Another name post-Anyone not telling?

msjcordova

After my Godsons's name, Mateo, was announced to our family my SIL and BIL were crucified. Everyone hated the name and took every chance to tell them.

For that reason and that DW and I want to have a secret, we are choosing NOT to tell anyone, family or friends any of the names we are either thinking of or that we pick.

Is anyone else not telling? What made you choose to keep it a secret? 

desmerelda317

We usually tell our family members - especially whoever is the namesake.  In DH's family it is tradition to use family names as middle names, so whoever we name the baby after gets told first  Plus, when a couple relatives got upset over our son's middle name (because we spelled it how it was spelled generations ago in DH's family because it used to be a surname in his family and we were hearkening back to that heritage with the use an extra "e" and some of his family claimed we were mispelling it because present day relatives use it as a first name and spell it differently) I had no troubles getting an attitude with them.  I just said, "You know what?  You already had the opportunity to name your son.  And you chose to spell it this way.  This is my son.  And I'm choosing to spell it a different way; end of story."

But I totally understand when people don't tell.  My sister named her first daughter Madelynn and my parents laughed and said it was an "old lady's name."  Seriously?  I am generally not one to get after my parents, but this just made me so upset.  I told my dad, "you wouldn't say that to a stranger's face, why would you say that to your own daughter?" And then I informed him that one day my niece would indeed be an old lady so why did he have a problem with it?  Plus, I love the name Madelynn (the Madeline books were some of my FAVORITES when I was growing up).  So yeah, if you don't want to tell, then don't.  It may save you some headaches and frustration.

B&R+A=love

We aren't telling anybody the name this time; mostly because with DS we had a name picked out and told everyone then changed it at the last minute. I don't even want to tell people what the sex is. DH has different ideas and he wants to shout it from the roof tops so we will probably compromise and tell people the gender and not the name.

elephantsky

I'm debating this too. Mostly, I just don't want anyone else's input about it. Everyone seems to have a suggestion already. We will start thinking of names once we know the gender. I'm leaning towards keeping it a secret.

poppy33

We're thinking of not telling for that exact reason, everyone has an opinion. After the baby is born and named they will rarely tell you their opinion! I think we're also going to have a couple names picked out for each sex so we can see the baby before officially picking a name.

AKBrideinMD

Before we were even pregnant DH and I would brainstorm names and I'd talk about names with friends/family. They never seemed to like any of our name ideas. Between that and the fact that we're naming our boy's middle name after my dad and we want that to be a surprise, we aren't sharing. I know a lot of people hate it but I like the surprise of what the name is when other people keep it a secret as well. Of course, we're also Team Green so we have some friends who are not so thrilled with us right now. Haha.

DestinedtobeDomestic

We're not telling until the baby is born. My family is just WAY too opinionated and since DH and I love the two names we've picked so much, I don't want them to ruin it for us. Plus, then it'll be a nice little surprise since everyone will know what the sex will be.  

etoyama

We're not telling because we want it to be a surprise.

Temp782982187506089

We are not telling this time around (if we ever figure one out, since we have nothing right now).  Last time we told our families and EVERYONE had an opinion - most not good.  I am like pp, and would like to not even tell the sex but I think my mom would die if she didn't know, lol. 

catahoulatte

I don't want to tell anyone, but DH does. Once we decide on a name, I'm going to try my hardest to convince him not to tell. I just don't want the comments that come along with people who have different taste than us (except from The Bump )

JenJar

We didn't tell with DS because I wanted something to be a surprise, and because I didn't want to hear opinions if they didn't like it.  We got a onesie made on makeaonesie.com and used that to announce his name to everyone at the hospital. You can see a picture of it on this blog post.

https://jenandjarrod.blogspot.com/2010/03/flashback-friday.html 

 

catahoulatte

JenJar:

We didn't tell with DS because I wanted something to be a surprise, and because I didn't want to hear opinions if they didn't like it.  We got a onesie made on makeaonesie.com and used that to announce his name to everyone at the hospital. You can see a picture of it on this blog post.

https://jenandjarrod.blogspot.com/2010/03/flashback-friday.html 

 

Awww so cute! He's a little doll too

Stellasmom

We don't tell until the baby is born. It's just easier to avoid judgement when people still think they've got a shot at changing your mind, and it's fun to have Dh walk out with the baby and introduce him/her to the family by name.

sunandsurfmama

Well, we are team green, so that impacts our decision.

Also, we will have a "short list" of names and then make the final decision once we meet our little one.

If we did have a definite name chosen before the birth, we would still not choose to share. 

snoopy3319

We are keeping it all to ourselves. I don't want the comments, and my mom really doesn't want to know the sex until baby is born. It'll be nice to have one secret at least.

LJR 84

We still haven't decided. A part of me would love to keep it a secret so that there's some kind of surprise! However, my df's mom loves to constantly give name suggestions...so the sooner we tell her we decided on a name, the sooner she'll stop with the suggestions! I guess we don't necessarily have to say what the name is. I don't know, we'll see! I'm not really good at keeping secrets. Ok, I suck.

airforcewife331

I def. want to keep the name hush hush--not only because I don't want to hear opinions lol but because I want that to be one surprise for everyone after baby is born, since we are finding out the sex (dh just can't wait hehe)

Augustmama1113

I'm not telling either of all of the reasons everyone else isn't. but mostly because I'm not in the mood to hear everyone's reaction. My MIL is the worst and once she hears we aren't naming the baby after her, she'll probably let us have it.

SoBlessed2011

DH and I have already agreed on a name if the baby is a girl. However, we have not agreed on a name if the baby is a boy. Once we finally decide on a name we are keeping it secret because everyone has an opinion. Especially, my outlaws.. I mean inlaws.. LOL!! 

 

MrsCase1

we're not telling and it's for all the reasons you listed. mainly, i loathe hearing what family has to say more than strangers. i am not in the mood for any unsolicited opinions. my parents are both notorious for inserting their 2 cents about names and my mil is the one who said i needed to choose "catholic" names or she'd assign them their own names of her choice. they all get to know last, lol. 

jdeats12

We're not telling anyone the name and we're not finding out the sex. I don't want to hear anyone's opinions about our name choice so we're not giving them the chance to have any input. Even after the baby is born, we probably won't tell the 'other' name that we picked. (ie if we have a boy, we won't tell the girl's name that we had picked)

amdraza

I think that DH and I are going to keep quiet until we have the name picked out for sure. That way we can just say we are naming the baby _______. When you offer up a list to people, I feel like you get too many opinions.

kkasper13

We decided that we are going to choose two names for the baby. We are not going to tell anyone the names we chose, either. The, when the baby is born, we are going to decide which name fits he/she better.

 We don't want to tell anyone the name because we want there to be at least one surprise to share with people when the baby is born

 

Ryan&Kristin062009

We are not telling. Our names are "different" and I don't care to hear anyones potential negative opinions

kim.watki

I don't think we'll tell either -- not because we're picking unusual names (we're more into classic names than newer ones) but just because it's part of the surprise. Also, I bet we'll have a longer list at delivery since we're not finding out the sex either