help us stop cosleeping. please?

brandonswife07

the only way DS will sleep is in our bed, in between us, curled up next to me, or on me.  this has to stop--it scares me because i'm at higher risk for seizures when i'm sleep-deprived, and i just want him in his own bed, be it the PNP or crib.

anyone have any tips?  his eyes pop open the minute i lay him down, and we use the miracle blanket but he actually seems to sleep better w/out it.

estherandgeoff2

We had a hard time the first few weeks as well. We had our DD in the PnP in our room. But every time it was time for bed she'd scream and be so over-tired that she wouldn't sleep. We would swaddle her and put her in our bed and hold her until she fell asleep and then we would move her to the PnP. Sometimes we had to do that a few times. Walking around with her and rocking her also put her to sleep. It was tough but she would usually only take about 30 minutes or so of that. Luckily this phase lasted only a few weeks and it became much easier to put her in the PnP. Just keep trying to put him in the PnP. Good luck!

milfy1

How about using an Arm's Reach Co-sleeper?  We got the mini model and love it.  You can feel safe knowing that he is right there, yet he will be "on his own" a bit more. 

KittenGator

Eh, I posted this a while ago too (minus the at risk for seizures) and the best response I got was to use the Happiest Baby on the Block steps to get your LO to sleep and to purchase a co-sleeper like Arm's Reach.?

FTR- DD still sleeps with us. Maybe it will work for you or someone will come along with better suggestions.?

DarceyLivesinFL

He's still so young, I'm not sure there's an easy answer.  Can you and DH sleep in shifts in a recliner or something so he can sleep on your chest?

brandonswife07

KittenGator:

Eh, I posted this a while ago too (minus the at risk for seizures) and the best response I got was to use the Happiest Baby on the Block steps to get your LO to sleep and to purchase a co-sleeper like Arm's Reach. 

FTR- DD still sleeps with us. Maybe it will work for you or someone will come along with better suggestions. 

 i think i have HBOTB memorized. :-  he just loves the closeness i guess, but who can blame him?  he's on my chest right now, and i know if i go lay him down he'll last maybe 5 min. 

crackerjackprinter

Even though he's very young a good bedtime routine may help relax him enough.  You could invest in an arms reach/snuggle nest so he's still close but not in danger if you have a seizure.  The other thing they say is to put them down drowsy so that they aren't shocked when they wake up in their crib.  You could try having him spend some awake time in his crib so he gets used to it.  HTH!

1MusicMaker

I probably won't be much help since DS has slept in his crib since the first night, but we have gone through some rough patches when we quit the swing cold-turkey for naps.  I have tried several things that have worked in the past:

• lay DS down in bed and try to sneak him over to the crib when he's asleep
• Try the same thing, but drowsy if DS can put himself to sleep
• Put the sleepsack in the dryer so it's slightly warm--don't ask me why, but it's worked!
• Set up a routine so he has a bath every night, then massage, so he knows what to expect

I just tried to be very consistent, and didn't put him back in the swing at. all.(or your bed, in this case).  I think this really helped.

 

 

Bhobbsdz

I would just keep trying to put your lo in the crib every night.  Maybe get your ds use to his crib by putting him in it during the day.  Do you have a baby crack machine?  Those seem very popular with the mothers on here.  I never co-slept, but had dd in a pnp in our room, but before I moved her, I would place her in her crib everyday for a few weeks to get her use to it. Then one night, I put her in there and she has slept in there every night since.  She is not swaddled, has not been since week one and we do not have a noise maker or music playing in her room.

There is a vibrator you can buy for a baby's crib.  You put the vibrator under the mattress.  I think it is made by First Years and they have them at Target, maybe this will help your ds by soothing him.  Worth a try, I think they are $20 or somewhere in that range.

SBMBride406

Maybe the issue is that all the room in the pnp/crib makes him feel insecure? Our DS sleeps in an Amby Bed (basically like a hammock) and it is very enclosed and rocks (side to side and back to front) if he moves, so its more like the womb. Sometimes I wake up and he is caressing the sides of it (very cute)...I think it helps him feel snuggled. I think BRU sells a less expensive version of it...

jamira

try holding him longer...I had the same poblem with my DS we would just hold him till he was in a deep sleep before we put him down. One time I put him down he and he started to wake up and I just rubbed his back and he went back to sleep.

sarahkelly

Swaddling should help him feel like he's being held so it's strange it doesn't work. Maybe try it again?

We heat up Sadie's bed before putting her in it so she's not feeling the shock of the cold matress when we transition her from our arms to the bed. We have a big water bottle that we put in there, under her blankets, for about 20 minutes before she gets put to sleep in there. It works well as she used to also wake up as soon as we layed her down.  

chrisnj0614

He slept with me the first week or so.  Then I started swaddling him and he moved into the PNP in our room easily.  I thought he didn't like to be swaddled either, but he does like it.  The other thing I did was tried to put him in the PNP during the day when he would nap so he would get used to it.  now he sleeps in the PNP at night or when I am upstairs.  No more cosleeping.

During the day he will fall asleep on me and wakes up the minute I put him down.  BUT if I put him in the swing he sleeps for a hour or 2.  have you tried the swing?  It is awesome. 

mabst196

We had the same issue and the only thing that got DD sleeping on her own was letting her sleep on her tummy. I'm not saying you should, but that is what worked for us. She won't sleep any other way, but sleeps great on her tummy.