PP on October '11 board... Excuses...

NC112

I already posted this on October 2011 board, but I'm really kind of freaking out about tonight...

I'm trying to keep things quiet from some good friends (we're going to their house)... this is our 2nd and I really just want to wait until we have our first u/s (in a week & a half).

I think two of my friends suspect something even though I haven't told them.

I've tried playing out the antibiotic story (which is actually true) and that's why I won't be having a drink... I'm just really nervous they won't buy it.  Or that they'll notice I'm not eating much (thank you obvious nausea).

What are some of the "stories" (I won't call them lies) you've told people if they've bugged you about being pregnant or not drinking?

lovelyophelia

Before pregnancy when we would go out with friends, I would typically not drink so DH could. I am usually  the DD.

Pina

You're driving and on antibiotics.

Or I have bought fake wine, its called Fre, tastes pretty good.  At 8 weeks pregnant I threw  a dinner party with 12 of my closest girlfriends.  I didn't want anyone to know so I poured the fake wine into a real wine bottle and "drank" all night with my girls.  After the fact, the girls all said I had them fooled!

TeacherVicky

I just told people I didn't feel like having a drink.

I don't get why people can't accept that an adult can choose to not have a drink! I hate when people ask these questions - my mom was one of them. I don't know how many times she asked me early on why I wasn't having a drink. So frustrating!

NC112

TeacherVicky:

I just told people I didn't feel like having a drink.

I don't get why people can't accept that an adult can choose to not have a drink! I hate when people ask these questions - my mom was one of them. I don't know how many times she asked me early on why I wasn't having a drink. So frustrating!

I agree with you, even with DS I didn't tell them until 12 weeks... they keep "threatening" that I won't be able to keep it from them as long this time.

MrsG.060708

I  always find it very odd that people need to create elaborate stories to hide the fact that they aren't drinking because they're pregnant.

Do you really drink that much that if you don't drink one night, it's going to throw everyone through a loop?

 

Note: I don't mean you as in YOU, but just generally speaking. I don't know how many times I've seen this question since I first got pregnant with DD.

Ali080605

the antibiotic can cause nausea too...

Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

VeilSdeGTO

MrsG.060708:

I  always find it very odd that people need to create elaborate stories to hide the fact that they aren't drinking because they're pregnant.

Do you really drink that much that if you don't drink one night, it's going to throw everyone through a loop?

Note: I don't mean you as in YOU, but just generally speaking. I don't know how many times I've seen this question since I first got pregnant with DD.

This.

Then again, I don't drink so it's not that hard for me. I am always curious why not drinking for one night would spill the beans.

rkto

you dont have to be a lush for people to be suspicious.

I have a friend that I attend work dinners /conferences with.  They offer free wine to everyone.  She always has one glass with dinner.  One night she didnt have any.  I knew she was pregnant.  HOWEVER, I didnt say anything.  I knew that if she wanted to tell me. she would.  2 months later - she told me.  

so for me, I dont mind if my friends suspect, but they shouldnt be so nosy. 

NC112

MrsG.060708:

I  always find it very odd that people need to create elaborate stories to hide the fact that they aren't drinking because they're pregnant.

Do you really drink that much that if you don't drink one night, it's going to throw everyone through a loop?

 

Note: I don't mean you as in YOU, but just generally speaking. I don't know how many times I've seen this question since I first got pregnant with DD.

Its not that I drink that often (because I really don't, especially since I had a little one)... its just my friends are nosy.  They have all told really early in their pregnancies and never had anything happen.  I'm just more conservative in general!

NC112

And... I started throwing up this evening.  Yipee morning sickness!

I sent DS and DH without me...

Traycee1242

Um.. Simple. Order (or make..or have DH make) a sprite on the rocks and add a lime. Or cranberry juice... Whatever. No one will have a clue. Just don't make a big deal about it.

Ivana_Stolichnaya

Let them have their suspicions and talk all they want, who cares.  You don't have to say yes or no until you are ready. 

If you just have to go out and drink, then order a virgin.  Cranberry, soda with a lime = Vodka-Cran or a Coke = Rum and Coke (they aren't going to taste it to make sure there's rum in there!

 

HappyAardvark

MrsG.060708:

I  always find it very odd that people need to create elaborate stories to hide the fact that they aren't drinking because they're pregnant.

Do you really drink that much that if you don't drink one night, it's going to throw everyone through a loop?

 

Note: I don't mean you as in YOU, but just generally speaking. I don't know how many times I've seen this question since I first got pregnant with DD.

I love how people get this sanctimonious attitude about other people's drinking habits when this question is brought up.   

No, it's not that I really drink THAT much that if I don't drink one night, it equals an automatic red flag.  It's not about quantity, it's about frequency and habits, and your friends KNOWING you.  If you always (or almost always) have a glass of wine, or a martini, or whatever, when you go over to their house, or get together for a girls night, and then all of a sudden DON'T, that's a change in your behavior that most people will question.  

It's a fact that people are creatures of habit, typically do the same things in the same patterns over and over again - naturally your closer friends know you and your habits, and anything different can cause questions/curiosity.