Finally told work

2Norfolk

so after having to spend the majority of the workday on Monday in a waiting room so I could get a perscription for my bladder infection   I figured it was starting to look shady that I had taken a few days off and was leaving right when I could at the end of the day so I told my boss and the group I work in that I was pregnant.  It went well and I'm relieved because now when I want to wear maternity clothes I feel that I can.  Definitely not looking forward to the awkward conversations etc but that was going to happen at some point anyways.

Fisherman'sWife

Congratulations! 

I agree I am not ready for the awkward conversations that are going to start!  

JenJar

Hopefully it won't be as awkward as you think and it proves to be a nice relief to have it out in the open.  

katenator

Congratulations! 

I have a related situation I'm not sure if I'm handling very well. 

I've told my boss only (other than a close friend who sits beside me). I'm 12 weeks now and told my boss a couple of weeks ago because a) he needs to figure out what to do about covering my position once baby arrives since I'll be taking mat leave (we've been interviewing candidates to join our team and I wanted him to be aware of what they'll need to handle) and b) because I had thrown up at work a couple of times and have been so, so, so tired so he needed to know.

Anyway, today, my VP's executive assistant came by my desk. I really like her, but definitely didn't want her knowing about this yet (she gets very excited and fussy, and I don't want the WHOLE office to know any time soon). She doesn't do well with secrets and she even told me and my friend who sits beside me about her DIL's pregnancy (she was probably about the same stage as me at the time, which was about 7 or 8 wks) despite having been told not to share it outside the family. Granted, she was excited. Then a few weeks later her DIL MC'd, which is really sad, and validated for me the reasons I want to keep this on the down low right now.

Anyway, here was our exchange...

EA (executive assistant): Hi, how are you doing?

Me: not bad I guess (I had been off with strep throat for 2 days, which is why I thought she asked).

EA: I hear congratulations are in order! (she sort of seemed to be talking to my friend who sits beside me too, so I though maybe it had to do with the wedding she is planning) 

Me: uhhhhh really? whyyy?

EA: Well, you're pregnant, aren't you? 

Me: (feeling of doom, since co-workers are overhearing) I'm not sure where you would have heard that....

EA: (Leaves, then comes back) So is that a yes or a no?

Me: Welllllll, if it was a yes, it would be something very private.

(she left)

I think that got through to her, and not too many people overheard, and those who did would have heard my response too so it would be clear what my wishes are, but I'm still kind of upset about it. I'm sure that my boss mentioned it to her in the context of job requisitions and hiring and stuff, so it's not that big of a deal that she knows....but I'm really shocked that she would try to out me like that. ESPECIALLY since she already made that mistake by outing her daughter-in-law, who then lost the baby.

It's not that I want it to be a giant secret for the long term (soon enough it will be obvious), but I work in a male-dominated field (engineering), and I don't like having a fuss made over me. I was like this about getting engaged, then getting married, too (very private).

 Is it so crazy to feel like it should be my news to share?