My past two births have been successfully med free. The first birth my husband missed (long story) and I actually was able to focus better laboring alone. The second time my husband was there and I had a difficult time focusing and relaxing between contractions because I was worried about him seeing me in so much pain.
Now I will be embarking on a third pregnancy but this one will be a gestational surrogacy so I'll be delivering with the baby's mother and father in the room. They have every right to be there for the birth but I'm a little concerned about how I'm going to be able to focus with two people there who I'm not close with.
I've thought about cranking up my ipod with my hypnobirthing meditations but that might be kind of rude.
Has anyone had a med free delivery with lots of family in the room or in a situation where you weren't 100% relaxed? Can you give me some tips for keeping centered and focused?