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scared to call RE

I think I just need some reassuance.

I've got the number for the RE I want to use. I've had it since lunchtime. Today is CD1 of Cycle 19. And yet I'm terrified to call.

I've been looking at their website all day and it is filled with all the fancy, advanced stuff they do. I think I'm afriad they are going to tell me to call back when I find something wrong.

Somebody tell me I'm nuts and thinking too much--I'm nearly in tears thinking at the thought of making the call.

And feel free to make fun of me for being a baby--I'm blaming it on hormones!

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Re: scared to call RE

  • Making the call is the hardest part.  It is the RE's business to figure out why you are having trouble.  It is definitely not up to you to figure it out.

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    IVF #5:  MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN

    IVF #6:  (New RE):  Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN

    FET#1:  BFN

  • image STL34:
    Making the call is the hardest part.  It is the RE's business to figure out why you are having trouble.  It is definitely not up to you to figure it out.

    Yep all this.  I felt like a load of bricks had been lifted from shoulders after my first appointment but I was so scared to call.

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  • Awww. . .hun, I'm sorry you are having a rough time. It is understandable. ((((((hugs))))))
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  • It took me months to make the call, but one day I just did it. I didn't think anything was *wrong* despite the fact that we had been diligently trying on our own for a year and a half, and we still haven't found anything wrong. But I finally recognized we probably needed some help, and it's been such a relief to finally start getting some answers. You will be so glad you took the next step, trust me! And the phone call wasn't nearly as scary as I expected it to be. :)

     Good luck!

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  • I didn't think I deserved to go to see an RE, does that make sense? I was so worried they would say there was no reason for me to be there. Boy was I wrong! I felt so great leaving the Office after that first visit! It was great to have a plan! Good Luck! Make that call =)
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    Sep 2011- Follistim+B2B IUI+progesterone=BFP!!!!
    Beta #1, 9/28=40 Beta #2=32 Beta#3=4=C/P
    Oct 2011= Follistim+Ovidrel+progesterone+IUI#5=BFP!!!
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    image STL34:
    Making the call is the hardest part.  It is the RE's business to figure out why you are having trouble.  It is definitely not up to you to figure it out.

    Yep all this.  I felt like a load of bricks had been lifted from shoulders after my first appointment but I was so scared to call.

    I agree with all of this. It's the hardest call to make but you will feel so much better after you make the call. Good luck hon!

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    8/2010 First RE Appointment
    11/2010 Second Opinion RE Appointment
    12/2010 Clomid + IUI #1 = BFN
    1/2011 Clomid + IUI #2 = BFN
    2/2011 Clomid + IUI #3 = BFN
    5/2011 IVF #1, ET 6/2, Beta 6/15 = BFN
    8/2011 FET ET 9/12 = BFN :0(
    On a break to save money.
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    I didn't think I deserved to go to see an RE, does that make sense? I was so worried they would say there was no reason for me to be there. Boy was I wrong! I felt so great leaving the Office after that first visit! It was great to have a plan! Good Luck! Make that call =)

    This is EXACTLY what I was trying to express but couldn't find the words!

    I think I was feeling too hormonal yesterday and needed some reassurance. I've been putting this off and it is time. What are my other options? Continue to torture myself month after month or quit completely? Neither of those work for me.

    And what's crazy is DH is finally ready to move forward and here I am sitting on the number and not making the call. But, I will today.

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    image mrsharris15:
    I didn't think I deserved to go to see an RE, does that make sense? I was so worried they would say there was no reason for me to be there. Boy was I wrong! I felt so great leaving the Office after that first visit! It was great to have a plan! Good Luck! Make that call =)

    This is EXACTLY what I was trying to express but couldn't find the words!

    I think I was feeling too hormonal yesterday and needed some reassurance. I've been putting this off and it is time. What are my other options? Continue to torture myself month after month or quit completely? Neither of those work for me.

    And what's crazy is DH is finally ready to move forward and here I am sitting on the number and not making the call. But, I will today.

    You'll feel so much better once you make the call- I promise!  If I remember correctly, you are from the DFW area.  If you are closer to the FW side, I can definitely recommend my RE, though it sounds like you've found someone you think you'll trust already.

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    I called, then cancelled.  Then called again, then changed my appt 3 times.  I keep being convinced I'll get PG before I need to go.  If I go, that means I have to accept the reality and I.don't.want.to.  (Pouts)

    I know it's so hard to be in this place, but think of how good it will feel to have a plan, and then, a success!!!  Wishing you the best from your fellow scared-to-call Bumpie... 

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  • Just wanted to give you some hugs and say you can do it!

    also, I am going to Dr. Le tomorrow, I know there are a few DFW girls here so I will post a review

    Good luck love!!!

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  • It is a tough call, but it was such a huge relief after my first appt.  Good luck!

