post something about maybe she shouldnt post her private info etc. I never did of course, but if it was a family member I don't know that I could keep it in!