Freaking out!!

fannystuffs

I feel like my life is changing so quickly!!!! DH and I got married last year in July and got our BFP in November. I went from working and going to school full time to being a housewife and now....stay at home mother. I don't know how to handle all these changes. I never thought of myself as being a housewife/SAHM. Fortunately, the Lord has blessed DH with a great career and he provides more than enough for us and so I don't need to work. DH is juggling his career and grad school so I don't mind taking care of our household needs. However, I'm having difficulty accepting my new role because I honestly never thought I'd be a HW or SAHM.

anakalia10

It sounds like you are pretty conflicted about your role and not just "freaking out" about all of the changes that come with pregnant. 

Just because you don't "need" to work, doesn't mean you "have" to stay at home.  Do you WANT to be a stay at home wife/ mother?

LnR70707

so work part time if you aren't happy being a total SAHM.

kelsgreeneyes

I would kill to be a SAHM! 

I think you'll do just fine once you have the LO to keep you occupied!

Five_letter

Why did you stop working to be a stay at home wife?

Some people need to work, not for the money but for the mental sanity and the social interaction that comes with employment. 

melissa.1985

I'm going to be a SAHM as well and couldn't be more thrilled. Do you want to be a SAHM? If not, get a part-time or full-time job.

dairygirl19

Just take it one day at a time and don't worry about it.

When LO is here, you're adjusted and then you think you want to go back to work, Go. There's no shame in not having every life decision planned.

Somedays I think being a SAHM on the farm with H would be fab. The next it makes me want to poke my eyes out. We'll see what happens about next September, even if it means I go work at the coffee shop just so I have "something for me" I'm fine with that. If I love being home, great!

FyshWyfe

I agree with PPs that it sounds like you need to look at WHY you quit working. Did DH ask you to?  Did it just seem like the thing to do?  

If you're not happy, try to find at least a part-time job so you can feel fulfilled and still meet the needs of your household.  

I'm the primary breadwinner around here, and personally, if I didn't work I'd be dying a slow death.  I wasn't cut out to be a SAHM, and definitely not a housewife.  I'd have turned into a martini-swiggin' lush if I'd stayed home with nothing to do. 

damabo80

Have you considered NOT staying home? I understand you don't *have* to work, but why do you *have* to stay home? Esp now (while gestating)?

Is there any part time work, school, volunteer work, or community projects you could get involved in?

Kimmy9j

Maybe You should talking the Ladies on The Stay at Home Board, I bet they have been where you are.

fannystuffs

Thanks for all of your support. I would love to be a SAHM. DH is very supportive in whatever I decide to do...wether to be a SAHM or not. We've both worked with children for many years and know the importance and need of parents spending time with their kids. I didn't have a problem with the idea before. Like someone on here said, one day I feel great about it, other days not so much. I've been feeling great about it until today! I went to the library to take my mind off things. I think I'm going to start a reading club for little ones there. That should help! 

Kimmy9j

Auburnt:

I feel like I have the opposite problem! MH and I got married in October, got our bfp 2 weeks later and now I'm bummed that I probably won't be able to be a SAHM! I would looove to do that and we had always planned to get MH far enough into his chosen career that I would be able to do it but now there's just not enough time

I'm Exactly where you are