If you already have a child/children...

mrspayne10

...when did you or will you tell them about the baby?  We have seen the baby and heard the heartbeat twice, so I am telling work, family, friends now, but DH has a 3 yo DD from a previous relationship.  She will be 4 in August.  When did you tell your other kids?  Or if you haven't yet, when will you and why?

We haven't told SD yet, but I'm not sure when we "should."  I want her to be a part of the experience, but I know she is still young enough that it could be too early since the birth is sooo far away?  Thoughts??

corinneandalex's1st

We told our DS, he's 2 and doesn't get it yet. He does however lift my shirt and say "baby button".

lovelyophelia

I am trying to explain it to DS but I don?t think he understands.

jdekzoo

We've told DS, but he doesn't get it.  He probably won't until the baby's here!

wnk1029

My little guy doesn't have enough of a vocabulary yet to "spill the beans" to anyone else, so we told him right away to get used to the idea... I don't think he really "gets" it yet, though when we ask him "Where's the baby?" he'll point to my belly.

With older kids, I'd probably tell them as soon as I'm ready to have everyone else find out as well.  You can't expect little ones to be good at keeping secrets, and I don't think it'd be very fair for everyone else to know and to NOT tell them.

NicDes

We told our almost 4 year old and 2 year old around 6 weeks. I saw no point in waiting and I wasn't too concerned about having to untell them because they only got excited about it the first few weeks when we brought it up.

Now they say good morning to the baby, kiss my belly and talk about names. We felt comfortable with our decision.

mrspayne10

Thanks ladies!  Maybe we will tell sooner rather than later.    SD is definitely old enough to understand that a baby is coming, but I was worried about her asking every.single.day. when the baby is getting here, ha! 

wnk1029

mrspayne10:

Thanks ladies!  Maybe we will tell sooner rather than later.    SD is definitely old enough to understand that a baby is coming, but I was worried about her asking every.single.day. when the baby is getting here, ha! 

Yeah, it is a long time for a little one to understand.  Maybe you could put up a paper chain counting down till your new little one's birthday month?

SPC2007

I tell DD everyday but she is only 15 months old so doesn't get. She probably won't get it until the baby is born or when my belly gets big....maybe this summer.

Pretty*n*Pink

My son is the same age. He knows and has since 6 weeks. He likes to kiss the baby, rub my belly, and at dr visits the dr finds a way to include him. I told him when it is time to go apple picking, after swimming time, then baby will be here. That he got. He also named the baby after the neighbors dog. So i think she will get it....

JLAElliott

I told DD as soon as I found out. I was too happy/excited not to.  She gets it ( I think) for the most part. And says she'll help feed the baby and that the baby in my belly is a girl not a boy.. Haha. BUT she is NOT ready for the baby to come out yet.  I think it may be harder on her when I actually have the baby b/c she's used to being EVERYONES one and only. Time will tell   GL!!

whalen_sa

mrspayne10:

Thanks ladies!  Maybe we will tell sooner rather than later.    SD is definitely old enough to understand that a baby is coming, but I was worried about her asking every.single.day. when the baby is getting here, ha! 

I am worried about this too! My SD is 7 and we still have not told her.  She has made it very clear that she wants a brother or sister.  We might tell her this weekend or after our NT scan on the 15th.  I was worried that if something was going to happen having to explain to her what happened.  I think its a little much for a 7 yr old, but there would be a million questions.  I did tell DH it is up to him when he wants to tell her. 

KBaker421

We told DD a while back.  Didn't plan to but our secret slipped to half of my family when i wasn't drinking so we decided to tell her before she found out elsewhere. 

Kml9876

Our son is 3 and we are waiting to tell him when I am over 12 weeks after the nt scan. That is when we plan to tell everyone.