What rude/off the wall comments have you gotten lately?

DestinedtobeDomestic

So far, I've been really lucky. Most everyone I've talked to is full of grace when talking to me about my pregnancy. But this weekend it just seems like everyone forgot to think before opening their mouths!

I'd love to hear everyone else's funny/rude comments they've heard lately!

1. I ran into my uncle who I'm not very close with yesterday. Who told me I'm having a girl because my face is breaking out (really? I thought my face was finally clearing up now that I'm pregnant) and also asked if we were trying...even after he asked my husband the same question a few day prior. Yes, we were...for 6 months actually. Yes we wanted this baby, no it wasn't a "mistake". THANKS.

2. DH and I went to look at cribs at a locally owned baby store, I figured it'd be nice to support a local business if possible. Well, as soon as we walked in we were looked up and down, as if we were teenagers (I'm 23, DH is 24). My poor DH wanted to punch them all in their faces and tell them "Yes she's pregnant, yes we were trying, yes we're married, yes we own a home, and yes we make enough money to support a child." Needless to say, I don't think we'll be shopping there.

3. Just got a voicemail from DH's grandma...she told said, "Someone told me they saw a picture of you on facebook and you have a bump in your belly...do you have a tumor!? hehehehe! bye." NIIIICE.

Of course I take everything with a grain of salt, and let it all roll off my shoulders. I'm not going to let anyone put a damper on my happiness I just find it interesting how many people forget their censor!

jenmarshall88

I've been hearing some snide comments from family. They weren't pleased in the beginning(and I guess still not) about me getting pregnant. I'm not married, though we've been together for over 2 years, live together, love each other very much and are engaged. And I'm young and in college still.

Earlier today I was talking to my grandmother and telling her how my parents have bought my brother condoms since he's expressed interest in having sex(we're a VERY open family if you can't tell haha) and she responded with "I wish they had gotten your fiance one, then we wouldn't be in this situation."

Yesterday I was telling my dad(stupidly I should have thought before speaking) that I hated being pregnant because of how much I've been aching and he responded with "Ohhh soooo do I Jenny, believe me. I do so much."

I just try and ignore it and let it roll off my back but sometimes it drives me CRAZY! 

babybchbum

I'm mainly getting them about not eating. I want to just tell people "You don't see me when I am hungry and am feeding my face. I eat 3 meals and min 2 snacks a day the baby and I are just fine"

nikkiandchris

One of the secretaries at my school said "I was wondering, are you just getting chunky or are you pregnant?" REALLY? That's how you ask? It's pretty brazen to ask in the first place, but calling a pregnant woman "chunky" is truly daring.

jbj 7497

I loved it when a family member told me I should go natural because with the size of my hips I should have no trouble pushing a baby out. umm thanks.

DestinedtobeDomestic

jenmarshall88:

I've been hearing some snide comments from family. They weren't pleased in the beginning(and I guess still not) about me getting pregnant. I'm not married, though we've been together for over 2 years, live together, love each other very much and are engaged. And I'm young and in college still.

Earlier today I was talking to my grandmother and telling her how my parents have bought my brother condoms since he's expressed interest in having sex(we're a VERY open family if you can't tell haha) and she responded with "I wish they had gotten your fiance one, then we wouldn't be in this situation."

Yesterday I was telling my dad(stupidly I should have thought before speaking) that I hated being pregnant because of how much I've been aching and he responded with "Ohhh soooo do I Jenny, believe me. I do so much."

I just try and ignore it and let it roll off my back but sometimes it drives me CRAZY! 

