Comments: Here is a good one!

cbaummer2be

My husband and I decided to take our kids to lunch with their uncle. We have two toddlers (4 and 2) and the twins (1 month old). We're eating lunch, managing the chaos, etc.. and all along I can feel the stares. A mom and two girls approaches us as they were leaving and begin to ask the questions. Two questions completely blew my mind. One was "are they twins?" They are both in infant carseats and look to be about the same size...doesn't take a degree is astrophysics to realize that they're twins. The other question is the doozy..."are you expecting again". What woman asks another woman that question unless they are clearly pregnant. I am sorry that it has only been 4 weeks and I still have a small pooch but I carried 15 pounds of baby inside me!! This was followed up by another family which asked a few questions and then the grandmother put her hand on my shoulder and told me that I was doing an excellent job! You win some...you loose some. I guess this is our new life!

amanda31H

NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!

Terrible.  My husband has always said that he would NEVER ask a woman if they are pregnant.  It doesn't matter if they look like they are going to go into labor in a matter of seconds he will just NEVER ask.

Torri106

that.is.awful! what a B*

jenn_darrin1515

OMG how did you not smack her? Seriously.. especially since she had 2 kids of her own and should be able to think back and remember that baby weight does not magically disppear with one baby...nevermind 2! But yay for a nice comment to offset the moronic one...

Temp6313048411121614

As far as the "are they twins", this is one of the few times I could give this comment a pass.  Since there was a 3rd party (not just a husband/wife couple), she could've thought that one of the babies was the uncles.  Now, I'm not saying that it wasn't rude of her to come interrupt your meal, b/c it really doesn't matter who has which kid, just a thought though.

sunnybrook.

The "are they twins" comment never bothers me. There are SO many other scenarios that it could be - they're cousins, you're babysitting, one's a foster child or adopted child, etc. etc.

Interrupting you meal and asking if you're expecting - OMG! People can be so thoughtless and rude! 

caden

Your twins are ONE month old and someone thought you were pg??? Wtf is wrong with people?

Just to make you feel better, when I took my boys to visit my office for the first time one of my jerkass coworkers said to me, "You're back to your skinny self... well, except for that pooch right there."

devinjonesrn

caden:

 "You're back to your skinny self... well, except for that pooch right there." 

Probably would have gotten punched in the face...especially if I was sleep deprived!

OP:  Could that lady not see that your babies were teeny tiny and a little too new for you to be expecting again, and certainly too early to be showing!?  What a moron!

 You should have told her that the babies were actually quads and that the other two were still inside...they weren't ready to come out when the first two did.  That'd give here something to chew on!

jalaiaa

devinjonesrn:

caden:

 "You're back to your skinny self... well, except for that pooch right there." 

Probably would have gotten punched in the face...especially if I was sleep deprived!

OP:  Could that lady not see that your babies were teeny tiny and a little too new for you to be expecting again, and certainly too early to be showing!?  What a moron!

 You should have told her that the babies were actually quads and that the other two were still inside...they weren't ready to come out when the first two did.  That'd give here something to chew on!

 

I like your thinking.

As for the twins comment, when my boys were about 3 months old we were out getting ice cream and we saw a man and a woman with two tiny babies who were obviously the same age in the same type car seat and I said, something like, "oh you have twins too." And they corrected me and said they were friends and their babies were born 2 weeks apart. Their respective spouses, who had been waiting in line for ice cream showed up and it all made sense. I felt like a dufus.    

2shihtzus

I used to think the "are they twins" comment was weird because hellooo, itsn't it obvious??  But then, I was out one time with my boys and saw a couple with twin infant boys (not in the middle of a meal though!) and wanted to approach them to be friendly and say hi.  I caught myself saying 'are they twins" and I was thinking to myself, what are you doing - you hate when people say that!  But, it's sort of an opener even if you are pretty sure that they are twins, you can't always assume like PP's said.  However, I would never bother someone in the middle of a meal, people do that to us all the time and I think it is so rude.

As far as the other comment, I remember that I was visiting my boys in the NICU in the WEEK after they were born and I was waiting for the elevator and this lady asked if I was visiting someone who just had a baby and I said no, I was visiting my babies who were in the NICU and then she asked when I was due again.  I wanted to cry.  Seriously, my babies are in the NICU (and they were only there for 2 weeks - not that she knew that) but you seriously think I would already be pregnant again and showing that much?  People have no common sense.

cocojack10

In shock that another mom actually asked you that.  How can any woman, esp one that has given birth, ask when you are due, considering she's staring at two tiny infants?!  People perplex me all the time.

And that was only the first of "are they twins?" comments... I promise, EVERY time you go out, you'll get asked at least 10x!  No joke.  Yes, there are a bunch of scenarios, but seriously, if you are babysitting a cousin, would you really have a double stroller?!  Would they be dressed alike?! (My boys usually are dressed the same in diff colors)