I know I am being silly.

Sdye84

I know I am being silly about all this but sometimes I feel like I am the only one excited about this baby. Its my first and we were trying. My sister in law is also pregnant and due in June. My mom is all excited and is buying baby clothes and things for her (they are having a girl) and I know she will do the same for me once we know what we are having I just can't help but feel that some of my thunder is being stolen. This will probably be the only child I have because we already have two children from my husbands first marriage. Is it so wrong for me to want people to be a little excited for me? I know I am just being hormonal and silly but it still makes me a little sad.

  And that brings me to my husband. Bless his heart he is the best man I could ever ask for but he also does not seem very excited. I hear all you ladies on here talking about how DH is talking to baby and so excited to find out what the LO is and my husbands just.. not.. I understand that he has been through this two times before and its not new to him but it is to me. I don't know just feeling a little down today.

snoopy3319

I don't think you're being silly. It's natural to want those around you to share in this exciting time in your life. I'm sorry your mom and DH aren't showing their enthusiasm. I have a feeling you might be right about DH, though. If he's already been through it twice before, it might not have the same effect this time around. Hopefully he pulls through. As for your mom, I would think it'd be different as her own daughter is pregnant and not her son's wife. That's what my mom told me when she found out I was expecting. She already has 3 grandkids. Maybe once June hits and SIL has the baby, your mom will turn all of her attention fully on you. Try not to feel too down today. Pamper yourself with a bubble bath and read a good book if you can find some time.

jessicaclare

I don't think you're being silly, how you feel is how you feel. However, you should know that no one is stealing your thunder with the baby. Your SIL just happens to be farther along than you. Once you find out, I'm sure your mom will shower you with the same gifts and attention. Plus, how awesome will it be for your baby to have a cousin so close in age!?

As for your husband, well, some men just aren't that "into" the whole pregnancy thing. My DH is excited, but he's not reading books or talking to the baby. Its just not the way he is. Its just not as real for him as it is for you, yet. I'm sure once he's holding that baby everything will change. 

Jelliebean1982

((hugs))  It will be awesome to have a cousin so close in age to yours.  And I'm sure that after your mom finds out the sex that she'll be excited to go shopping.  After the anatomy scan it's much easier to put a name to that LO and feel more attached. 

My DH has never read a pregnancy book, or talked to the baby, and doesn't even care if he sees the baby being born.  It's ok!  He makes up for it after the baby is born by being the best dad ever.  Your DH also might get more excited when there's more stuff to do, like paint the nursery, pick out his own diaper bag, or set up the crib.  Right now there's not much he can be involved in, KWIM?  

Sdye84

Thanks so much for all the support guys. I know things will get better just hard to control the way I feel now.  Me and DH and the girls are going to see my mom and dad tonight. Maybe I will feel a little better after some QT.

MrsCase1

nobody is fawning over me, either and it totally bums me out! i empathize. hope you feel better soon.

jenmarshall88

Wow, I'm going through the EXACT same thing just about. My fiance's sister is due in early June. This is my first child and I'm thrilled. Lucky for me, my fiance is really excited but I think because this will be the first pregnancy(plus my fiance's sister has been very sick and had medical problems unrelated to pregnancy during this pregnancy) everyone is thrilled about her little girl. Whereas for me, I just feel like it's just my fiance and my mom. It's hard for me because besides my mom the rest of my family still isn't very supportive, where my fiance's family is thrilled to be having grandchildren. So it's important to me that his family is excited, but it feels like I'm being shadowed by her. It's awful to feel like that but I can't help it. I'm happy our children will be so close in age(me and my first cousin are also 6 weeks apart so I know how great it is being that close in age) but I'm still a little bummed at times. All I can do is try and ignore it and surround myself with my mom and my fiance to keep my spirits up at all times.

Uwannalala

No, it's not wrong.  Your absolutely entitled to feel that way because we all have feelings (whether or not they are always rational.)

 That being said, it's kinda like the bride who is getting married. We've all been there (atleast me and my friends have.)  To you, the wedding is your life and constantly on your mind.  You spend a year (or sometimes years) planning it and it just seems to encompass EVERYTHING! Meanwhile, your friends are secretly thinking "my god.. can we talk about something else already!"

 Haha.. I absolutely understand your excited and want everything to happen NOW!But your sister in law is entitled to her time too and your not the only pregnant women in the world. It sounds like your mom will definately give you your time to shine in a few months.

Good Luck and I hope I didn't come off as harsh- totally been there!

maceymay1816

You're not being silly, just the pregnancy hormones running amuck!  I feel the same way sometimes too.  I had this talk with my DH this week that I didn't feel like he was excited for this baby at all.  I don't think men quite know what to do and I don't think they really feel a part of this process that we are going through so they don't have the connection that we all seem to have to our growing LO.  I'm sure he will come around.