D: "Is the doctor going to hurt me?"

howleyshell

How the HELL do parents with chronically ill children do this?

I have no idea how they do this kind of thing day in and day out.

My hat is more than off to all you Mammas who endure all kinds of testing and waiting.  Ours is nothing compared to what some of you have (and are) sweating out.

It's KILLING me to take him for another draw.  I can't lie to him.  It's gonna hurt to do the draw.  And I have to hold him down to boot.

 But it's just a tiny freaking blood draw with a butterfly to boot.

I can't imagine what it's like to take a child in for surgery, marrow aspirations, or procedures with balloons in bladders and rectums that you know are going to cause pain not just for that one procedure but for plenty of time afterwards.

Kids shouldn't go thru that kinda stuff and their parents hearts must break a little bit more each time they see them suffer.

I thought IF sucked.  I'm beginning to see clearly that ill children is a special kind of torture.  And IF + an ill child?  That's just plain cruel.

Huge hugs to all you Mammas going thru medical testing and waiting. 

Off my soap box. 

roaringrock

what is going on?!!!! is everything ok?

emmyloustu

I feel your pain, mama! It is hard and it does suck and it doesn't matter if it is a blood test or a nerve study, it breaks your heart to see your child in pain and anxious.

Eliza needs a simple blood test for peanut allergy, but with all the other appointments and testing she has right now, I cannot bear to take her for it right now. I just can't!

And yet I keep reminding myself, it could be so much worse. 

Thinking of you and your little man and hoping you get some answers very soon!

howleyshell

roaringrock:

what is going on?!!!! is everything ok?

Nothing big for us - just an abnormal blood panel trying to get to the bottom of why my kid looks like the walking dead and then a doc's office who told me it was abnormal with very little detail and no return calls for way too long.

Waiting + Dr. Google = stupid Shelley

He's fine - just need to do a repeat blood work today and maybe shots for the rest of his life.  Nothing life threatening but I spent almost 2 days fearing the big C or some serious autoimmune issues just because I'm a nut job like that.

I just told him we're going back to the doctor today and when he figured out which one he asked if she was going to hurt him.

Sucky question to have to answer.  I'm sure now it will take is 5 times as long to get out the door and a few battles over brushing teeth and getting dressed as he tries to avoid the pain of the draw.  Normal kid stuff.  Next time I won't tell him until we're in the car.

 

LCB34

This is why I am selfishly glad Kate cannot talk.  I know she knows what is coming (she starts screaming bloody murder the second we walk into the lab and is starting to recognize the check in desk) but hearing her voice her fear in words would absolutely kill me.

I am just praying we have answers before words develop.  If we don't, I am fearful that NO or HURT will be her first words.  I don't want her to have memories of this sh!t we are having to put her through.

 

howleyshell

LCB34:

This is why I am selfishly glad Kate cannot talk.  I know she knows what is coming (she starts screaming bloody murder the second we walk into the lab and is starting to recognize the check in desk) but hearing her voice her fear in words would absolutely kill me.

I am just praying we have answers before words develop.  If we don't, I am fearful that NO or HURT will be her first words.  I don't want her to have memories of this sh!t we are having to put her through.

 

Bawling.

Seriously.

I've been thinking about you guys and Kate since this whole thing started for us.

My heart hurts for your whole family.

I wish there was something I could do to help or expedite the answers coming for you guys.

You are so much stronger than I think I would be facing the same. 

roaringrock

howleyshell:

roaringrock:

what is going on?!!!! is everything ok?

Nothing big for us - just an abnormal blood panel trying to get to the bottom of why my kid looks like the walking dead and then a doc's office who told me it was abnormal with very little detail and no return calls for way too long.

Waiting + Dr. Google = stupid Shelley

He's fine - just need to do a repeat blood work today and maybe shots for the rest of his life.  Nothing life threatening but I spent almost 2 days fearing the big C or some serious autoimmune issues just because I'm a nut job like that.

I just told him we're going back to the doctor today and when he figured out which one he asked if she was going to hurt him.

Sucky question to have to answer.  I'm sure now it will take is 5 times as long to get out the door and a few battles over brushing teeth and getting dressed as he tries to avoid the pain of the draw.  Normal kid stuff.  Next time I won't tell him until we're in the car.

 

well, that's good news. waiting is always so crazy difficult. torture actually.

when ginny had her blood draw for lead poisoning she. was. HYSTERICAL! now any time a stranger approaches her (vaccine, taking her temperature, listening to her heart) she freaks. kids really don't forget.

LCB34

howleyshell:

LCB34:

This is why I am selfishly glad Kate cannot talk.  I know she knows what is coming (she starts screaming bloody murder the second we walk into the lab and is starting to recognize the check in desk) but hearing her voice her fear in words would absolutely kill me.

I am just praying we have answers before words develop.  If we don't, I am fearful that NO or HURT will be her first words.  I don't want her to have memories of this sh!t we are having to put her through.

 

Bawling.

Seriously.

I've been thinking about you guys and Kate since this whole thing started for us.

My heart hurts for your whole family.

I wish there was something I could do to help or expedite the answers coming for you guys.

You are so much stronger than I think I would be facing the same. 

While I hope you never have to test your strength, I know you would be amazingly strong.  I have no clue how I am holding it together but somehow, I am.

While I hate that IF mommas have to deal with sick kids, I think we know how to fight for our babies already which prepares us for things like this.

I fought way too hard to even have Kate.  There is no chance in hell that I would stop now, you know?  And, I am trying to see positives in all of this.  I am enjoying the little things that I probably would have over looked.  I am learning to let go of my type A control freak nature.  I am realizing that my career is no longer important.  And most importantly, I am learning to cling to my faith now more than ever.

That is one thing that I think every woman on this board understands - we are all fighters - strong fighters - and we just forge on!

 

SeaSoul

*sigh*  At least Cal's young enough to not get what's going on...and he has handled his blood draws quite well.  But a child Dylan's age is old enough to anticipate and dread it...oh, that must be so hard for a mom (and child!).  Whew.  I hope it's no big deal for him and this is the last time you need to do blood tests for a while.