If you are worried about spoiling your baby

JoannaJes

I stole this link from another board, but I thought it was interesting research about "spoiled babies". I'd like to think that I do all of those things that spoil my babies: rock them to sleep, hold them a lot, answer their cries quickly.

https://healthland.time.com/2010/09/29/no-such-thing-as-too-much-love-spoiled-babies-grow-up-to-be-smarter-kinder-kids/

FemmeNat01

I don't think you can spoil a baby. I'm going to have to save that article and read it at another time. Glad to know this article agrees with me.

xxbabycakesxx

good article, thx for sharing! 1ht

flyingsaucer

Agreed!

saraboston

xxbabycakesxx:

good article, thx for sharing! 1ht

ditto!

juliane2004

FemmeNat01:

I don't think you can spoil a baby.

I keep hearing this, but at what point CAN you spoil them? 3 months? 6 months? 10 months? When can they be spoiled?

JoannaJes

juliane2004:

FemmeNat01:

I don't think you can spoil a baby.

I keep hearing this, but at what point CAN you spoil them? 3 months? 6 months? 10 months? When can they be spoiled?

I'm not sure. DS is turning two in about a month, and he shows no signs of being able to be spoiled yet.

jessmeans

thank u for the article.  i cant wait to share it w some ppl who think i should let my baby cry it out. i cant let him cry it out my job as his mother is to take care of him

izzourclue

juliane2004:

FemmeNat01:

I don't think you can spoil a baby.

I keep hearing this, but at what point CAN you spoil them? 3 months? 6 months? 10 months? When can they be spoiled?

I'm curious about this too.  I think "spoil" is a bad term.  I think you can definitely start bad habits or dependencies earlier than a lot of people would think.  For example only being able to sleep in a swing, while driving in the car, or while BFing.  But its hard to not do whatever works when you know they are tired and need to sleep (and you do to). 

honkytonk_kid

juliane2004:

FemmeNat01:

I don't think you can spoil a baby.

I keep hearing this, but at what point CAN you spoil them? 3 months? 6 months? 10 months? When can they be spoiled?

If by "spoiling" them you mean showing lots of affection and quickly responding to crying, which is generally what people mean when they talk about spoiling a baby.... uh, never? I'm pretty sure as an adult I would expect my husband to come see what was wrong if I started crying, but maybe I'm just spoiled.

If by "spoiling" you mean giving them whatever they want, whenever they want it, kids can get spoiled when they are developmentally able to differentiate between a want and a need, and can delay gratification. Definitely not at 3, 6, or 10 months.

There's a huge difference between those two definitions.

juliane2004

izzourclue:

juliane2004:

FemmeNat01:

I don't think you can spoil a baby.

I keep hearing this, but at what point CAN you spoil them? 3 months? 6 months? 10 months? When can they be spoiled?

I'm curious about this too.  I think "spoil" is a bad term.  I think you can definitely start bad habits or dependencies earlier than a lot of people would think.  For example only being able to sleep in a swing, while driving in the car, or while BFing.  But its hard to not do whatever works when you know they are tired and need to sleep (and you do to). 

Yeah, this is what I meant.

ShysAMommy

jessmeans:

thank u for the article.  i cant wait to share it w some ppl who think i should let my baby cry it out. i cant let him cry it out my job as his mother is to take care of him

 

Agreed. My little girl doesn't cry for no reason, so I like to make sure that she is okay and taken care of! No one has to feel obligated to do it but me and her father.....

FemmeNat01

honkytonk_kid:

juliane2004:

FemmeNat01:

I don't think you can spoil a baby.

I keep hearing this, but at what point CAN you spoil them? 3 months? 6 months? 10 months? When can they be spoiled?

If by "spoiling" them you mean showing lots of affection and quickly responding to crying, which is generally what people mean when they talk about spoiling a baby.... uh, never? I'm pretty sure as an adult I would expect my husband to come see what was wrong if I started crying, but maybe I'm just spoiled.

If by "spoiling" you mean giving them whatever they want, whenever they want it, kids can get spoiled when they are developmentally able to differentiate between a want and a need, and can delay gratification. Definitely not at 3, 6, or 10 months.

There's a huge difference between those two definitions.

I agree with all of this.