Birthday party attendance poll

AvaLikeLava

Ok, G is getting a lot of b-day party invitations from daycare these days. Because these are families that we don't know very well, I think it's awkward for BOTH S and I to go with BOTH kids. S thinks it's fine, esp. since S2 won't participate in any of the activities. This only contributes to my argument. Then why take both kids. Also, why have 2 adults consuming food, when only 1 child was invited?

I will admit that if it was a kid whose parents we both knew, I would make an exception and have us both go, provided that S2 didn't count as a "child" on the facility rental agreement.

So... what do you think?

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itsmevkb

Am I the only one who finds it weird that they are even inviting other kids?  At that age aren't bday parties mainly family and friends of family?

My son is in kindergarten but I haven't invited any of his classmates to his party.  I figured that can wait until he's at least in the first grade.

EastCoastBride

I'm w/ you- unless it's for good friends where both of us would know others, I'd only have one of us go w/ DS.  I really don't see why both parents should go, and I actually really don't think siblings should go at all - especially if they are old enough to take part/ eat the food.

nicolita14w

itsmevkb:

Am I the only one who finds it weird that they are even inviting other kids?  At that age aren't bday parties mainly family and friends of family?

Yeah, that's what I thought, too. We didn't invite any of DS's daycare acquaintances to the party, nor has he been invited to any at other houses.

PrincessShay80

itsmevkb:

Am I the only one who finds it weird that they are even inviting other kids?  At that age aren't bday parties mainly family and friends of family?

My son is in kindergarten but I haven't invited any of his classmates to his party.  I figured that can wait until he's at least in the first grade.

 I'm with you on this- DD's first birthday party was family, friends and their kids. Our best friends daughter just had her 6th birthday party- that was the first party that she had kids from her class and their parents (shes in first grade) I feel at that point it's appropiate to invite other kids and their parents.

eyenerd

We have been getting a lot of invitations lately as well.  One of them my DH and DS came and the others i went to alone.  They were at big moon bounce places.  I saw some of the other parents did the same.  I figured it wasn't a big deal because they didn't charge extra for us, and DH didn't eat (he left early with the baby).

If we would be incurring an expense on the party person, than we would not. And when DS is older he will not come either. However, i liked having an extra set of eyes to help watch out for DD in these big places.  

My DD loves going to the parties ( i didn't realize they started so early either) and it gives us something to do on these boring winter weekends.  I also like it because it gives me a chance to talk to the other moms that i normally just see in passing. 

AvaLikeLava

itsmevkb:

Am I the only one who finds it weird that they are even inviting other kids?  At that age aren't bday parties mainly family and friends of family?

My son is in kindergarten but I haven't invited any of his classmates to his party.  I figured that can wait until he's at least in the first grade.

I find it strange to invite EVERY kid in the class. There are 21 kids!!!! And rental places around here aren't cheap. 21 kids, plus at least 1 parent per child, plus your family and their kids -- you might as well be planning a wedding. Which is why for G's 3rd birthday I'm taking the "cheap" route and planning a trip to Disneyland

We've done only family/friends thus far, which has made me happy since I know all the guests. However, when I think about it, G does spend 5 days a week with those kids and he knows them better than our friends/family's kids for the most part when you compare time spent.

Still... strange. I won't be doing any full class invites. Can't afford to, anyway, and our home is not big enough to support that many kids.