Rollercoaster appointment (PIP)

SethandMelissa

Holy rollercoaster appointment yesterday. Yesterday was the first day that I had a late afternoon appt. and didn't have to teach all day, so I stressed all day long. I was such an emotional wreck. Then when we got to the appointment I had a 1 hr and 45 minute wait before seeing the doctor.

When we finally got in, I found out that I lost 4 of the 6 lbs. I had managed to gain in 2 weeks. I've worked so hard on gaining weight. My weight gain goal is 45 lbs. for twins and it seems so impossible. I sobbed.

Then the doctor came in and tried using the heart doppler to pick up our babies heartbeats. He could only hear one, although he didn't say it, it was obvious. He looked all over and then said we were going to do an impromptu u/s. So we went over to the u/s machine and he didn't even know how to turn it on. So we had to wait another 30 minutes for someone to come do the u/s for us when they finally found sneaky little Baby B hiding under my rib cage. Poor Baby B was probably tired of Baby A hitting him/her in the face. That's what we always see at our u/s. 

Then we found out that our babies have two placentas (they think) which is amazingly great news because it's a much safer pregnancy than identicals with one placenta, but then they were wondering if we were having fraternals since it's uncommon (although not impossible) to have two placentas. So the doctor asked us if we'd mind if we could find out gender because if we were having one of each it would mean fraternal which is much less risky. So I agreed that they could check despite not wanting to know gender. With one of the babies, I'm like 99.9% sure that we saw a boy. It was unmistakable. With the other, we couldn't tell for sure and the sonographer didn't say for certain that they were the same gender, but that she was fairly certain. She said it was too soon to tell definitively. I know it's stupid but I am really disappointed that we found out. I wanted to be team green and have that exciting moment in the delivery room. We're not going to tell our families that we know, and I guess we could be wrong.... I'm probably being crazy and hormonal after that awful news and then great news appointment. 

Okay, sorry for the rant. Thanks for listening ladies. Since we're keeping it secret you all are the only ones I can tell!

Baby A - our spunky hyperactive baby

Baby B - our cooperative relaxed baby

BetsyDavis

I'm glad to hear both babies are growing healthy.

JaysonandKristin

Dupe

JaysonandKristin

Take it from a mom of a singleton born with life-threatening birth defects.  There are MUCH worse situations to be in than "knowing the gender when you didn't want to."  Just take some time to be sad for the fact that you found out despite the fact that you wanted to wait, and then move on.

You have TWO healthy babies.  You're so stinkin' lucky I can't help but feel jealous!!  

Congratulations on your babes.  I'm sure they'll find a way to surprise you in one way or another along the road.  Just be flexible.  If there's any parenting advice that I will give unsolicited, that's it.  Be flexible.  

Good luck and happy and healthy remainder of your pregnancy. 

SethandMelissa

Sorry if I sounded ungrateful at all to have two healthy babies. Believe me, I am so very appreciative and relieved they are okay and on the safe side. It was just a lot to swallow at one appointment, know what I mean? It's hardly something I'm going to let bring me down. Just overwhelmed. I hope you understand.

JaysonandKristin

SethandMelissa:

Sorry if I sounded ungrateful at all to have two healthy babies. Believe me, I am so very appreciative and relieved they are okay and on the safe side. It was just a lot to swallow at one appointment, know what I mean? It's hardly something I'm going to let bring me down. Just overwhelmed. I hope you understand.

Not ungrateful, just take your time and remember to keep perspective.  We all get carried away in the moment at one point or another.  Parenting is OVERWHELMING to say the least.  But, it's so freakin' fun!!  Like I said before... You're incredibly lucky, and I am totally green with envy!!  

DarrenAndMelissa

Aw that is so exciting!!

I can't believe one of your babies are already up in your rib cage though. WOW! I mean, I know you have twins and they have to go somewhere, but I give you major props for that. You are superwoman! Hopefully the calm little one stays up there and the roudy baby stays down low.

Thanks for the update! I know you're bummed you found out but it's still so exciting! 

JustaKidAtHeart

Take it from a mom of twins.  You will gain most your weight after 20w.  If you want to pack on more try adding a few boost shakes to your diet.  I know I am a little larger but I only put on 30 lbs with my boys.  Dont worry about how much you are gaining unless they are worried.  Just try to eat the best you can and iron, calcium and protein are VERY important to pregnant twin moms.