divorced moms...

sleepingbeauty

when you got pg, did you feel obligated to tell your ex-h about it?  even if you never had children together?

m231

I am assuming it's not his child?

sleepingbeauty

not even remotely a possibility.  we split up nearly two years ago.  my best friend is his sister.  and she thinks that i should tell him, that it shouldn't come from some random source.  which i get.  but the she says, "i think you owe him that much."  i actually, i don't owe him sh*t.  so now i'm all heartburned out.  ugh. 

2-Step

I'm not divorced, but I personally don't think you owe him anything. If you were still friends and wanted to tell him then that would be one thing. If you have both moved on with your lives then why would you call him to tell him that? To me it seems like it would only make for an awkward conversation and almost like a confrontational slap in the face. If I were him I would rather hear it from my sister or a friend than from you. Unless you talk to him often and it you are intentionally witholding it from just him, I see no point. If you do, I would actually probably do it over e-mail so he doesn't have to feel awkward. What is he going to say - ummm congratulations on moving on and having a baby with someone else?

kristie6406377

Unless it's his, NOPE.  Or unless you want to tell him b/c you're still friends or something.  Otherwise.  Nope.

vanessa11411

I wasnt married to DD's dad, but my 7 year old told him because she was so excited about it and she sees him every weekend. I was going to tell him anyways, so he knows that he needs to pick up the financial slack with DD.

RodeoRadTech

sleepingbeauty:

not even remotely a possibility.  we split up nearly two years ago.  my best friend is his sister.  and she thinks that i should tell him, that it shouldn't come from some random source.  which i get.  but the she says, "i think you owe him that much."  i actually, i don't owe him sh*t.  so now i'm all heartburned out.  ugh. 

 

I completely agree with you.  You do not owe that man sh*t... And I think you should remind his sister of that...

k4slr6

I am divorced and remarried, and I have NO plans of telling him my exciting news.  We are not friends and never see each other.  Maybe his sister should tell him...but I don't think you have any obligation what-so-ever.  That is just my opinion.

peanutboogie

DD1 told her dad because she was excited!  We get along for DD sake but I do not feel that I need to tell him my personal life!  There is a reason we are no longer married:)