Oh my goodness...I'm so sorry your family is treating you this way. I understand it may not be how the envisioned your life going...but a baby is blessing! I'm sure they'll come around.  

brockli

Not so much a comment but an action.  Last night we went out for a bit for DH good friends birthday.  Upon arriving it was clear he had already had far too much to drink.  But whatever.  So he starts rubbing my belly, again he was drunk and it was his birthday so I just sort of stood there to "grin and bear it" then out of no where he grabs my boob making a comment about how they were growing too! I almost died! I considered flipping out but it would have been nothing but trouble, DH and I were the only sober ones.  And he meant it all in good fun but WOW! We went home shortly after that.  DH couldn't apologize enough.

emailneely

Now that I am reading these, I realize I have had a couple of people at work (my direct supervisor included) ask me if it was planned. Um, what a weird question. Now I am kind of annoyed.

I am so sorry to all of you who having hard family times - this should be a good time for everyone right now.

Brilanea

One of my co-worker's wives came to the office last week & soon as she saw me she WHISPERED "I heard your news...were you trying? Are you happy?" 

I starred at her in disbelief for seriously a good minute before saying "umm yeah..."

and then she just walked off w/out saying anything else!

UGH! FYI-we've been married for 7.5 yrs & TTC for almost 3 yrs.

 

My biological mother also gave an awesome response when I called her to tell her I was pregnant, she couldn't have cared less.

She kept interrupting me to talk about her new boyfriend that she had a great day running around town w/ & detailed all the stuff they did. No questions about how I was feeling or how far along I was. Whenever she would stop talking to breathe I would interrupt her to tell her how I had bad nausea & was really tired and eventually got out how far along I was. Although she would continue talking about her new man...she hasn't even called or emailed me since to check on me.

It's childish but I'm refusing to call or email her w/ any updates until she calls/emails asking for an update...it's been over a month  

*vent over* 

Zach&Kelly

I've mainly been getting unwelcomed advice...

1) My mom thinks that I shouldn't pick up anything heavier than a fork...

2) DH's mom is constantly getting on to me bc I'm continuing to walk on a treadmill

3) DH's ENTIRE family has repeatedly told me that there's no way I can allow my child to sleep in a crib from day 1. We need to start with the baby in our bed.

4) My father (whom I would never trust with my baby) thinks I'm terrible bc I'm not on board with giving my child alcohol as a toddler!!!!!  He honestly believes that you should start giving them some (not enough to get them drunk) as early as possible so that when the child is older he/she won't be so inclined to party since the lure of it has already worn off!!

laurenbncha#

All I've gotten is "wow! you sure do eat a lot now".

Tame, but still annoying.

stellahav

Someone saw my lack of bump the other day and said, "are you SURE you're pregnant?"  Only semi-rude because she knew about my 2 missed miscarriages, and I'm still relatively early.  I'm sure she realized how dumb it sounded after the conversation.

When I told my boss I was pregnant, he said, "you still want to have another one?" Again with knowledge of the m/c.  I know he doesn't realize that's even a little insensitive though. 

SethandMelissa

I've gotten some awesome comments asking me how I feel about the insane quantity of stretch marks or "twin skin" I'll have. Thanks....

Oddly, the other thing that drives me nuts is the people who say I'm not big enough or haven't put on enough weight for twins. You can't win!

msm1379

When we told one of DH's very close friends that we were expecting, she waited until DH was out of the room then asked me "if we meant for it to happen" SERIOUSLY!!! This person has never been nice to me, so I guess I shouldn't expect it now, but how about a little tact maybe!

It's a shame because her & her husband have been very close with DH for much longer than I have known him. I've tried to be nice to her, but at this point I will be avoiding that couple at all costs.

Another "good" one: My SIL told me that her & DH's parents were talking about the baby (due in august), and the subject of spanking/discipline came up. They asked her if she thought I would be ok with them spanking the child for discipline. Mind you, they live in TX, we live in PA....should grandparents that will see the baby so infrequently be concerned about THEM disciplining OUR child??? How about just being glad to see the baby when you can...leave the discipline up to the parents!

crystal959

The only kinda weird comment I got was from the ultrasound tech at my 8 wk dating ultrasound. She asked me if this pregnancy was planned. Yes, but why does that matter while you're doing an ultrasound?

mairanellis

msm1379:

When we told one of DH's very close friends that we were expecting, she waited until DH was out of the room then asked me "if we meant for it to happen" SERIOUSLY!!! This person has never been nice to me, so I guess I shouldn't expect it now, but how about a little tact maybe!

