My hubby and I are thinking of having a third child. We have two awesome boys who are almost 4 and almost 2.
Our 3 y.o was just dx with auditory and sensory processing issues. There might be ADHD, etc. He is now in a preschool that is helping him. He is a bundle of energy...very active and on the go. We are JUST starting to learn and understand his issues.
Our 1 year old is starting the terrible 2's. He is very independent, but is very strong willed. I do not suspect any issues with him, I just think he is going to be my challenging kid when it comes to getting what he wants...he is your typical boy, active and such.
Put both kids together and I have a pretty constant day. I'm a SAHM and love it, but I am so overwhelmed with the issues with our 3 y/o. He is by my side at all times, cannot play independantly, etc. He does not play well with our 1 y/o. My hubby is very involved but with his work hours, he gets to see the kids 2 hours each night. We have little to no help from others. They know what is going on with my oldest, and offer to help, but when I say "please come over anytime, any evening after work etc" it goes on deaf ears. No biggie to me.
My hubby and I are trying to weigh the pros and cons of a 3rd. We both feel our family is not complete and want one more. I'm 33 and I feel like my clock is seriously ticking. I want to get the infant process over...(getting up in the middle of night, etc) I want to get my body back, etc. I figure that our life is so chaotic right now...would it be this way in 10 months when the kids are older and we are more intuned to what we need to do to serve teh needs of our oldest.
Would we be biting off more than we can chew? I am not sure what to expect going forward with a child with "issues"....does it get easier? Would you have a 3rd or just thank god for what you have and deal with it?
Thanks for your advice!