gonna be a one upper here...when out with twins...

MADforever2009

So i try to get out with the boys on the days that i have help either the grocery store or target...

and of course i get the twins comments...but on top of the twins comments, i get the awkward looks with coopers cleft.  the ooohhh how cu... stop in the middle of the high pitch cute and get caught off guard when they see his lip.  its just a weird moment.  no one wants to ask...

do i want to get into convo about his lip and whats going on with it and what they do to repair it...? no, not really.  i mean maybe i can see it as a good thing cause they usually stop all the questions and walk away...but still to know your son gets looked at differently is a hard one for me to swallow. 

dleigh81

I don't have any answers but wanted to give you encouragement. MoM are strong and somehow we figure out how to get through anything in a way that we are most confortable with. If you feel like talking about it with a stranger you will and if you don't then you won't- and don't feel bad about it because you don't owe anyone an explaination. GL!

blondek8

I still think he's cute, cleft or no cleft!  It would be a difficult situation to encounter with strangers though. Not sure what I would say or if I would say anything at all.

caden

He IS super cute. I mean, look at that pic! You can't help but smile. I'm sorry you have to go through all that...

OrangeSmoke

I think Coop is ultra adorable!

I know how tough it is knowing your baby is being judged (already) for something he has no control over.  It hurts and I'm sorry you have to go thru it. 

Hugs.

 

amanda31H

I think Cooper is super cute!  In that picture he looks wise beyond his years.   A has always looked like that too...like she knows what's going on but will play it cool.

I can understand THEIR awkwardness making you feel awkward.  But remember- they are the ones who are awkward!!!!

GiGi1221

I just have to say that I have a super soft spot in my heart for Cooper.  My grandpa had a cleft lip- and lived with it his whole life.  He was very self conscious and grew a mustache to cover it.

When DH and I got married instead of doing favors, we donated to the Smile foundation. I think your little men are both stinking adorable!

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ugh- breaks my heart.... i wish people were better with such things.

Any time i see a child i know has some differences, I make sure to treat the child just the same - because I know how hard it is on the parent (and eventually the child).

Your son will inspire you as he gets older and goes through what he has to - and it will make you an even better mama and person.... perhaps you can find a way to help change those people who are rude or simply don't know what to say - knowledge is power so hopefully you can share some in a way that works for you.

((HUGS))

 

Haven1

Aww, I think he's adorable too. He's so lucky to have you as a mom.

ebrooke

He's a cutie patootie! Sorry people are dumb.

MuseumMaven

Both of your boys are adorable!  People are stupid.

JosiePosy

MADforever, I don't think I ever told you this. The day we finally got to take the girls home, a new admit came into the nursery and was roomed with the girls. This boy had a severe cleft. I immediately thought of you and Cooper. I never saw the parents, but I'm sure they were going through some emotions about it.

No doubt about it, Cooper is a cutie.  My girls are the same age, so if you ever want to arrange future prom dates, let me know.

MADforever2009

JosiePosy:

MADforever, I don't think I ever told you this. The day we finally got to take the girls home, a new admit came into the nursery and was roomed with the girls. This boy had a severe cleft. I immediately thought of you and Cooper. I never saw the parents, but I'm sure they were going through some emotions about it.

No doubt about it, Cooper is a cutie.  My girls are the same age, so if you ever want to arrange future prom dates, let me know.

awww, sounds perfect! I'm sure our teenagers will love us for setting them up.

MADforever2009

Thanks for the kind words everyone. Cooper is an interesting character already at 2 months, I have a feeling he's gonna know how to handle himself. I'm sure I'm gonna learn from him.

mommyof4boys

My sister had a cleft palate and lip so I remember the comments that people said to my mom.  I can also tell you that we get stares and comments since Chris looks a bit different because of his genetic syndrome.  It kills me to see people say things and make comments!  I have to say it will get better and easier.  If someone can't see the cuteness that is your little guy they are not looking at the same kid I am.  I see beautiful eyes, chubby cheeks, and a big smile!  He looks like such a happy baby!

jenn_darrin1515

I'm sorry...it stinks there are so many rude people in the world...your boys are adorable! 

babyhyem

Goldie_Locks_5:

ugh- breaks my heart.... i wish people were better with such things.

Any time i see a child i know has some differences, I make sure to treat the child just the same - because I know how hard it is on the parent (and eventually the child).

Your son will inspire you as he gets older and goes through what he has to - and it will make you an even better mama and person.... perhaps you can find a way to help change those people who are rude or simply don't know what to say - knowledge is power so hopefully you can share some in a way that works for you.

((HUGS))

 

Well said Goldie

yeahimamom

Just keep truckin girl! He's an absolute doll:)

Luvie13

he's absolutely adorable!  I'm sorry you're having to deal with so many rude, ignorant people....two healthy adorable babies...what a blessing:)