Stupid things parents say

pandabearlover

My parents are here helping with the girls.  I can't drive or lift anything over 10 lbs for a month so they are basically taking over the housework and childcare when DH is working.  My mom is very good at saying the wrong thing-she never sees my side and tries to make everything about her.

So yesterday, we were getting ready to leave the house and I showed her how I could wear a leg bag to hide my catheter.  I said look, mom you can't even tell and showed her my leg.  She says, I know.  I was just telling your sister that you don't even look pregnant anymore.  I can't believe how skinny you are already."  I quickly said, umm, I am talking about my catheter and walked past her.  

She also clicks her tongue in disapproval whenever Betsy doesn't listen or talks back.  I finally couldn't take it anymore and snapped at her and told her to stop clicking her tongue!  This led to a 15 minute complaint session about me to my dad outside my house.  She is always "so frustrated" with me.

My dad asks everyday how I'm doing.  It's kind of annoying, but I know he doesn't know what to say so I usually just say fine or ok.  Yesterday morning, I said I'm angry.  My mom pipes up with, "me too."  Ugh!

My sister gets here Monday. I fear she will be even less help around the house than my parents.  Hopefully I will be done with the stupid foley catheter and all these fevers so I can do more. 

JustaKidAtHeart

HUGS hun you dont need that ***.  Sorry

mrsolsenk12

I am so sorry that your parents are being that way. You would think that your parents would be more sympathetic after what you have been through.

jds0521

I'm so sorry you aren't getting more support from your mom. Maybe she's the type that her way of dealing with painful things is to act like they didn't happen? Maybe it's the way she deals with things? In any event, I would let her know that you need her support & to you, that means x, y, z. Some people need it laid out for them. Hope your feeling (physically) better soon. ((HUGS))

sweetpea18

Do you want me to come to Hawaii and throat punch them for you?!? I'm sure your parents just don't know what to say, so it makes things more awkward. Hang in there and keep telling yourself that its just a couple more weeks!

JGirl2005

When I had my loss at 16wks I know my family never could say the right thing.  Hugs. 

wille2b

((hugs)) im sorry that you had to deal with that

dana316

(((Hugs)))

Parents can be morons at times...

I hope you are feeling better ASAP!!

 

dundasgirl

It is really hard to have someone else in your space doing all the things that you usually do...and it is 100 times worse when they are saying annoying things while they do it.

I hope it gets better.

And I am really sorry you are even in this position at all.

cjsbdl

I'm so sorry. Dealing with unhelpful and unapproving family is always a pain in the arse, and I can't imagine how difficult it is to have patience after what you've been through.Hugs!

kme930

I'm so sorry - that is absolutely the last thing you need! (((hugs)))

tapgirl

I'm sorry.  You really don't deserve or need any passive aggressiveness right now.