I had my parent teacher yesterday about my daughter who will be 4 in April. She is doing well academically and socially but is not really dealing with her peers when it comes to confrontation. Her teacher said if someone pushes her or hits her, she won't say anything and just lets it go. She said she is extremely friendly and never hits other students. She said she is starting to get better and will defend herself now, but very passively. So how do we deal with this? I do not want to encourage her to fight however we do not want her to be picked on. Her younger sister also hits her at times and she will defend herself or she will come and tell us/cries at times. My mom says that our interference with her and our younger dd is what is allowing the passive behavior at school. She believes if the younger dd hits the older dd, then we should allow the older one to hit her back. I just don't agree with this, your thoughts?