It's a shame because her & her husband have been very close with DH for much longer than I have known him. I've tried to be nice to her, but at this point I will be avoiding that couple at all costs.

Another "good" one: My SIL told me that her & DH's parents were talking about the baby (due in august), and the subject of spanking/discipline came up. They asked her if she thought I would be ok with them spanking the child for discipline. Mind you, they live in TX, we live in PA....should grandparents that will see the baby so infrequently be concerned about THEM disciplining OUR child??? How about just being glad to see the baby when you can...leave the discipline up to the parents!

Wow. 

mairanellis

My 61 year-old male coworker asked "How did THAT happen?!" when I told him I was pregnant.  I didn't even know what to say to that.

crystal959

msm1379:

When we told one of DH's very close friends that we were expecting, she waited until DH was out of the room then asked me "if we meant for it to happen" SERIOUSLY!!! This person has never been nice to me, so I guess I shouldn't expect it now, but how about a little tact maybe!

It's a shame because her & her husband have been very close with DH for much longer than I have known him. I've tried to be nice to her, but at this point I will be avoiding that couple at all costs.

Another "good" one: My SIL told me that her & DH's parents were talking about the baby (due in august), and the subject of spanking/discipline came up. They asked her if she thought I would be ok with them spanking the child for discipline. Mind you, they live in TX, we live in PA....should grandparents that will see the baby so infrequently be concerned about THEM disciplining OUR child??? How about just being glad to see the baby when you can...leave the discipline up to the parents!

shakes head. Just... no. 

samanthahollman

I told my mom yesterday that I was already wearing maternity pants and she said 

"oh, so you're getting fat already, huh?" 

umm, thanks MOM! 

Karma01

a male co-worker said "Congrats! How much weight have you gained?"

we had dinner with friends last week and our friends fiance who was very drunk said "So do you know what that thing is yet?" pointing to my belly.

crystal959

Karma01:

a male co-worker said "Congrats! How much weight have you gained?"

we had dinner with friends last week and our friends fiance who was very drunk said "So do what that thing is yet?" pointing to my belly.

Haha its hilarious what people will ask. when I was pregnant with DD, DH and I were dancing at a wedding and a couple (I worked with the woman, she had just had a baby) danced along side of us and her husband asked me "So are you going to get an epidural?" His wife just whacked his shoulder and I laughed and said maybe.

dreabae

Its probably expected for me to get rude comments since Im young and still in college but it is just as annoying. Yes Ill admit my pregnancy wasn't planned but I am perfectly happy that it has happened. Well since im in college and my school is more like a tech school so it is very one on one and I had to tell my advisor and all my teachers so they would know why I missed class. Most of them had said "Congrats....If your happy about it." Of course Im happy about it!

jessicaclare

I'm really tired of getting the "Oh, was it planned?" question. No, it wasn't, thankyouverymuch. Does it really matter? Is it really anyone else's business? I can't imagine asking anyone that.

I also have gotten some comments on how big my bump is. As in, too big for being due in August. Its my third kid in 4.5 years, for crying out loud. Those stomach muscles remember. 

brockli

Karma01:

a male co-worker said "Congrats! How much weight have you gained?"

we had dinner with friends last week and our friends fiance who was very drunk said "So do you know what that thing is yet?" pointing to my belly.

Haha! That's funny! I work with a guy who is young and foreign and notorious for just saying random things.  The other day he gestured at my stomach and said "So is that a chick or a dude in there?" 

DarrenAndMelissa

We are a little ahead of our friends - many of them are just now getting married. So our friends seem to always ask if we planned on having a second child. It only took us 2 months, but yes, this little one was definitely planned!

