Just came out on FB...

Pearly609

Not sure why, but I did.  Let the questions begin..."Why"? "Did you plan this"? "Your kids are grown, why would you do that"? "Better you then me"? "Are you okay with this"? As these are some of the questions I've been asked already.

Peppernut

I hope you get lots of "Congratulations!" "When are you due?" "How wonderful" and of course "Will you find out the gender?"

 

Pearly609

To my surprise, I'm getting all good responses.  Just one person said, "I couldn't do it, good luck". I'm fine with that.  Now all I have to do is get the courage to tell my dad.  As old as I am, I'm scared to tell my father, smh...I'm not married and don't plan on marrying in the conventional way, he's very religious and I no longer am but I still care about how he'll feel.  So, not rushing to tell him.  Then again, he may surprise me and I'd worry for nothing.

Vincent

Doesn't it feel great to be surprised, especially when we get all worked up thinking responses/reactions will be negative and they aren't.  I also came out on FB around week 14 and received a lot of positive thoughts when I was concerned the whole time people would be thinking "Why did you guys wait so long". People can be surprising.  I?m glad that your friends and family are being supportive.   

LauraLynneC

I've announced on FB several times now - first one was subtle "we're adding two feet to our house this summer" - and most people caught on and congratulated us.  Then I posted the Ultrasound and tagged my husband in it - a few more people asked "are you PREGNANT?!" and I told them yes.  A few people messaged me and asked if I was pregnant and I told them yes.  Finally I just posted "Baby Lasname due July 6, 2011" and MORE people caught on.  But as of yesterday, some people are still asking "am I slow or are you pregnant??"  It's cracking me up. 

I can't believe people would post anything even remotely negative - that's just rude. 

mcwhittaker

I announced on facebook around 10 weeks. Everyone knew my husband and I had no intention of ever having kids.

Most of my friends/relatives have enough tact to say things like "WOW" and "OMG I'm calling you now"

My cousin in texas was the only idiot that said "is this a good thing?"

Of course all the questions you mentioned above got asked via phone, but really that's at least a bit more tactful than leaving it on facebook imho.

Everyone was really excited for us, even tho we weren't sure we were yet. And they were very very supportive with statements like "it will be worth it, i promise" or "your live will totally change yes, but it will be for the better, trust me"

 

bridgeybride

mcwhittaker:

My cousin in texas was the only idiot that said "is this a good thing?"

 "your live will totally change yes, but it will be for the better, trust me"

 

Can not believe your cousin would actually say that.. but then again.. people say the dumbest things.  I've heard my fair share of them... 

As for your life changing.. heard that SO much with my last preganancy it used to annoy me.... but it is so true...

and OP.. glad you're getting better responses than you thought you would.  Nice that you're feeling support... and once your LO arrives.. even more.

GoEco

I didn't come out on FB or anything, but we are beginning to tell people.  I'm 21 wks now.  Around 8wks, I put some feelers out.  Not very positive responses.  My actually' joked she kill me if I got pregnant again.  I didn't take it as a joke, so naturally, was terrified to tell her.  That's why we put it off.  I'm 35 and still scared of my mom.  Saturday, I set up a lunch date with her and just kind of blurted it out.  She was very happy about the baby, a little upset that I had waited 5 months to tell her.  I work with her every day, I asked how she hadn't noticed.  She said that she just thought I was gaining weight and didn't want to hurt my feelings.  Now she pats my stomach and talks about our baby.  I can see that's going to get old real soon.  My dad is trying to figure out how to add an additional room onto my house.  I had a Dr. appointment today and he seriously wanted to take off of work today to drive me(only 45 min. drive).  When my son was born, I lived 4 hrs away.  I can't figure out how they coped.  

Sorry, went a little long.  What I'm trying to say, you can't fear other people's opinions.  Don't let anyone take your happiness away.  Life is way too short, and new life is way to precious. 

Pearly609

GoEco:

I didn't come out on FB or anything, but we are beginning to tell people.  I'm 21 wks now.  Around 8wks, I put some feelers out.  Not very positive responses.  My actually' joked she kill me if I got pregnant again.  I didn't take it as a joke, so naturally, was terrified to tell her.  That's why we put it off.  I'm 35 and still scared of my mom.  Saturday, I set up a lunch date with her and just kind of blurted it out.  She was very happy about the baby, a little upset that I had waited 5 months to tell her.  I work with her every day, I asked how she hadn't noticed.  She said that she just thought I was gaining weight and didn't want to hurt my feelings.  Now she pats my stomach and talks about our baby.  I can see that's going to get old real soon.  My dad is trying to figure out how to add an additional room onto my house.  I had a Dr. appointment today and he seriously wanted to take off of work today to drive me(only 45 min. drive).  When my son was born, I lived 4 hrs away.  I can't figure out how they coped.  

Sorry, went a little long.  What I'm trying to say, you can't fear other people's opinions.  Don't let anyone take your happiness away.  Life is way too short, and new life is way to precious. 

Thank you GoEco, words to live by