Ugh, I REALLY hate DH's job sometimes..

AlissaCell701

So, we were supposed to go to Disney for a long weekend this weekend to visit some friends from MA who are up there for Feb vacation..We have been planning this trip for a month now..DH took the 2 days off and everything was fine..Well in the last 2 weeks the S&*t hit the fan at work (he is a director of F&B for a major sports stadium). He normally works long hours, lots of weekends, can't go to family funtions, weddings cause he always has to work. Vacation are usually booked around football season ect..This is all fine cause I am used to it and have been doing things alone (now I have Jake so he comes with me) for awhile now..

So, he called me yesterday and said that he was sorry but we have to cancel our trip. One of there major clients booked a last minute party at the stadium and he now has to work Friday night and Saturday; when we were supposed to go away! I basically lost it. Hung up the phone and didn't really talk to him for the rest of the day (he had an event last night didn't get home until 9)..

This AM, we got into a fight about it. Cause I always feel like his job takes  over our family time..He has such a small window of an off season and all I wanted was ONE weekend. HOneslty, I don't remember the last 2 day weekend he took. NOrmally I am fine, it really doens't bother me the crazy hours, having to work on weekends. But when we planned something for so long and we just have to cancel cause nobody else can work does pi$$ me off.  I am just so frustrated...

I know he feels just as bad about having to cancle our trip. I could see it in his face. So,  I just sort of dropped it, but I am mad and dissapointed...I hate that my life revolves around this job....He told me he would make it up to us and that in two weeks they don't have anything booked, yet, and that we could go away then. He then says that he is just super stressed and to add to it his Mother (My crazy MIL) gave him the biggest guilt trip yesterday cause we told her she couldn't come this week (she is on vaca from school) cause we were supposed to go away..but now she is home for a week and board. Lady, you were just here a month a go and are coming down the first week in April!!

Thanks for letting me vent. 

OrangeSmoke

Oh hugs!

Can you go to Disney without him?  Disney is super baby friendly and I'm sure your friends will help you out....and maybe he can come down on Sat after work?

newsbaby

Ugh that really sucks! I am sorry.

roaringrock

that's very disappointing (and believe me, I hear ya!) I think OS has a decent option.

OrangeSmoke:

Can you go to Disney without him?  Disney is super baby friendly and I'm sure your friends will help you out....and maybe he can come down on Sat after work?

emmyloustu

Oh no! I am sorry! I so feel your pain. We once had to cancel a trip to Mexico for a friends wedding at the last second because of Dh's job. It was awful and a once in a lifetime thing, obviously.He had already cleared the time off and it was a fellow employees wedding when the boss told him and another manager he couldn't afford to lose them over that weekend. It was ridiculous!

I agree with OS - I think you should go and meet up with your friends! 

NMW76

I completely understand where you are coming from. DH just left the same position at a stadium here in Chicago.  It sucks. We always have to take vacations at weird times and he can never come to any family functions. Hugs. I hope you guys will be able to go away soon.

Cassian

That really really sucks, and I understand completely why you are upset, but, go easy on your DH.

Imagine how hard it was for him to have to tell you the news, and how badly he feels that he has to ruin this for everyone. He already sacrifices SO much to work this job that supports your family. It sounds like he gives up a lot of time with his children and you and a lot of his freedom for this job, and instead of fighting with him, maybe give him a hug and acknowledge that fact and tell him you appreciate that he is such a hard worker.

I'm not saying don't be upset, but taking it out on him probably makes him feel absolutely terrible when he already feels bad.