Other than that, people have really been okay. I put on a TON of weight with DD so I'm not getting any flack for that this time around (I've only gained 6 pounds so far - at this point with DD I was up between 15 and 20!).

kjuryfl

I frequently get the 'you don't even look pregnant' comments.. honestly i've gained like 12lbs and it's still 20* degrees out so i'm not exactly wearing revealing clothing..

While trying on dresses at Kohl's I asked the fitting room attendant for her opinion and told her I was pregnant and wanted to show off my little bump.. she replied in all seriousness 'are you 17?'..

Most annoying one yet (from my MIL).. 'Wow, I cannot believe that you actually know not to eat XYZ or do XYZ'.. Thanks mom, I didn't jump into this blind.. but thanks for making it obvious that you think I don't know what i'm doing..

mdotm0904

I don't think they meant it to be rude, but it was still pretty annoying. I lost close to 60lbs pre-pregnancy. & my uncle's wife and her sister decided to remind me that "wow, you lost all that weight, only to end up pregnant. hopefully you don't gain it all back".

yes ladies, thank you, because i really needed you to remind me of my struggles with weight both pre and during pregnancy. 

brandy4nicole

nikkiandchris:

One of the secretaries at my school said "I was wondering, are you just getting chunky or are you pregnant?" REALLY? That's how you ask? It's pretty brazen to ask in the first place, but calling a pregnant woman "chunky" is truly daring.

I got this, too, at school from a teacher's aide.  I had to laugh, though, because it was a pretty gutsy move on her part-what if I wasn't pregnant?  So, I was thinking it would be pretty funny throughout the pregnancy to act offended, and say "What?  You think I look fat?" when people ask about it!  Especially amusing at say, 6 months along!   

DestinedtobeDomestic

cadegani:

Haha its hilarious what people will ask. when I was pregnant with DD, DH and I were dancing at a wedding and a couple (I worked with the woman, she had just had a baby) danced along side of us and her husband asked me "So are you going to get an epidural?" His wife just whacked his shoulder and I laughed and said maybe.

I literally LOL'ed at this one. Men! hah! 

Brilanea

Oh I forgot about this one...

DH texted one of his friends that I was pregnant. Hours later I was messing with DH's phone & the friend texted back "geez, did it break on you? Sorry dude."

OMG! I threw the phone at DH & he swears his friend meant it as a joke and not for me to see, but still...MEN!

Breezy1979

When I saw my FIL after not seeing him for about a month, he jokingly said, "You're really packing on the pounds, huh?" I responded by telling him that no, I have only gained two pounds so far. Then he got all freaked out by my lack of weight gain and kept trying to stuff food down my face when we went out to dinner later in the evening. He kept telling me that I am eating for two now, lol.

WillisWife

I haven't had too many rude comments, but I have told my coworkers from day one that I didn't want to put on a lot of weight since i'm already over weight and have back problems. My one coworker consistenly tells me that I have no control of how much I gain, I'll gain what my body wants me to gain. She gained 60lbs with her kids and everything was fine. Well she is the size of a toothpick to begin with! Don't tell me what I can or can't gain for weight if you haven't had a baby in the last decade!

The only other mortifying experience i've had lately his having my DH's aunt rub my belly...especially since i'm not remotely showing yet...after i told her that i wasn't showering...she kept rubbing. I am NOT happy with her!

ckinnaley

I have also gotten a LOT of the "was this planned?" too and that just makes me mad because what does it matter if it was planned or not? How is it suddenly everyones business if you were trying to have a baby or not. I make people feel like crap and make sure I let them know we tried for over 7 months and were getting ready to use fertility drugs. Then they just look at me like idiots!

