baby shower question

brobbins05

Many women on here already have dates and details of their showers.... I have no idea of mine!  One friend offered when I first told her I was PG and I was really overwhelmed and cannot remember what I said.   I wait until she brings it back up, right?  What about family?  no one has offered yet..... and all you bumpies seem to have it all figured out!!  Why don't I?

eesome

It's still really early. 
I know with my son, my baby shower wasn't until I was 30 weeks pregnant. I found out I was having a shower when I was about 25 weeks pregnant. 

cozylittlecave

I only know about the one my mom is throwing because she has to fly me down for it. Flight prices go up fast, so we had to make arrangements way in advance. I assume my church will throw one (they always seem to), but our pastor's wife LOVES surprises, so I might not hear about it...

KCooker

I have no idea what's going to happen with my baby shower(s). My mom has told me that my sister mentioned throwing me a shower, but that's it. In my opinion it seems way too soon to be firming up shower details for a baby that isn't due until August.

brockli

I know nothing about any showers I may be having.  The only thing I know is MIL and her sisters always throw a shower for the bride/mother to be whatever the case may be.  So I will just wait until the aunts tell me whats going on!

Jessie*J

I feel a little left out where I live because no one has offered me one. We live in a small area and people usually jump to throw you one (even if you're on your flippin 4th kid in 5 yrs) right away.

We went through 5 years of infertility to get this baby and not having anyone bring up having a shower for us has kinda hurt my feelings so far. I want to celebrate this true miracle (doesn't have to include gifts) yet everyone seems to be ackowledging the "fertile" people around me who are getting pregnant again. (sorry, pg hormones are getting to me tonight LOL)

kkasper13

I really don't know anything about my shower, either. I know that my dad and sister are planning it, but I have no idea when or where. The only part I have in it was to make a list of the people I wanted to invite.  It is still very early. I am sure my shower won't be until June or so... 

alliapistor

I know that I'll be having 2 showers, but I don't know when or where they will be.  And I'm okay with that.  One will depend somewhat on our schedule, since we have to travel.  We're considering Memorial Day, but we haven't told the host yet and no one has asked. 

mrsjones06

It's still early at this point, so I'd wait awhile & see if someone offers.

With DS1 I had a lot of people who said "Let me know when you're having a shower" Or "Let me know if I can help with a shower" but no one ever really stepped up to take the lead & actually host one. As I got farther along in my pg (25+wks) I ended up asking a super close friend if she would mind taking control of it & told her who had offered to help so she could talk to them. My mom ended up asking my SIL if she would help her host a family shower. I felt embarassed & a little hurt that it took asking someone, but my friend & SIL were both thrilled to do it & jumped right in. I also had several friends offer to help them once it was actually in the works.

I think sometimes it just doesn't occur to any one person that they need to take control & put it into action. I know I did the same thing before going through it myself. Now I'm much more likely to offer to host a shower or organize the planning & reach out to those who want to help if no one is doing it.

brobbins05

OK, I was feeling a little embarassed that I didn't have one on the calendar.  My one friend volunteered and I assume I will wait until she brings it back up.  I am guessing the church ladies will have one... but glad I am not the only one who doesn't have a date yet.  It seems early to me too!