Sunday Steps!

lavril

Hi all - it's that time again!  Share your steps towards healing!

For those new to the group, each Sunday we share what steps we've made to try to heal our hearts or bodies.  No matter how big or small, we all want to celebrate the steps we're making. 

Mine - managed to talk to my friend and tell her the whole story without breaking down in tears. 

Muffinhb

not really healing but just laying on the couch was comforting for me.

 

 

 

kmn3

I'm feeling pretty good this week.  It sneaks up on me at times and I'm lazier than normal, but had a good doctor's appointment this week.  I'm really feeling "up" on the ordeal right now.  I'm sure I'll fall as some point though....

ekmOC

I went back to work this week.  I am getting better at just saying "thank you," without crying when someone tells me how sorry they are.  I chose a piece of jewelry that I will wear in memory of Angeline.  I designed the photo book that I am having made of my favorite pictures of her.  

mrs-smith2b

I started a blog today & worked on making a married bio.  It was a great distraction & my husband was very helpful which reminded me that I am a lucky woman. 

MrsMitty08

I started running again about a month after my m/c and that has helped with my healing.  I have a big race coming up next month that I am looking forward to.

Even though I think I have been able to talk more openly now about my m/c, some repressed sadness over the loss of my father last March has come even more to a head. I think it's healthy to deal with it all, though.

tiffany119

Honestly, today was the biggest day of healing for me. Our best friends (more like family) invited us over so the boys could watch football and it helped to just leave the couch. Even though I thought I'd only stay for 30 minutes, we ended up staying for over 4 hours. When the boys left to go pick up pizza, my bestie just comforted me and we had girl talk. They have a 5 month old, and I thought it'd be WAY hard being around him, but it really wasn't as bad as I expected.

Tomorrow's plan is to return to school and work. Praying for God to get me through.

88eve88

I'm not sure if mine is healing for my heart or my body, but it sure made me happy today.

Today is the first day since Dec.9 that I haven't had to wear a pad or pantyliner for either spotting or bleeding (yes, I had a VERY drawn out m/c).  I feel so free and liberated!!  It's been way too long and I'm so happy to be able to wear my "pretty" panties and thongs again.  Is that weird??

taurus424

today I left the house to go to my mothers for supper. It was ther first time i left to go somewhere other than the cemetary or dr appt. felt good to get some fresh air.

tiffany119

88eve88:

I'm not sure if mine is healing for my heart or my body, but it sure made me happy today.

Today is the first day since Dec.9 that I haven't had to wear a pad or pantyliner for either spotting or bleeding (yes, I had a VERY drawn out m/c).  I feel so free and liberated!!  It's been way too long and I'm so happy to be able to wear my "pretty" panties and thongs again.  Is that weird??

 

Can't wait! 

pnkfaerie

I've been actively ttc again, and I'm ever so hopeful and scared out of my mind. However, this has helped me heal. It brings out a LOT of emotions and also has had physical effects. I have been eating much better, cut out sodas, drink much more water, I've continued taking my vitamins following the loss of my son. I still haven't gone back to a job yet but I've become quite the little housewife lol. Slow and surely i'll get back to where I was before the loss.

erbarmywife

This week, I talked to the social worker I worked with while Thia was in the NICU...and I seriously took her advice about going to a new infant loss support group.  Now, I just have to get back home to do it.  Also, we talked about donating my milk, which is STILL in the freezer at the NICU, and I didnt break down in tears during the conversation.  I waited until after. 

KJsbabe

I feel like I'm doing better emotionally this weekend then I have the past few weeks. I actually had the desire to get up and do something, rather then just sitting on the couch. I ran some arrons and cleaned the house. Not the biggest things, but it felt good doing them. DH and I had a really good night last night. We were intimate for the first time since we conceived (I was too scared to do it while I was pg) and had a good talk about everything that's happened. I haven't really talked to anyone about the MC except him, the doc, and you ladies. He thinks I need to find someone to confide in. Maybe I do, but it's so hard for me to talk about, and I don't know of anyone who's been through this to even talk to. Anyways, I also told him that I'm going to stop drinking, I've been kind of a wine-o on the weekends lately (not great, I know). So, all in all, I feel like I've made a lot of progress this week, a lot of steps forward. It feels good. I'm just waiting on AF to show up now so we can move on

KaLa2011

today i made it through the day without crying.

more importantly, i talked to dh about HIS feelings (he has been acting a little too nonchalant about things-he said he needs to be the strong one now) let him know he IS allowed to feel sad and act sad, i don't want him to hold it in. 

 

 

 

MegMeg0913

My HCG levels are finally dropping like they should.  Better late than never!!  That is a long awaited step in the right direction for my body!

tonesq

I didn't cry when I was at the OB's office on Friday. It was really hard.

tiffany119

Ok - so I was really proud of myself for not crying today..but I just ruined that while hugging DH.

So, instead, I'm going to be proud of myself for not sobbing for the first time.

One step forward, two steps back. But that's ok.

Fallon621

Just trying to stay on bed rest so I can be physically healthy when we TTC again.  Taking all my meds.  And made an appointment to speak to some one professionally about some of the things I'm feeling.

ligeia18

I went back to work and faced all family members who had heard about my m/c. I get uncomfortable around the pity ("You poor thing...") so I was dreading it, but I figured that the more "normal" I acted, the less they would try to talk to me about it. It sort of worked, but the good thing is that it's done and now when I see my family, it might not be the first thing they think about.

PiperS

I talked to my pregnant BFF several times. At first she was too open about everything that was going on but I think she sensed my discomfort and has stopped talking about her pregnancy. It is still hard to talk to her because our dates were so close but I am doing better with it. The sadness is still there but I am looking forward and hoping for a November baby!

 

LDW80

I went with my husband to Chicago and stayed in a nice hotel.  Although we couldn't do it yet because of the d&c it was nice to get away.  I also started reading "Empty Cradle, Broken Heart" and that has helped ALOT with the healing process.

Froggy76

I kept myself really busy this weekend hanging out with friends.  None of them know about my m/c and it felt really good to just have fun without anyone feeling sorry for me.  I am really starting to feel more optimistic about our chances of a healthy pregnancy next time.

Next, I need to start calling family and breaking the silence since everyone is either too scared to call me, or they have tried calling and I haven't picked up the phone.  I also need to BD with DH- our two week wait ended this weekend and I just wasn't ready.  The thought of it still makes me want to cry.