TTC after 35

today's update (Warning: TMI m/c details enclosed)

I know this maybe belongs on the m/c board but I really feel more comfortable over here; I do indeed seem to be having a m/c but I've been on that board before and I just can't deal with all the sadness over there again, at least not right now.  I'd rather tell you folks what's happening, especially since some of you have been following along anyway.  So, please stop reading now if you do not want to read about physical stuff having to do with m/c.

 

 

Last night: a little red blood each time I urinated, just enough to tinge the toilet bowl water, not just when I wiped.  No cramps after sometime in the late afternoon.  I was afraid to go to sleep b/c I read about people having horrible m/c cramping, and DH couldn't get here until tonight (I'm waiting for him now).  So he and I left our iphones on speaker all night so that he was "here" with me, which allowed me to get calm enough to sleep (except for the one time I got up to use the toilet, with more blood like that described above).  Other than an acupuncture appointment which was very good (though the needles hurt at first, she said probably because of my hormones being completely out of whack) and totally relaxed me (I've become the world's biggest fan of acupuncture in just one week), I've been home in bed all day, sleeping etc.  A little spotting when I wiped but the red bleeding seemed to have stopped.  Just now, I finally needed to have a small bowel movement (I'm usually very regular, but think I hadn't had one yet due to the stress of all this) and in the process I also passed two gobs (that's the best way I can think of to describe/measure them) of dark brown clumpy sludge-like stuff -- blood or tissue or both, I don't know.  Still no cramps, and I think my breasts feel smaller than they did yesterday.  My new theory is that my "period" last week was actually a m/c that just happened to come when my period was due and this stuff is what's left over? And that maybe my first acupuncture session on Monday afternoon sort of "woke up" my system and made it realize it needed to keep processing?  I honestly don't know.  Anyway, I feel sad, but I also feel a little better having a better sense of what is really going on rather than the total shock and confusion of Wednesday night and yesterday.  The second beta is tomorrow morning but I think all this is enough to make me feel confident (if that's the word) in not expecting anything but bad news.

This has all been so weird and exhausting.

 

 

 

me - 41 (dx: DOR); DH - 53 (no problems); 7/18/09 - married!; 8/4/09 - BFP on first (real)try; 9/14/09 - missed m/c; 9/15/09 - d&c; 11/09 - 3/10 - 4 natural cycles = BFN; 4/10 - dx hyperthyroidism caused by Graves' disease; 6/10 - thyroidectomy; 7/10 - 12/10 - 1 natural and 5 medicated IUI cycles = BFN; 1/11 - new RE; dx low ovarian reserve (AMH .42; 1/26/11 -- BFP (ectopic) from IUI #6; methotrexate 2/10/11; 6/2/11 - IVF #1 = BFN; 9/12/11 - prescreening for DE; 9/15/11 - IUI #7 (unmedicated)= BFN; 11/8 - begin DE cycle (shared risk program); 12/5 - ER (5 eggs/4 mature/3 fertilized/2 left by day 5) 12/10 - ET of one 1BB blast (expanded, "fair" quality), none to freeze; 12/22 - totally shocked by +hpt; beta #1 = 413; #2 = 3952 2/14 - CVS reveals a healthy baby girl! EDD: 8/27/12 DD born 8/31/12, 10 lbs 10 oz and perfect in every way. 

Re: today's update (Warning: TMI m/c details enclosed)

  • Hey there,

    Not sure what to say really. This sounds just like what happened to me about a month ago. (minus the + HPT, i never got a +) Not sure what it is but just thinking of you and so sorry. Hang in there and just know I am here in California thinking of you!!!

