Double Shower?

homediva

My BFF and I are pregnant at the same time. We share a circle of friends, for the most part, but I have a few other friends that she is not close to, and vice versa. Neither of our families live near us so our showers will be mainly friends. We are due 6 weeks apart (she's in Oct, I'm in Aug). We were thinking that she would host my shower in early July then I would host hers in early August (it gets complicated with impending due dates!). Since many of our guests would be the same, we were thinking that one option would be to have a double shower...Any opinions on the pros and cons of this? 

Etiquette wise, do you think it would be in poor taste for us to throw a joint shower together? We would never host/plan a shower for ourselves but since we planned to plan each others, combining them suddenly seems like we are throwing our own and we don't want it to come off that way. We are thinking it would be a good way to save money and also it would make it so our guests only have to attend one shower, rather than two so close together. 

Also, if you were invited to a double shower, would you feel awkward? If you were better friends with one girl than the other, would you end up getting them the same thing or would you get a small token gift for the person you're not as close to?

It's starting to seem just as complicated to do a double shower as it is to do separate showers, LOL! 

crystal959

I think it sounds like a great idea. If anyone questions it simply say what you said above. She was going to plan yours and you hers so you thought to combine the two!

crystal959

And I would get them each a gift. Its still two babies. Even my friend who had twins I brought a gift for each of the babies.

SarahPLiz

I think it would be in poor taste to throw a joint shower together, listing yourselves as the hosts. If you have the same set of friends, perhaps they''ll offer to do that for you.

My friends from bootcamp have offered to throw a joint shower for another camper and I. We aren't besties, but we work out together a few times a week and have for over a year, so its not weird for us. We both accepted the shower. I know we will register for different stuff, so I'm hoping they ask us what we want and we decide to have a book shower. I will be having a work one and one at home thrown by my mom, so we'll probably get all the other stuff we can stand at those. I know, i'm speculating. My point is I don't think joint showers are weird at all.  

SethandMelissa

I think it's okay if all your friends are shared, but I wouldn't want to buy a gift for a girl I didn't know. Especially if money's tight.

MissLMS

SarahPLiz:

I think it would be in poor taste to throw a joint shower together, listing yourselves as the hosts. If you have the same set of friends, perhaps they''ll offer to do that for you.

Galaxy8227

SethandMelissa:

I think it's okay if all your friends are shared, but I wouldn't want to buy a gift for a girl I didn't know. Especially if money's tight.

I would feel weird going to a double shower if I didn't know both ladies--and I wouldn't want to buy a gift for someone I don't know, but I also wouldn't want to look like the girl who showed up without a gift--if you had all the same friends it would be different

homediva

Thanks Ladies, I am already starting to feel like it will be easier for us to just throw each other's!! I'm just scared I'll go into labour before I have hers, so I better find a co-host! 

MrsGo4Hockeychick

SarahPLiz:

I think it would be in poor taste to throw a joint shower together, listing yourselves as the hosts. If you have the same set of friends, perhaps they''ll offer to do that for you.

My friends from bootcamp have offered to throw a joint shower for another camper and I. We aren't besties, but we work out together a few times a week and have for over a year, so its not weird for us. We both accepted the shower. I know we will register for different stuff, so I'm hoping they ask us what we want and we decide to have a book shower. I will be having a work one and one at home thrown by my mom, so we'll probably get all the other stuff we can stand at those. I know, i'm speculating. My point is I don't think joint showers are weird at all.  

this. If someone else hosts it for the two of you jointly, and the only people invited know both guests of honor, it's fine. But for the guests of honor to be the hosts, no.  

crystal959

SethandMelissa:

I think it's okay if all your friends are shared, but I wouldn't want to buy a gift for a girl I didn't know. Especially if money's tight.

I didn't think of that, I agree if I was only attending for one of the women I wouldn't want to bring a gift for the woman I didn't know...

jntaylor11

I don't think id like a double shower, it might be easier for ppl who don't have a lot of extra money if your showers were different months...

cozylittlecave

A joint shower is fine imho- but ONLY if someone else is throwing it.

I know you'd host each other's anyway,  but I think it'd be very inappropriate if you two threw your own shower together. Even though it logically makes sense, the the invite will basically state that you two are the hosts for your own shower... which is very, very tacky. Better to air on the side of caution. Plus, it might be awkward for those guests who don't know both of you- if I were them, I'd get something small for the girl I didn't know, but I'd still feel awkward.

Plus, even if you're BFFs, it's probably kinda nice to have a shower all for you rather than splitting the attention. And I agree the double shower gets just as complicated. I'd swallow the 'extra planning & money' and just do separate showers.

MrsCase1

i wouldnt want to attend a double shower because i wouldnt want to feel obligated to buy a gift for the other person if i didnt know them, etc. 

also, and this is selfish, i admit, but i think if it is your first baby you should enjoy the glory and the attention of your special day without having to share the spotlight.  

amdraza

cozylittlecave:

A joint shower is fine imho- but ONLY if someone else is throwing it.

I know you'd host each other's anyway,  but I think it'd be very inappropriate if you two threw your own shower together. Even though it logically makes sense, the the invite will basically state that you two are the hosts for your own shower... which is very, very tacky. Better to air on the side of caution. Plus, it might be awkward for those guests who don't know both of you- if I were them, I'd get something small for the girl I didn't know, but I'd still feel awkward.

Plus, even if you're BFFs, it's probably kinda nice to have a shower all for you rather than splitting the attention. And I agree the double shower gets just as complicated. I'd swallow the 'extra planning & money' and just do separate showers.

I agree with this!

SoBlessed2011

Stick to having individuals Showers.  It's less complicated.  This is a very special time for each of you. Enjoy the individual attention.