A shower question for ya..

Hollywood214

Wanted to also ask you ladies this question!

This is my third baby, but first girl. So in this situation, would a baby shower be tacky? My mom will throw me one, no matter what I say. But should I register or not, if so then should it be just clothes and small stuff? Just don't want to come off as greedy. Thanks

pinkram

I wouldn't register

Hollywood214

pinkram:

I wouldn't register

So then people will just get me whatever they want? I see a lot of returns in my future LOL

LuckyBride06

I know if/when I have a girl, my mom will throw me a sprinkle (small shower). IMO, I don't think that's tacky. And yes, I would probably register. Not for big stuff though (b/c I'll use what I have), but for bottles, bibs, towels, etc. Small stuff. IMO, it makes it easier for the guests b/c they don't have to worry about what to get you. Maybe I wouldn't announce the registry on an invitation, but just tell them about it if they ask me what I need/want. 

Beckypooh09

Why not just register and only tell them that you are registered if they ask? I will probably register for a few things simply because I know people will ask and if I say no then they'll just ask me what I need anyway.

Hollywood214

Beckypooh09:

Why not just register and only tell them that you are registered if they ask? I will probably register for a few things simply because I know people will ask and if I say no then they'll just ask me what I need anyway.

Sounds good to me.

meg1974

I don't think it's tacky for you to accept a shower if someone offers to throw it for you. If you're worried, you would call it a "sprinkle" which is what a lot of people are doing in your situation. That way, you're implying that it's a smaller version of a shower and people don't have to go all out on gifts (I'm assuming you have all of the bigger items). 

As far as a registry, that's a tough one. I can understand why you would want to have one, but it could seem a little tacky. At church we sometimes throw small showers for people having a second or third child, and we send out a list of items they need to the guests (i.e. if they like a certain brand of diaper or need some nursery items).

Hollywood214

meg1974:

I don't think it's tacky for you to accept a shower if someone offers to throw it for you. If you're worried, you would call it a "sprinkle" which is what a lot of people are doing in your situation. That way, you're implying that it's a smaller version of a shower and people don't have to go all out on gifts (I'm assuming you have all of the bigger items). 

As far as a registry, that's a tough one. I can understand why you would want to have one, but it could seem a little tacky. At church we sometimes throw small showers for people having a second or third child, and we send out a list of items they need to the guests (i.e. if they like a certain brand of diaper or need some nursery items).

I like the idea of calling it a Sprinkle Thank u

rosesandpeonies

I am of the club that after the first one it is tacky. That is me though. but to me you don't do it after number one....even if number two is a different sex.  I do find it to be greedy...because most people get you baby gifts anyway without getting a shower.

nealbl

I have always thought if you have a baby of a different sex then a shower should be allowed. I don't think it is right to ask for all the big things again but bottles clothes blankets bibs ect i think is ok. If your mom is throwing you a shower it would make it a lot easier on everyone else if you registered. However I wish people would register for their birthdays too I hate trying to pick out gifts for other people.

jess0104

If it was me I probably would not register, just because I think for an opposite sex I would really only be registering for things like clothes, blankets, which people get anyways and tend to pick out their own anyways...but I like the idea of registering to if you want and then only telling people if they ask if you are registered.

mistywhite400

Screw what people think..celebrate your little girl! She deserves a celebration!  I would register for the stuff you need b/c you get a discount on it in the end.  If people ask you then you can tell them what you need or direct them to your registry. 

Some people get all wrapped up in etiquette & forget that you're celebrating your child not looking for a handout!  (granted some people are, but people who know you won't think that at all!  they will be super excited to spoil your little girl!)

Hollywood214

mistywhite400:

Screw what people think..celebrate your little girl! She deserves a celebration!  I would register for the stuff you need b/c you get a discount on it in the end.  If people ask you then you can tell them what you need or direct them to your registry. 

Some people get all wrapped up in etiquette & forget that you're celebrating your child not looking for a handout!  (granted some people are, but people who know you won't think that at all!  they will be super excited to spoil your little girl!)

We are in NO way looking for a hand out, I'm just so excited for a girl!!! Thank you for saying this, makes me feel better

kabarbanel

My friend is throwing me a "sprinkle" next week. I didn't register.

Ashmre5

Have you thought of having a "sip-n-see" rather than a shower? That's usually a good way to justify the whole 2nd or 3rd shower stigma....But yea, I wouldn't register.