those pregnant with #2 or more

rosesandpeonies

My csection is quickly approaching and I am getting soooo nervous about leaving my daughter.  I know she is in very good hands with her dad, and my parents, but I have this separation anxiety that I am feeling.  I have adult separation anxiety as it is....I know it is something that you are supposed to get over when you are younger....but my parents separated when I was 12 years old and my dad would come home and leave again...causing my anxiety never to go away.  UGH!!!  I have a feeling I will be crying my eyes out when the time comes to leave for the hospital.  Any thoughts that might make me feel better???

alli&pat

I've got nothing but empathy...I'm so sad to have to be away from DS for a few days.  He will come visit but I know it will be unfair to him to expect him to stay cooped up in a small hospital room for too long to visit.  DH will come and go from the hospital to see him, but DS will mostly be in my mom's care while we are at the hospital having DD.  I've already been on the verge of tears several times in the past weeks as I think about robbing him of his only-child, momma's boy status...and momma going away for a few days and coming back with another baby. 

BunniesAreSoft

I'm the same way. Over the past year I've had to leave town for work, (which was torture), so its not like its the first time. But it still makes me sad.

flowerchild77

I feel for you.

Not wanting to leave my dd was about 10% of the reason i decided on a homebirth. :P

SarahTx5701

When I was admitted at 27 weeks it killed me to be away from ds. It was 4 days and I hated it. He wouldn't come near me when he came to visit also because he was scared. On one hand, it kind of gave me a glimpse into what to expect with him but on the other hand it is still sad. Thankfully he will have all the grandparents here to keep him busy, plus he'll get to meet his baby brother, which he is very excited about so it should be easier this time.

 

nici84

Before Christmas I hadnt had a full night away from DD since she was born (shes 2 1/2) I stay home with her, so most of my time is spent with her, with the small exception of the rare date night, or long appointment or something.

I was a lil anxious too about leaving her. So my DBF and I arranged a few nights where she spent the night with a family member, be it DBFs mom, or cousin. The first night was just as unexpected as going into labor will be, I had the stomach flu and DBF HAD to work, so she stayed with DBFs mom and dad. It was wierd that was for sure. Especially waking up and she wasnt in the house. I think I might still be anxious a little while Im in the hospital and shes in bed be it at home with her DBF, or at a relatives. But with hope DBF can get all the days Im in the hospital off, so she can be there with me & LO then home to bed.

But having her spend a few nights someplace else, where I could call/text and find out how she was and everything, helped a lot!!! Pretty much just know that they are safe, and that you chose that/those people to watch your child for a reason, and as a mom you know you can trust these people, bc they love your child as much as you do.

pinkpajamapants

flowerchild77:

I feel for you.

Not wanting to leave my dd was about 10% of the reason i decided on a homebirth. :P

exactly this!!!!

alexiscaroline

omg i totally understand, i am getting so anxious about leaving DD! she is super attached to me, as I am to her ... I know that this is one reason why having another will be beneficial to all, but still!!! not sure if i will need a section, am going to try for VBAC and have a growth US in two wks to see if the size will work for me but I'm hoping I can deliver vaginally, as then I'll be home faster! I'm sure the kids will be fine (DH has already said she is watching TV with him until she falls asleep every night, greeeeeeat haha) it's us mommies who will have a hard time!

JessiRaye

I will deliver my 3rd tomorrow (scheduled c-section) and I am feeling the same way. I have been more worried about my guys at home than the actual surgery, lol. I am trying to remind myself that my family and DH's family will take good care of the kids AND my H will be back and forth from the hospital....But my youngest just turned 2 and he is really attached to me. My 5 year old and I have a good schedule going with getting him on and off the bus, homework, play time etc. AAHH! I just need to relinquish control and focus on my newest baby boy.

GL to you! I'm sure our LOs will be juuuust fine:) And in actuality, the time will go by fast. Before we know it we will be home again with them!

Aprilynn0206

Oh my gosh- I don't think I have separation issues w/ DD but I definitely tear up at the thought of parting with her before my c/s. I'm tearing up right now!! That's a huge moment for our families- your last moments as a family of 3 (or however many you have.) What a milestone!! I think initially leaving will be tough for all of us but then the nerves behind the c/s and the excitement of bringing another blessing into the world will take over and then you're reunited again!!

tarak1111

I agree with what PP said about your last moments as a family of 3.. and that I think will be what is hardest for me. 

I'm not worried about being away from him while in the hospital -- We requested a Monday C/S and if all goes as planned Tucker will continue to go to Daycare while I am at the hospital and DH will drop him off and pick him up as we normally would, the only thing that will be a little different is they will be coming to visit us at the hospital in the evening.. DH will be going home and staying with him at night and I feel like that will make me feel a whole lot better knowing he's in his own home with his daddy.