WWYD? Re: MIL and CDs

MaybeBabyTime

My sister is having her first baby Feb. 20th. She is having a csection because she is breech so I will be with her for a week in another state. MIL is coming to my house to watch DS while my DH is at work. She has said she is fine doing the CDs...and washing them. But, she is somewhat flighty at times. I feel like if I gave explicit instructions, she would mess it up and then laugh it off to me. That's what she does. If I wrote everything down (wash instructions, what I stuff pockets with for daytime and nighttime, MF never goes on the skin, laundry tabs, no fabric softener, no diaper cream, etc..)  I wonder if she will get it all correct. I don't think its hard. I dove in head first with this not really knowing what I was doing. But, I worry about her screwing something up and potentially ruining the diapers. Then I think, how could she ruin them? It's kind of hard to. If I hide all the detergent except for the CD detergent....and as long as she doesn't dry the pockets, I'm not sure she could ruin them.

I hate to buy sposies for her to use. $25 on sposies is money that could be spent on a CD. But, I don't want to have to worry about the CDs and how everything is going with them when I am with my sister and niece/nephew.

Any tips? My gut tells me just to buy the damn sposies for peace of mind.

Dr.Loretta

I'd give her a little credit, write some instructions (but not too anal), and maybe give her a chance to do them while you're around, if that's possible.

She'll be fie. As you said, she likely won't ruin the diapers.

MaybeBabyTime

Dr.Loretta:

I'd give her a little credit, write some instructions (but not too anal), and maybe give her a chance to do them while you're around, if that's possible.

She'll be fie. As you said, she likely won't ruin the diapers.

True. This is me being the control freak I am.

SarahC720

Could you have her come over for a CD lesson?  Show her everything in addition to writing it down?  I know I learn and understand things much better when someone shows me

Can also call to check in on how it's going in case she has any questions.  GL!

kissntell

It takes a lot of hard work to ruin cloth diapers.  I dry my pockets on occasion and they are fine.  We've used non-CD safe diaper cream and don't have repelling issues.  Take a chance and see what happens.

Why can't your DH do the diaper laundry?

MaybeBabyTime

SarahC720:

Could you have her come over for a CD lesson?  Show her everything in addition to writing it down?  I know I learn and understand things much better when someone shows me

Can also call to check in on how it's going in case she has any questions.  GL!

I have thought of this. I just have to do it during nap time. Anything you tell her when DS is awake...goes in one ear and out the other. She gets easily distracted. I guess maybe I can leave it up to her....OR have my DH do the diaper laundry.

MaybeBabyTime

kissntell:

It takes a lot of hard work to ruin cloth diapers.  I dry my pockets on occasion and they are fine.  We've used non-CD safe diaper cream and don't have repelling issues.  Take a chance and see what happens.

Why can't your DH do the diaper laundry?

I just thought of this too. He can do it...and should do it! He's very good at following directions. But, my MIL is the type that tries to make everything easier on everyone else (very nice of her). So, the probability that she will leave the CD laundry for him is slim.

kissntell

MaybeBabyTime:

kissntell:

It takes a lot of hard work to ruin cloth diapers.  I dry my pockets on occasion and they are fine.  We've used non-CD safe diaper cream and don't have repelling issues.  Take a chance and see what happens.

Why can't your DH do the diaper laundry?

I just thought of this too. He can do it...and should do it! He's very good at following directions. But, my MIL is the type that tries to make everything easier on everyone else (very nice of her). So, the probability that she will leave the CD laundry for him is slim.

Sounds like my mom when she visits.  She always does our laundry, which is great, except she never checks the setting on the washer/dryer, so our clothes are often washed or dried on hot.

Nurse122705

My Mom happily does them for me when she b-sits.  She is Queen scatter-brain.  These are the rules I give her: Don't try to wash anything, remove diaper & place in wet bag.  I give her a CD-safe cream to use.  I bought her 6 AIOs but to my surprise she is able to handle covers & pre-folds also.

I think with explicit instructions she could wash them, but I'm scared. 

ademc05

I know my MIL and as much as I want CDs on my DD all the time, I can't send them with her. I'm going to have to break down and buy some disposable diapers. Otherwise, I'd spend twice as much trying to replace my CDs. Also, there's no way she would use cloth wipes or get the laundering right.

Sam78

I would tell your MIL that it is extremely important that the diaper laundry is done a certain way and although you appreciate her trying to help, you would really prefer if she let your DH do the laundry.  That being said, I was in the house when my MIL decided to do the diaper laundry and I gave her the same speech ... (and yes, she messed it up although no damage done)

momtogavin

Honestly, I'd just buy the sposies and be done with it (although it looks like I'm in the minority). We might have the same MIL, who has the best of intentions but sometimes seems short of common sense. I know it's hard to ruin the diapers, but you never know. I'm a control freak too and would just feel better with this plan. Best of luck to you and your sister!