can I vent about my best friend (or lack of)

BoogieMonster629

So my best friend hasn't been acting best friend like lately.  She's been doing this since before I got pregnant so I know it has nothing to do with that.  I just miss her I guess.  She lives 3 hrs away and we've always been good about keeping up with each other, phone or internet.  So the past few months she's just been weird I guess.  I call just to say hi and she never answers, I leave a voice mail and never get a call back.  She doesn't even respond to my texts.  She never calls me for any reason.  I find this weird because whenever I see her the damn phone is attached to her hand.  So I give up, I haven't called her in a while, why should I, she won't pick up.  It takes two people to keep a friendship going and apparently I'm the only one trying. Bleh.

momtojake

I'm sorry kerri, this sucks, it sucks to lose a good friend and it sounds like the relationship is fading.

duhdaisy86

I am sorry about your friend...it is no fun loosing a close friend..

HUGS

aozmomma

I'm sorry. That's rough. Hopefully your friendship will pull out of this rut and you friend will realize she's not holding up on her end.

MamaC2b2011

I'm sorry to hear this. But I think I said this on facebook to you once when I was venting about some of my lack of friendships... You find out who your true friends are when you're going through some of the most major changes in your life. Doesn't mean it doesn't suck any less. I hope you find peace with it soon because I completely understand how that feels. *hugs*

gmc222

Ironically my best friend since we were born is named Kerri, too! I don't know what your situation is, but we've been friends since birth (literally) and go through phases where we don't talk for a couple weeks, then will talk every day for a week, etc. Sometimes lives get busy, especially if she's 3 hours away. I hope you guys can work it out, I'm sorry you're going through this!

COMomma81

That's really hard, I'm sorry But friendship is a two-way street and if you're bending over backward just to maintain it, it sounds like it's run its course and it is time to move on. I've had this happen, and it's hard at first, but it actually made me happier once I quit trying so hard and accepted it was over. Best wishes to you in getting through this.

Mrs.Leah.Maria

COMomma81:

That's really hard, I'm sorry But friendship is a two-way street and if you're bending over backward just to maintain it, it sounds like it's run its course and it is time to move on. I've had this happen, and it's hard at first, but it actually made me happier once I quit trying so hard and accepted it was over. Best wishes to you in getting through this.

ITA. Unfortunately when the friendship is so close it literally feels like a breakup and you can find yourself obsessing over the loss. I'm so sorry.

riskito

It's a rough situation... And you can vent away!

I had a similar thing happen with a friend who was my hip attachment for a long time. We went out for dinner, had pool days, got pedicures together, and just spent free time together. After I told her I was pregnant in November, I haven't heard from her since. She won't answer my calls, texts, or Facebook messages.

I have a feeling her issue is just jealousy. Her marriage fell apart and she is battling custody with her now ex-husband. Although I understand she is having a rough time, I feel like since I was there for her during her rough time she could be there for me... 

Anyways, I am undecided whether or not to just cut her out and relieve myself of stress or let it go.

Ugh, girls are bitches. 

BoogieMonster629

riskito:

Ugh, girls are bitches. 

so true.

Abbney

I understand how you feel my oldest friend is a guy named Tommy, and when I moved out here, we just faded out...It didn't help much that his gf and I dont get along (she cheated on him with his friend, they broke up and got back together.  When I met her I told her I was married and straight, she looked at me funny, and I explained how I know how much she likes sleeping with Tommy's friends, that I was off limits...She hasn't quite liked me much since)

He still keeps in touch with my family though so we kind of keep in touch