PLEASE stop telling me how big baby is getting!!

kkntim07

I work in a pretty big office, and I don't think some people realize that they're probably one of fifty people who will comment to me on a given day that, "Wow, baby boy is really getting big!" One time would be no big deal, but over and over again and it's going to make me feel pretty crappy... This has only started in the last few weeks where I've gone from getting the "You look so cute!" and "You look really great!" comments to pretty much nonstop comments about how big my belly is. I've smiled and joked back up to now, but this morning must have been one too many because it sent me to the bathroom for 15 minutes while I tried not to cry. So ready to be done with work! Anyone else noticing this change in comments? Thanks for listening!

Koro627

Yes!! I actually snapped at a coworker yesterday when she commented on how big my belly is getting. I said , "Yeah because there is a growing baby in there! I dont understand why everyone is so surprised that my belly is growing, that is what is supposed to happen!" I felt kind of bad after, but seriously, why is everyone so shocked when our bellies get big?? There is a BABY IN THERE..

AZ123

Pregnancy is a novelty and people love to comment on it. You're being WAY too sensitive. Enjoy your big belly and your largeness. It is temporary.You should be proud. It means you're growing a healthy big strong boy.

Koro627

AZ123:

Pregnancy is a novelty and people love to comment on it. You're being WAY too sensitive. Enjoy your big belly and your largeness. It is temporary.You should be proud. It means you're growing a healthy big strong boy.

?Im sorry, but I dont think you should tell anyone how they should feel! Everyone is different and this happens to bother her!?

snoopy5512

A co-worker/friend went on a 10 min tiraid about how big my belly was and how HUGE my baby must be.  It was not only awkward, but it seemed like she was being snarky on purpose.  Possibly that she can't see to get a bf, even after starving herself thin.  Other people felt awkward by it too.  To bad the baby is in the 30th percentile right now.  What an arse!

pinkpear

That is just one of those comments people make regarding pregnancy.  It's their way of expressing their excitement over the fact that your LO is getting closer to making their appearance.  I really don't think you should let it bother you and just appreciate the fact that they are trying to encourage you.

Mulhollem42

I don't think you are being too sensitive.  I have been getting a lot of this lately as well and twice in the last week I was asked "how much weight have you gained?"  Umm, thanks.  I try not to let it bother me and actually tell people how much I have gained, and that I am on track for how much my doctor said I would gain. 

sugarangel77

Some days its harder to accept than others.....  I know Im supposed to get big, but that doesnt always make it okay.

My own mother said, "wow your getting BIG!, I can't wait for you to see how hard it is to get the weight off after the baby comes"  In front of a whole group of women at a party. SERIOUSLY? I just said, "wow, thanks mom" 

Also- every morning my co worker says somthing like....

"wow you look sleepy" or "your looking pale are you okay?"

WTF! I know Im a little swollen, do you really need to call attention to my fading looks every damn day.

EEM9906

I think most times it is all in HOW it is said as well.  I was frustrated one day after the third comment about how I am "getting bigger every day" and how "big I look now" that I finally replied with a "Yes, and I truly appreciate all the comments about it".  My boss told me I should take the comments as a compliment...really???  Then I think they should be phrased as compliments, not what I find to be rude notes to me on how large my ass (or belly) is getting.

kkntim07

I definitely know that I'm more sensitive than normal, and I totally agree that pretty much everyone is commenting more to be nice than to be judgmental or snarky. I think it's a combination of the number of comments (I'm also not used to so much attention--it can be a little overwhelming for a fairly shy person) and the fact that I'm way overdue to find a few new cute maternity clothes. With the cold weather I've been bundled in the same four outfits and I think I just need a little pick-me-up. Generally I've been loving my pregnant body (bump and all), but with this newest growing I just need to catch up a bit and find clothes that make me feel good. Thanks everyone!

kacelle

AZ123:

Pregnancy is a novelty and people love to comment on it. You're being WAY too sensitive. Enjoy your big belly and your largeness. It is temporary.You should be proud. It means you're growing a healthy big strong boy.

I don't understand how pregnancy is a novelty.  Hasn't it been around for thousands of years?  People act so surprised to see a pregnant women though.