how many days until going back to work?

taurus424

how many days after your M/Pl did you go back to work?

(not necessarily what your doctor told you would be okay to go back-but when you actually went back)

lavril

I started spotting on Sunday 12/26, found out it was a missed m/c on Monday 12/27, naturally m/c on 12/28, D&C 12/29 (wed).  I took Mon-Thurs off, had friday off for New Years, and went back to work on Monday.  One week off total.

ligeia18

I took the three days after my natural m/c off, and went back for Friday. The first day it was medically necessary, the second day it was emotionally necessary, and the third day I just wasn't ready. I'm a teacher and didn't want to deal with my students and colleagues making comments about my absence when I was in a fragile emotional state. My m/c was Monday (MLK birthday); I felt ready by Friday.

ciclon01

I took off a month and felt like I could have used some more time.  But depending on where you work you may be entitled to your full maternity leave (I think if you are more than 20 weeks gestation this is the case).  I know someone who did take her full maternity leave.  I was entitled to it but chose to go back rather than stay home because I thought trying to think of something else might be good for me.  I still find it hard to care about anything so it is difficult, but it makes me get up in the morning.  Plus my husband and I are taking another week in February to go to the caribbean and just be alone together.  So altogether it will be 5 weeks I took off.

heroesforsale

Had a natural M/C this past Monday and returned to work today.  You won't feel ready to return (especially if you told people at work you were pregnant) but I actually feel better being here.  Gives me something to do.

 Everyone is different, go back when you are mentally and physically ready. 

jen1721

I teach 2nd grade and took off a full week.  My Dr suggested that I take two, but I had report cards to do!

livy91606

I started miscarrying on Monday 1-17 (MLK day--day off) and went back to work (I am a teacher) on Tuesday.  I felt like there was nothing I could do if I stayed home but sit and cry.  I wanted to stay busy and keep my mind off things.  Plus it is way more work to prepare for a sub than it is to just come and teach.  I never use sick days!

I think it just depends on how you deal with loss and if you are physically able to work.  My worst bleeding and cramps were on Monday.  By Tuesday, I was physically doing well.

ziggy23213

I didn't stay home at all.  I'm a nanny for 11-month-old twins, though, so it was sort of like being at home.  But I was at work taking care of them and crying and in horrible pain.  It was pretty awful, but I felt too bad making their parents stay home from work when I probably just would have been doing the same thing at my house.  

JThomas221

I had a missed m/c discovered on a Monday, D&C that Wednesday. I took Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, and then I had the weekend off. Halfway through my shift on Friday I realized I should have taken that day off too. My whole body was achy, my back was killing me, and I was physically and mentally exhausted. I would have loved to have taken more time, but management didn't really make it easy for me to take time off. One manager actually had me sitting in the office Tuesday night calling people to cover my shift for the next day, when I had to be at the hospital for my D&C at 5:30 the next morning.

sdlaura

I had a D&E at 21 weeks on a Tuesday and Wednesday (it takes two days at that point to dilate your cervix enough).  I "worked from home" - and I put that loosely - on Thursday and Friday, and went back to work on Monday.  Even though the surgery was obviously more involved than a natural m/c or an early D&C, I had already been able to deal with some of the emotional stuff since it had been 2.5 weeks since our original awful diagnosis and 1 week since our final decision (they just couldn't get me in for the D&E right away - which was not fun since at that point the baby was moving around all the time).  

So I can see potentially taking more time off if the loss was more of a surprise, to deal with the emotional side of things.  I was happy to have a distraction by going back to work, and I don't do very well at all with sitting still.

spacedolphin11

I found out I was miscarrying on a Friday, and took the following week off to let it happen (and because I was emotionally spent.) Then I ended up needing a D&C, which I couldn't get until the following week, so I ended up working Monday and Tuesday and taking Wednesday and Thursday off. I don't work Fridays and have Monday off (I work at a high school and there's no school), so I now have an extra long weekend to recover and I'll be back at work on Monday. I feel ready to work... but not ready to explain my absence. : P