Cancer F'ing Sucks

4/29/06Bride

My Dad called me tonight to say that he was just diagnosed with Prostate cancer.  Gleason score = 6, for anyone familiar.  He has testing on Friday, to see if it has spread, with results back on 3/14.

I seriously want to scream and throw the biggest tantrum right now.  My mom, who was my best friend, passed away totally unexpectely 16 months ago.  My dad has been my rock my whole life, and I have depended on him so much more without my mom around.  Not having my mom has been the most difficult part of my life, and it's actually been a sore part of this pregnancy, because I don't WANT to do it without her.

So now my Dad has cancer?  REALLY? 

elynds

I am so, so sorry.

Traycee1242

I'm so, so sorry. T&P for your Dad and lots of strength to fight this. I'm so sorry about your Mom. So unfair. Hugs to you.

sunflower8710

My heart, t&p go out to you.

LovingSeptember

I am so incredibly sorry.  Friends of ours little girl is undergoing chemo right now at age four, and it is just heartbreaking.  Life seems so unfair sometimes.  I am so sorry you are dealing with this, on top of experiencing your pregnancy without your mom.  Sending lots of thoughts and prayers your way.

moxie9

I am so sorry--that is horrible. I wish the best for you, your father, and your family.

shanna82

I am so sorry you and your family are going through this.  My T&Ps are with you and your dad.  ((hugs))

justrachet

You have every right to throw a tantrum. So sorry.

soon2Bkranz

Wow I am so sorry thats awful.

lindselizbeth31

I'm so sorry.  Thoughts and Prayers are with you! *HUGS*

corinneandalex's1st

I am really really sorry! I know how having your Mom be your everything is, as mine is to me, I can not imagine!

My Dad however was diagnosed with stage 3 Colon cancer 3 years ago and he had to have a very large part of his intestinse taken out and now has a bag for the rest of his life, he has been cancer free ever since. Stay positive especially for your Dad. My T&P go to you and your family during such a hard time.

lovelyophelia

My heart breaks for you. I lost my dad to liver cancer at 19. I could not imagine losing my mom too. I am so sorry.

iluv2pekes

I am so very sorry((HUGS))

jupiterthecat

Oh, I am so, so sorry. Cancer is so horrible, so unfair. 

buddy83

I am so very sorry that your dad has cancer. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. I'm not too familiar with the Gleason score, so I looked it up online. I was glad to see that your dad is considered to be in the lower prostate grade and slower in growth, but it all still sucks. Please know that you and your dad are in my thoughts and prayers.

TinaL99

I am so sorry you are dealing with this.  My Dad was diagnosed last year when I was pregnant with DD.  He had successful surgery in April and has been cancer free every since.  You will be in my thoughts as you go through this.  Take care of yourself.

swankol

I am sorry you are going through this right now, especially since it's without your mom. I just can't imagine.  I am an oncologist and I was hoping to make you feel a bit better about your dad's diagnosis. For the most part, most men will get prostate cancer if they live long enough. In your dad's case, it sounds like he has low risk prostate cancer (based on GS 6). What is his PSA level? If it's less than 10, his chance of being cured of his prostate cancer is >90% with either surgery or RT. GS 6 means even if he isn't cured, he probably won't ever be bothered by his prostate cancer. In fact, if his PSA is low he doesn't really need scans to look for spread since the risk is so low.

I hope this helps. Any cancer sucks, but if you HAVE to have cancer, this is the one to have. 

njmommaterp

I am so very sorry. T & Ps are with your Dad, you and your family.

Jo&Matt6609

I am so sorry. You, your dad and your family are in my thoughts. 

Codi-Bailey

I'm really sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

4/29/06Bride

swankol:

I am sorry you are going through this right now, especially since it's without your mom. I just can't imagine.  I am an oncologist and I was hoping to make you feel a bit better about your dad's diagnosis. For the most part, most men will get prostate cancer if they live long enough. In your dad's case, it sounds like he has low risk prostate cancer (based on GS 6). What is his PSA level? If it's less than 10, his chance of being cured of his prostate cancer is >90% with either surgery or RT. GS 6 means even if he isn't cured, he probably won't ever be bothered by his prostate cancer. In fact, if his PSA is low he doesn't really need scans to look for spread since the risk is so low.

I hope this helps. Any cancer sucks, but if you HAVE to have cancer, this is the one to have. 

Thank you everyone for your kind words and your notes of encouragement.  I was in a pretty dark place last night -- kinda stunned.  This morning, I had a good cry when I woke up, and I'm just trying to stay positive.

Thanks Swankol for your reply.  I had looked up the Gleason score and knew it was a better number than it could have been and my dad says his urologist is very positive about his chances.  I did not know that prostate cancer is so prevalent, so I guess that is good news?  He's going on Friday for a bone scan, ctscan and chest xray to look for spreading.  He's 66 yrs old, and his father passed away from cancer at 71, so I'm just nervous. 

But thank you everyone!

scoleman166

I am so sorry and I hate how unfair life is at times. So many prayers for you and your family. 

bryanandkatrina

I am so sorry ((((hugs))))

lmjt

I am so sorry. That's awful news. Having gone through this with my mom a few years ago, all I can say is no matter how hard it is to be positive, do it in front of him. Make him smile and laugh. Your attitude is what gets you through it. My mom has been cancer free for more than 2 years now. She never let it get her down. She watched funny movies and had company to entertain her, no matter how sick she felt. 

Best wishes to your family. 

veronicafvr

I am so sorry. I wish there was something I could say to help. Cancer has impacted my family big time and it is very scary. Thoughts and prayers to you, your dad, and your family. Big hugs.

HNLchick

Fingers crossed for good test results, and sending lots of hugs and thoughts your way!!!

camdenfaithful

((((HUGS))))

I'm really sorry.  I don't really know a whole lot about cancer, but I'm sending lots of good vibes your way.

Joshtree23

It does suck. I'm sorry you have to deal with this at this time. I'm doing this without my mom, too, and it's tough. I'll be thinking good thoughts for your dad!

JDMC1112

I am so so so sorry that you have to deal with this. I lost my Mom in September to Lung Cancer after only a 4 month battle. I cannot imagine what this is doing to you. Please know I will be thinking of you and praying for you and your Dad! Keep your head up.

BluBerryMuffin

I am so sorry. Your family is in my prayers.

PurplePanda83

I'm so sorry sweetie. I will definately be sending T&P for your dad. Cancer most definately does suck. ((HUGS))

SPC2007

SO sorry! My thoughts and prayers are with you.

ChrissyLonghorn

I'm so so sorry.  Sending lots of prayers to your father and family!

ShawMich

I am so sorry.  I will say a prayer for you and your dad.  I hope he gets through this.

Mereou12

I am so sorry. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

ktrozier

I am so sorry and I wholeheartedly agree...CANCER DOES EFFING SUCK!! Thoughts and prayers to you and your dad...

msmarsh

My heart goes out to you and to your family. I will keep your dad in my prayers!

elleren

it does.  it really f'ing does.  i am so sorry to hear about your mom - my dad passed away from pancreatic cancer about 16 months ago as well.  your dad will beat this, i can feel it!!