As most of you know, I work p/t at Michaels. I was at work last night. Now it wasn't busy due to weather so I would talk to each of the customers that came through the registers. This woman comes through my line and she has a large amount of scrapbooking paper. This is our conversation.
Lady: I am buying a lot of scrapbooking paper because my husband and I are trying for a baby.
Me: Oh that is great. You can keep it until you need it. I really got into scrapbooking when I was pregnant with my son who is not quite 2 yrs. old.
Lady: yeah, I am thinking we are going to have to see a "special dr." here soon to get pregnant.
Me: (seeing an opportunity) We had troubl with my son. I waited longer than most people (2 1/2 years) before admitting I had a problem and seeing a dr. for help.
Lady: Yeah we have been trying for 4 months and I am sure there is something wrong because it shouldn't take that long to get pregnant.
Me: (trying to educate her) Well it isn't considered IF until you have been trying for a year if you are under 35; 6 months if you are over 35.
Lady: Really??? Well I still think 4 months is too long even though I am only 23.
This is about where our conversation ended. If I could have, I would have reached across the counter and smacked her!! I mean 4 months...come on!!! I hope I at least educated her somewhat about getting pregnant.
Re: I wanted to smack this woman at work last night r/e IF
Those youngun's don't know anything
Good for you for trying to educate her a little though.
::smacking hand to forhead::: Oy!
Baby Beau
TTC #1 for 5 years - Many years, many tears 3 Clomid IUIs all BFN IVF#1 w/ ICSI = BFP!!!! Beta #1 - 157 11dp3dt, Beta #2 - 340 13dp3dt
FET for #2 9/1/11 Beta #1 9dp5dt - 153!!! Beta #2 11dp5dt - 426!!!
Psalm 113:9 He settles the barren woman in her home as a happy mother of children. Praise the LORD.
I admire your restraint.
This post made me wonder if the alarmist type of sex education (have unprotected sex and you'll automatically get pregnant) has warped people's minds about how easy or difficult it is to conceive.
My husband's, cousin's wife (lol! still following me?) did the same thing!!! I was pregnant with my son and she knew I had to see a "special doctor". She already had one son and got pregnant the FIRST MONTH TRYING (still burns me up), she was trying for the 2nd and had only been trying 3-4 months and was convinced something was wrong with her and that she needed to see my doctor!! I tried to educate her, but I really don't know if it worked since she was pregnant like 5 minutes later....ugh! That still gets me!
Good job on your part for trying educate her...and for not smacking her
A similar thing happened to me with my SIL's BFF. At SIL's baby shower this idiot of a woman starts talking to me about how she was TTC and it had been all of two months and she was worried because she was 36. She asked me about OPKs and she honestly had NO CLUE how babies are conceived (aside from the sex part). After my SIL had her baby (a month later or so later) I found out from her that this chick was pregnant. 8 weeks. So the moron was pregnant when we were having this conversation but she didn't know yet. I wanted to run out of the room, I was so upset.
I have a friend of a friend who is completely convinced she is not going to be able to get pregnant on her own (even though she has an almost 3 year old).
They've been trying since December. I couldn't even respond to that. There were no words.
Yup. Idiots.
I was on another board the other day, and there was a post about trying for #2. One person said something like
"It took us 4 months to get pg w/ #2, which was really surpising, since we got pg right away with #1."
Yeah...4 months is surprising. I thought the second sentence was going to say something like it took ART or a very long time for #1. I can't even participate in those conversations.
I agree with you. Getting knocked up in a sterile room with a dr., a couple of nurses, and hopefully DH isn't exactly my definition of fun.
Yeah, we laugh. With IVF, we weren't even there when we conceived. It was the lab tech all on her own! We were driving home.
Although, it's a good story to tell, "I conceived while in the car driving home..." People give interesting looks...
Just picturing the looks on people's faces when you tell them this makes me LAUGH
HA! I had a similar convo with my sister -- she found out she was PG after TWO months of trying and she tells me that she was nervous to call her friend and say "that she was FINALLY pregnant" b/c her friend was trying too. I politely told her that using the word "finally" when you've been trying 2 months is probably not appropriate.
Mind you - she knew it took me 3 and a half years!!
Yeah, I have to agree with this. Although it's annoying to hear women complaining about not getting pregnant after just a few months trying, those few months do seem like a long time when you are living them. IF has given all of us enough perspective to know that four months is nothing, but I certainly didn't have that perspective when we first started out. I remember crying to my DH, saying, "I think something's wrong!" after we didn't get pregnant at month 5, because I'd read that you have a 20% chance of getting pregnant each month, and I figured 20% x 5 months = 100%, = I should be pregnant after 5 months. And that's coming from an otherwise intelligent 36 (at the time) year old woman.
I would done this:
and then an eyeroll. Oh and probably would have laughed at her too (behind her back, so I wouldn't get fired).
4months?! OMG that is like a blip on a radar in the TTC world- when you are first starting.
I hope she got a papercut on her scrapbooking stuff when she took it out of the bag.