Am I being...?

trinab4103

Ok so I am trying not to freak out but I sorta am. I leave tonight for a business trip and won't be back till Tuesday night.
DH and I agreed he was going to have his parents over and paint the nursery while I was gone. That way I wouldn't be exposed to the fumes.
Well... this morning I am really struggling with it. My MIL really upsets me and the idea of her here while i'm not really makes me nervous. (There is still a lot of hard feelings since the September wedding and just her behavior in general) PLUS I don't want to wait till Tuesday to see this room!!
I feel like I'm missing out on something so special and intimate.
Now having said that, we are in a temporary living situation. As soon as my condo sells we are buying a new house and will have another babys room that needs painted.

Am i being a hormonal brat? Should I just let it happen knowing its best for me not to be here and that I will have the "REAL" nursery to paint when that times comes. 

UGH I hate feeling like this. 

DH is willing to do whatever I want (bless his heart)
I just don't know what to do

SarahPLiz

Truthfully, I think this has more to do with your issues with your FMIL than anything to do with a baby or paint. Really, its just paint. Its not going to nurture your baby and your baby probably won't even notice. Most of today's fancy nursery decor is for the parents, not the kid. She's not invading your territory, she's helping with a home improvement that you already sanctioned. 

If you feel this strongly about it, don't paint the nursery at all. Unless there is something obscene on the walls, its really not necessary.  But you really need to deal with your issue with your FMIL sooner than later. 

BetsyDavis

You have a right to feel the way you do hun but if this won't be the babies official final room then I wouldn't let it get to me. Just take peace in that you won't have to worry about the fumes and that you really won't have to deal with MIL since you'll be gone. I say let him paint it you have the real room to paint and do later. With DD I was on bedrest so I couldn't leave and the paint made my already bad headache worse it sucked. 

poppy33

I think as long as your DH is there with MIL it's hard to justify her not being there without you there and may cause more hard feelings. If you really are nervous have DH tell her that you guys need to postpone due to blah blah blah. 

However, since you are selling your condo - why paint now? (besides wanting a cute baby room, which I completely get) but in a real estate market your condo is going to show better if the room isn't a pink/blue/yellow. some people may be looking for a ready to move in place and not want to deal with painting. Just the realistic view on selling/buying.  Now it they are doing a neutral color I would just let them do it. Painting sucks.

trinab4103

Thanks guys

To clarify we are living in another property of ours, the condo is vacant. 

My sister will be moving into this house once we vacate.

You are probably right, I think its more about my MIL being here than anything. 

If it was just him working on it, I could see myself not being as upset. 

Gosh, if i'm like this with paint, how am i going to handle her when the baby actually comes! YIKES! 

SarahPLiz

Unless its a really complicated paint treatment you are doing, I'd think he could do it himself without their help. Yes, it would be boring, but thrown on a radio or iPod and it actually goes pretty quickly. I painted my whole house by myself before I sold it and it wasn't so bad. 

hollywoodgutterrose

As difficult as it is to have to include MIL, remember this is her grandchild too and she's going to want to be a part of this special time. Let her have this moment with her son, especially if it's only temporary. You can still be the one to put the mobile above the crib and and hang any wall decorations. Consider it a blessing you won't have to deal with the backache later and you'll have an exciting new step towards your little one's arrival already done when you get back.