I haven't gotten too many other comments but I am very sick of people telling me "just wait till..." insert something that happened to them while pregnant, or insert their kids behaviors because they don't disipline their children! I just want to tell people that I am excited about raising kids, the good and the bad!! 

cozylittlecave

I only had one comment that really irked me. It was a while ago- right after we announced on facebook. A very casual old friend/acquaintance messaged me on facebook and said (knowing about my miscarriage) "So is this is a normal pregnancy this time?" What the heck? Totally inappropriate, and why on earth would we have just announced it if everything wasn't ok?? I know he was completely oblivious, but still!!

sapphirewolfkdv

Tonight at my inlaws, my FIL comes up to me and, noticing my bump, said "oh NOW you look like you've been eating!"

I realize that he was just trying to say that he noticed I was showing, so I'm not offended, just amused. Really? You point out my baby bump by implying that it's weight gain from eating? 

auntlucy2011

My grandmother is 95 and I feel like I should be extra gracious with her because she's the only one I have left and well, she's 95...BUT she's always been a bit rude and annoying to be around.  I remember when she pulled me aside at my bridal shower and said, "I hope you don't gain a lot of weight like your sister did when she got married."  She told me about another time when she told her cleaning lady, "You have such a pretty face.  It's too bad you're so heavy."  I actually called her out on that one.  I just saw her last weekend and she calls me over to her and asks, "Did they tell you how much weight you should gain?"  My stunned response was, "Just the typical 25 pounds."  I know she asked because before I got pregnant I had already gained a bunch of weight.  I feel like such a heel, because my sister's are so much better at being nice to her than I am.  It just makes me want to avoid her until after the baby's here (I live 6 hours away), but at 95, who knows how long she has left!

LJR 84

Some people are so ignorant! I can hardly believe the stuff they say. I haven't really gotten many comments yet. I'm at a new job and don't really interact with a lot of people on a daily basis, so that equals less comments. (yay!)

It was the total opposite at my last job. I got TONS of odd comments on a daily basis. That my face was getting fuller (it really never did), that I was "fat", etc. The fat comment came from a 70 yr old woman that really didn't mean it that way...but still! I was pissed at the time. Considering I gained 25-30ish pounds I was never fat, I was PREGNANT.

Auki13

I guess the comment I found most offensive was when I told a neighbor of mine that I'm pregnant with our third, she replied with "Congrats, I guess" Really?  You couldn't leave out the I guess?!

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha

mairanellis:

My 61 year-old male coworker asked "How did THAT happen?!" when I told him I was pregnant.  I didn't even know what to say to that.

That is hilarious! I really wonder how HE thinks it happened.

The worst I've got so far was from a coworker. After announcing I was pg, I got the usual congrats, when are you due, etc. Then she went "Yeah, you've been looking terrible lately, but it would have been rude to just say anything." Really? Like it's NOT rude to mention it now? How is that? And for the record, DD has been getting ear infections one after another for the past 4 months. So not ONE good of sleep in a looooong time. I wonder how SHE'd look after that.

Another comment that I found really unsettling came from my mom. When we announced we were pg with DD, her first words were "Was it planned?". Really mom? In her defense, she had no idea we were TTC (my brother and SIL were just TALKING about TTC and she would ask them about 20 times a day if the were pg yet, which is why we decided to keep our TTC on the quiet side) so the news came as a total surprise to her. But still. 

Other than that, I've got the "are you sure it's not twins" and other "huge" comments a lot, but truth is, I am showing A LOT, so I let those slide, unless they are really rude.

BK33

brockli:

Not so much a comment but an action.  Last night we went out for a bit for DH good friends birthday.  Upon arriving it was clear he had already had far too much to drink.  But whatever.  So he starts rubbing my belly, again he was drunk and it was his birthday so I just sort of stood there to "grin and bear it" then out of no where he grabs my boob making a comment about how they were growing too! I almost died! I considered flipping out but it would have been nothing but trouble, DH and I were the only sober ones.  And he meant it all in good fun but WOW! We went home shortly after that.  DH couldn't apologize enough.

I don't think that's good fun at all. I would have smacked the crap out of him even if it was his birthday.  I think my husband would have had a big problem with that as well.