Ex-coworker vent (BR) Would this have offended you?

Cornbreadsmom

I went to visit my SO at work (animal hospital-she has more of an administrative role, so her office is on a different floor with no animals) after Gymboree today. I usually do this as it's only 5 mins away (we live about 25), she works long hours so it gives us a nice visit, and I've been doing it regularly since DS was about 5 months old. I used to work there (for 8 years) so I know a lot of people there and they all love seeing him.

Anyway, I was back in her office area and a woman was using the copy machine and is talking about how cute C is. Then another woman walks in and one using the copy machine says "How come I never get to see your DD?" (who is 2 years old). She says, "oh, I don't bring her by a lot. I don't want to expose her to a lot of germs."

Um THANKS?! Maybe I'm just being sensitive, but it's not like I'm letting him crawl around where there's animals being kept-this is the administrative/employee lounge area on a different floor completely. Yes, sometimes we go up and visit animals, but since he doesn't walk, I'm always holding him -he's just looking. Plus, unless she's taking a bleach bath before she walks in the door, she's bringing home the same germs.

I don't know, it definitely rubbed me the wrong way.

AutumnBride929

I think maybe she just made herself look like a little bit of a crazy cakes, if anything.  I wouldn't worry about it.

vmm0016

I would just let it go. 

Cornbreadsmom

AutumnBride929:

I think maybe she just made herself look like a little bit of a crazy cakes, if anything.  I wouldn't worry about it.

True! Yeah, I'm not worried about it, just something about it made me annoyed

 

Cornbreadsmom

vmm0016:

I would just let it go. 

LOL, yeah I'm definitely not going to hold a grudge or anything. I just am always shocked at the things that come out of people's mouths .

rebus82

I think you may be a little oversensitive. Perhaps her LO is prone to illness and she doesn't bring her out much unless absolutely necessary. Maybe her LO gets upset if they don't see the animals, and she doesn't want to deal with it. Maybe she prefers to keep her work and private life separate but didn't want to say it because it sounds rude. Etc. etc. ad infinitum.

Or maybe she really was being a biitch. In the end, it doesn't matter. You know your kid isn't getting grimy, so who cares what she thinks?

jesssy1204

AutumnBride929:

I think maybe she just made herself look like a little bit of a crazy cakes, if anything.  I wouldn't worry about it.

agree, I wouldnt let it bother you

mxpxgirl13

This wouldn't offend me, just because I know some people are just overly sensitive about germs, but don't mean any harm by it or trying to say you're dirty.

outnumbered

cait0324:

vmm0016:

I would just let it go. 

LOL, yeah I'm definitely not going to hold a grudge or anything. I just am always shocked at the things that come out of people's mouths .

I do not think what she said was shocking.  She was not openly mocking your child.  Somebody put her on the spot about her daughters absence and she came up with an easy answer. 

RaeAnt

it sounds passive/aggressive to me, but then i wasn't there to hear the tone or anything. that's just my take on it. What germs would LO be picking up anyway. Not a lot transfer between animals and humans,do they and nothing a good hand washing couldn't basically cure.

Cornbreadsmom

outnumbered:

cait0324:

vmm0016:

I would just let it go. 

LOL, yeah I'm definitely not going to hold a grudge or anything. I just am always shocked at the things that come out of people's mouths .

I do not think what she said was shocking.  She was not openly mocking your child.  Somebody put her on the spot about her daughters absence and she came up with an easy answer. 

Ok maybe shocking isn't the best word, but there were a lot of easy answers she could have said. Not saying I wasn't being overly sensitive since I know this person fairly well (I've been to her house numerous times, she was at my wedding, etc) and was a little hurt. It was still a poor choice of words, whether it were true or not

ljlkm

rebus82:

I think you may be a little oversensitive. Perhaps her LO is prone to illness and she doesn't bring her out much unless absolutely necessary. Maybe her LO gets upset if they don't see the animals, and she doesn't want to deal with it. Maybe she prefers to keep her work and private life separate but didn't want to say it because it sounds rude. Etc. etc. ad infinitum.

Or maybe she really was being a biitch. In the end, it doesn't matter. You know your kid isn't getting grimy, so who cares what she thinks?

This.

Cornbreadsmom

rebus82:

I think you may be a little oversensitive. Perhaps her LO is prone to illness and she doesn't bring her out much unless absolutely necessary. Maybe her LO gets upset if they don't see the animals, and she doesn't want to deal with it. Maybe she prefers to keep her work and private life separate but didn't want to say it because it sounds rude. Etc. etc. ad infinitum.

Or maybe she really was being a biitch. In the end, it doesn't matter. You know your kid isn't getting grimy, so who cares what she thinks?

This was definitely a time I felt better after typing it out and shouldn't have posted clearly I was being too sensitive

jdouglas84

AutumnBride929:

I think maybe she just made herself look like a little bit of a crazy cakes, if anything.  I wouldn't worry about it.

I agree. But I think if someone said the same thing around me, I would feel like they were thinking I was unnecessarily exposing my kid to something. But it sounds like the office is clean, and you're right, it's not like you're letting your LO crawl around on the floor where animals have been running around.

Princess_Lily

rebus82:

I think you may be a little oversensitive. Perhaps her LO is prone to illness and she doesn't bring her out much unless absolutely necessary. Maybe her LO gets upset if they don't see the animals, and she doesn't want to deal with it. Maybe she prefers to keep her work and private life separate but didn't want to say it because it sounds rude. Etc. etc. ad infinitum.

Or maybe she really was being a biitch. In the end, it doesn't matter. You know your kid isn't getting grimy, so who cares what she thinks?

I agree with the first pararaph, there are many possibilities here.

I don't think she's being a "biitch" though, but maybe she's a germ-a-phobe?  Which in turn makes her look a little bizarre. 

sunnyday016

Wouldn't bother me, but I probably would have said something jokingly back like "well it's not like I'm shoving his hands in the animals mouths, so I think he'll survive"...