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  • You are NOT nuts. I broke down in tears the first time I went to call the RE. I held off b/c I just didn't feel like I was in a good place about it. Its hard to basically admit defeat that getting pg on your own is ever going to happen.

     It took me about 2 weeks to feel in a good place to call them and now I'm very glad I waited. I mean what's a 2 week wait in the scheme of things when I've been trying almost 2 years?!?

    Don't force yourself to call them...give yourself some time to mourn the fact that you have to have intervention in the first place and I promise you, you'll come to a point where you want to make that appointment. 

    Good luck!

     

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    **TTC since 04/09, C/P 02/02/10; 4 weeks, 3 days**
    **Dx: Anovulation, Hypothryroidism, Mild Endo, Pituitary Adenoma (prolactin issues), PAI-1, MFI **

    **7/10: Clomid + TI= BFN**
    **3/2/11: 1st RE appointment**
    **DH= Morph= 2%, Motility= 30%**
    **HSG= All clear!!**
    **3/11: Femara + Pregnyl + TI= BFN**
    **5/17/11: Laparoscopy / hysteroscopy = mild endo**
    **7/11: Novarel + IUI #1= BFN (7mil, 75% motility, 2% morph)**
    **8/11: Femara + Novarel + IUI #2= BFN (11mil, 35% motility, 1% morph)**
    **11/11: Femara + Novarel + IUI #3= BFN (9mil, 2% morph)**
    **Jan 2012: Follistim (75ius) + IUI #4= CANCELLED due to cyst -put on bcp**
    **Feb 2012: Follistim (75ius) + Novarel + IUI #4.2= BFFN (2.5mil, 13% motility, 1% morph)**
    **Mar 2012: Follistim (100ius) + IUI #5= CANCELLED due to 35mm & 14mm cysts**
    **On med break indefinitely...IF Sucks!**

    **Jan 2013: Follistim (100ius) + IUI #5.2= CANCELLED due to high prolactin level, MRI scheduled, pituitary adenoma found, put on Dostinex**
    **Mar 2013: Follistim (100ius) + IUI #5.3= CANCELLED due to uterine polyp, surgery scheduled for polypectomy and D&C**
    **03/22/13: Hysteroscopy, polypectomy and D&C**
    **May 2013: Finally got to start a cycle!!! Follistim (100ius) + IUI #5.4 = BFFN (6mil, 74% motility, 2% morph)** 

    **Jun 2013: Decide to start IVF**
    IVF w/ICSI #1 (Long Lupron Protocol)
    06/26/13: Start BCPs
    07/02/13: HSG #2= all clear
    07/15/13: Start Lupron 10 ius
    07/25/13: Suppression check
    07/28/13: Start stims (225IUs Follistim + 75IUs Menopur) drop to 5 IUs Lupron
    08/01/13: Monitoring: 12 follicles all about 10mm, E2- 313
    08/04/13: Monitoring: 18 follicles (15mm, 13mm, a few 11mm, rest 10mm or below) E2- 1,505
    Start Augmentin- antibiotic prep
    08/06/13: Monitoring: 13 follicles (18mm, 17mm, rest b/w 15mm-16mm!) Ready to trigger!! E2- 2,248
    08/08/13: ER-- 14R, 13M, 10F 
    08/11/13: One fertilized late, we now have 11 embryos!
    08/13/13: 5dt-- 2 blasts (Sheldon and Penny) 3AA and 3BB, none to freeze
    8/23/13: BFFN... Sheldon and Penny didn't stick**

    **8/29/13: Follow up... bad fragmentation issues. Changing protocol to Antagonist for round #2 coming soon! Also started on 81mg Aspirin after getting blood panel done and found out I have PAI-1**

    **Oct 2013: After large cysts, finally starting IVF #2**
    IVF w/ICSI #2 (Antagonist Protocol)
    BCPs started back in Sept due to cysts
    10/27/13: Start stims (225 IUs Gonal-F + 75 IUs Menopur)
    11/03/13 - 11/05/13: Add Ganirelix to the mix
    11/06/13: 3 follicles at 18mm-- Ready to trigger!
    11/08/13: ER-- 17R, 13M, 8F
    11/13/13: 5dt-- 2 blasts (Luke and Leia) 5AB and 4AB, 1 frostie
    11/20/13- 11/23/13: light positives on FRERs and Wondofos
    11/22/13: BFN per RE office (under HCG of 10)
    11/27/13: CP ::sigh::

    *12/03/13: Follow up...great response and quality this time, was given 50% chance of it working, just didn't stick. Great plan for 2014! 

    **Jan 2014: Last IVF of our SRP**
    IVF w/ICSI, freeze all, then FET
    12/27/13: Start BCPs
    01/19/14: Stims (375 IUs Gonal-F + 75 IUs Menopur)

    Congratulations Cutebride!! --TWINS!! Congratulations, Luvie, on your sweet boy! Congrats, Jess! So happy for you ladies! <3 <3  
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