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So mad at DH (LONG)
Last night DH came home drunk from a work golf tournament. He insisted he was fine (as if I don't know my own DH) but he seriously came home, pee'd, took some chicken and passed out with it on the floor at 8PM!
He's got to be losing his mind if he thinks I would be okay with this. It is completly unacceptable to me that he was drinking and driving. You would need 2 hands to count the number of people I lost due to drunk drivers. I do not mess around with that shiit.
He woke up around 9 and tried to come to bed. I sent him back to the couch (well, rudely - I said go back to the floor where you belong). I can not have him in bed with me and DD with him drunk. He's got to be kidding me.
DD and I had a rough day yesterday. She had her 4 mo. shots on Tues and was throwing up and fussy all day long (totally not normal for her). She was running a slight temp and was generally not feeling well. As you can imagine, I was looking forward to some relief and help when DH got home. That turned out to be a major FAIL!!
I am just so pissed I don't know what to say to him. He doesn't get it. This is not a regular thing for him but he has done it before (while I was pg. and since...)
Why does a grown man with a family at home make these stupid mistakes?
He's apologized over and over and has called already to apologize some more. But it's not good enough. I don't believe him when he say's he won't do it again...
This succks. HELP!
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Re: So mad at DH (LONG)
I don't have any advice here but I think you have every right to be pissed at him. He's an adult and a parent now, it's time for him to man up. Getting sloppy drunk needs to be a thing of the past. He shoudl be mature enough to know when enough is enough.
Sorry you had a rough night...
coming in on this late but i wanted to offer some support. i have been through this several times with my H.
when i was 7 1/2 months pg, he got totally wasted on the weekend (which was pretty normal). before pg i was ok w/ it. but at 7 1/2 months you never know when you may need to go to the hospital. I presented that to him and he reeled it in.
he's done it 3 times since dd was born. its more annoying than anything. but since its a saturday night thing, i really don't care. its not every weekend or every night of the week. but the third time he got wasted he tried to take her out of my arms to hold her. I FREAKED! I actually ended up leaving the house for a while. DH isn't a mean drunk or anything but he's sloppy and goofy. he doesn't realize that he's not exactly walking straight or capable of holding a baby!
When i told him the next day that he had tried to yank her out of my arms and that he could have hurt her or worse dropped her - he actually cried!?we had to have a nice long talk about the fact that he needs to be able to care for her. if there's an emergency then he needs to be able to handle it. he's been on good behavior ever since. i'm sure he'll slip up every once in a while but at least he's opened his eyes. i think that for my DH, its just an issue of maturity. he hasn't completely grasped the 'i'm a daddy and life has changed' thing.
maybe you need to present your DH with a worst case scenario. I'm sure you can find a few news stories of drunks accidentally hurting their babies. i know its seems like a terrible and manipulative way to get his attention. but its better than something awful happening.