    Kristin

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  • I am so sorry you are going through this.  Having a m/c is really awful, but know that we are always here for you!  Hugs!!
    Baby #1: 19 cycles, failed IUI, and 1 + IVF 3-5-07
    Baby #2: 12 cycles, 1 failed FET, natural miracle but m/c at 9 weeks then another natural miracle that stuck! 9-30-09

    TTC #3 - 4 cycles - no BFP yet!
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  • What a roller coaster,  I am so sorry.
    IVF#1 May 2011 15 Eggs Retrieved, 11 Fertilized using ICSI + HPT on 6/9/11 Beta #1 420 Beta #2 2167 US 7/1 TWINS!! Due 2/18/2012 Brooke and Nora born at 35.6 weeks Jan 20th 2012
  • So sorry to hear this, I really feel for you.  I don't think anyone is ever really prepared for something like this to happen.  Your DH is so sweet.  I love your iphone story, made me teary.  My MC started last week and my bleeding is just slowing down today.  I too had low betas.  I will say that this time with my betas never going over 1000, I have had FAR less cramping and bleeding than last time.  I have been waiting for the other shoe to drop.  I just don't think that there was ever enough that developed this time even though we didn't know it was over until 6.5 weeks. Hopefully there will not be too much physical pain for you, (there is always that emotional pain and stress no matter how far along you are).  I hope your discomfort is minimal and you feel better soon.  Thinking of you!
    Me: 37 DH: 43 Married 9/2004 TTC since 9/2005 CP Dec 2006 MC June 2008 at 6 weeks MC April 2010 at 9 weeks 50 clomid+IUI 11/2010=BFN 50 clomid+IUI 12/2010=BFP MC Feb 2011 at 7 weeks 8/11 CD3 AFC=24,FSH=6.91,AMH=5.6,E2=47.9, TSH=1.27,8/26 12DPO BFP Alistair Charles "Charlie" was born 5/7 weighing 8lbs, 10oz and 22" was long imageimageimageimage
  • I am so sorry and I am thinking about you. Please come here to talk about this all you need. ((hugs))
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  • I'm so sorry you are going through this.  I hope you feel better soon (and am still hopeful for your Beta results).
    DD2- May 2012 Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker 1/26/11- missed m/c @ 12 weeks
  • so sorry.

    this is not an easy ride.  sorry yours has been so all over the place lately. 

  • I do not have the right words, and I am so very sorry you are going through this.  I am glad to hear you have such a loving supportive husband.
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  • <<Hugs>>
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  • I am so sorry you are having to go through this alone.  I hope your dh gets there soon and can offer some comfort.   Hugs to you...
    Me: 40 Dh: 41, TTC since August 2009, began Acupuncture and Herbs Sept 2011, began Temping and Charting Nov 2011. image
  • Sending you lots of hugs! So sorry you are going through this. Your husband is such a sweetie. I'm glad he's there now. Take care!

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  • So sorry that you're having to go through this.  Hope DH is home soon to offer you some support.  Thinking of you, sending hugs your way.
    TTC since 10/09 Me-43 DH-44 RE and testing 10/10-11/10, Recommending IVF 1/11 New RE AMA and DOR-DH low motility IVF #1.1 cancelled 3/11 due to poor response IVF #1.2 May 2011, one perfect 8-cell embryo, 3dt-BFN, IVF #2.1 Converted to IUI d/t poor response. New RE 9/2011. IVF 2.2 completed using HGH,EPP,DHEA, Q-10 and accupuncture. Transferred one 8-cell, grade one embryo on 10/19. BFP 10/31/11 Chemical pregancy on 11/2/11. Started stims for IVF #3, our final try, on 12-2-11. ET on 12/18. Transferred 3 Grade A embryos-BFFN Planning DE IVF, late March/early April- Donors ER expected to be 4/2-4/4. PAIF/SAIF welcome
  • Coop,

    I'm so sorry you are going through this. I hope DH is home so you aren't by yourself. The entire situation sucks.Hugs;(

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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    SAIF/PAIF Welcome


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  • Hope it gets better. I am sad with u for your mc.
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  • I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm glad your DH will be there for you this weekend.
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