I know it's Saturday, but FML

emriley84

My sister is 21, had my niece when she was 18. She still lives with my parents, she's very immature and irresponsible sometimes. Well last night she decided to go out and get trashed (while my mom watched my niece.) My dad got up to leave for work this morning and my niece was out of her room (my sister and her share a room). He tried to wake my sister up, but she was "too tired". So he put my niece back to bed and headed to work and called me on the way. Idk why my dad didn't just bring her over on his way to work, but that's another story all together.

So here I am, with my 4 month old, taking him out in the snow. Went to my parent's house, my niece is downstairs and my sister is still sleeping. I tried to wake her up and she just kept falling back asleep. So I packed up my niece (who is 3.5yo by the way) and brought her to my house and told my sister when she was done being a piece of $hit to call me and I'd bring her kid back.

I feel terrible for my niece, I love her so much. My parents try so hard to be good role models for her, but they both still work full-time. My sister works too, although if she keeps acting this way she will get fired soon.  I know it's hard to be a single mom, and to still want to be a normal 21yo, but you can't have both. End vent. I'm keeping my niece until one of my parents come home.

jmb527

So sorry you are dealing with this, but your niece is really lucky to have you in her life, even though she may not realize it yet Hang in there, I hope your sister realizes what she is doing and gets her sh!t together.

emriley84

Thank you everyone. Days like today I feel like fighting for custody of her, but I know that if she can have my sister in her life that is what's best for her. When she was pregnant I told my sister (who had a drug problem, an abusive bf and my parents wanted to kick her out) that I would take the baby, but that I couldn't take her for a few years while she partied then give her back when my sis decided to grow up. My sister said she was going to grow up and take care of her. In some ways she does, and she's a good mom, but then she does stuff like this and it makes me think she will never be able to raise her on her own. What is she going to do, live off my parents forever? my parents are torn because they want my niece to have a somewhat normal life.

mcc81

emriley84:

Thank you everyone. Days like today I feel like fighting for custody of her.

My parents had to do this for my cousin b/c her mom couldn't get it together. As hard as it was for sis/cousin to not have her mom in her life full time it was ultimately better for her to have her Mom in her life in a healthy way then for her to be around her when she was drinking/partying/drugging.

Sorry you're having to deal w/ this

nadinethequeen01

That is sh!tty. I'm 22 and although I still drink, I would never fall asleep and ignore my daughter. I only drink at home but if I go to sleep at 1 or 2 and DD wakes up at 7 then I'm up too! She sounds very irresponsible. I do believe there are ways to still have fun but you can't just ignore your priorities.

That's good that you took care of her daughter though. I hope she wakes up soon or else she might even get her daughter taken away, then I'm sure she will regret her poor decisions.