Hubs just got Laid Off

MattMeg7

So, I think I'm just looking for some support!  My husband was informed a week ago that he was going to be laid off.  He is a union construction worker, so we know at anytime this could happen, but seriously right now?  We, at the time were two weeks away from our due date.  They told him it would be for around 3 weeks, but another group of guys had gotten laid off about a month before his group did.  Well, guess what, they are still off a month and a half later.  Even with as horrible of timing as it is, at least now he doesn't have to take time off when our little Lucas gets here...  We are 39 weeks today and panicing as to how we are going to pay our bills.  I am trying to stay positive to hopefully steer clear of PPD, but it is hard trying to keep both of our spirits up.  He just feels like so much less of a man because he feels as though he can't provide for his budding family.  Any suggestions on how to keep our spirits up or is anybody else experiencing this as well??  Thanks in advance!!

jess1984

I can understand. DH was only supposed to be off for 20 days at xmas, but had been off 60 days. Right now he is working for way less pay somewhere until the season starts up again (heavy equipment op) If he had been told before xmas that he wouldn't be going back until mid feb he probably could have gotten something better but wasn't told until early Jan. It's frustrating and hard, but you just got to look at the positives that he will be back soon and hopefully that he will be able to be with you for the first week that your lo is home. Other then that I wish you luck and I totally understand what yo uare dealing with. My dh is also feeling very down abotu his situation as well. Good luck to you.

Disneygeek77

If he hasn't done os already, he needs to sign up for unemployment.  It can take a while to get it rolling so the sooner he applies the better.

kabarbanel

Just wanted to say good luck and hope he finds a job soon!

Jenniferk08

H is also union so I know the pain.  With us with are never 100% sure how long the job will last or when the next one will start. 

Scout05

I'm so sorry, I hope he finds something else quickly.

brittbergh

My Boyfriend is a Union Ironworker, and I pray this job he is on lasts a while! He is so calm knowing that he works based upon the job and how long it lasts, but it freaks me out!! GL and hopefully something will come through soon!

BeetleLinz1125

Df is a union dump truck driver...he hasn't worked since November and his callback date is May1st. I understand how you feel! Hopefully it will only be for a few weeks.

munica00

My husband is not working now, he is waiting for his new job to start. He has had orientation but is waiting for the call for his start date, which should be any day now, but we think that daily. I was told by my doctor to stop working 2 1/2 weeks ago, so we have had no income coming in for 3 weeks. I get scared when I think about it, but I added up our savings to other money to know where we stand with bills to know when I have to start work again if he is not yet working. I am just trying to be mentally prepared and save all the money we can. Just try to stay unstressed and remember it's only temporary. If you need to, ask to borrow money from parents or off your credit cards to alleviate some financial worries- it's not ideal but better than you freaking out about that. good luck!

LynsiBHM

Wow, crappy timing huh?  I'm sorry you have to deal with that at any time, but especially now!  Can he collect unemployment?  Does he ever do side jobs for some extra cash?  Most people I know in construction work for themselves on the side when times are slow. It obviously isn't a regular paycheck, but it helps!  Throw an ad on craigslist or a small local paper.

No matter what happens, you'll get through it.  Hopefully you have some family and friends close to you for support.  Good luck.

toadybug

Oh no.  I'm so sorry you're having to deal with that stress right now right when you're about to have your baby.   I hope things turn around for your family soon!

heylee

I'm sorry

lauren0515

I understand completely.  My DH was told last week that his facility is closing and he will be out of a job on March first, about a month before our son is due.  He works for the state justice department.  I understand the stress.  Hopefully your DH will find something soon.  Try not to stress too much and take care of yourself.  I know it is easier said than done.

MattMeg7

Thank you so much for all of the well wishes!  He has filed for unemployment, which we got his statement on how much his check is going to be on Saturday, and it is only going to be about 30% of his wages before he got laid off...  He has been trying to get his business up and running on the side for Mutual of Omaha selling life, health, disability and long term care insurance, but those things aren't a priority to most people and so he is having a hard time trying to find clients.  He has been working at it for a while now, but wouldn't you know as soon as he gets laid off one of the policies is getting ready to go issued right around the time he is supposed to get his first unemployment check, so we are just praying it doesn't completely mess up his unemployment.  It has been so long since we have had to do anything with unemployment for him, we aren't 100% sure how the check from the policy with MOO will affect his unemployment.  He has put an ad on craigslist for just odds and ends of things, but so far no responses!  Luckily when he was working and since we found out we were pregnant, we had been saving money, amount we are going to be paying for daycare weekly, for my maternity leave, so that maybe I could take more than 6 weeks off.  But, it is looking, at this point, that that extra money we had saved will have to help out with bills.  So, from that aspect, we are lucky to have been frugal with our finances most of the pregnancy...  And it is one of those things you don't want to tell people because you don't want them to feel sorry for you, but we can't just run around acting like everything is perfect either...  We have an awesome support group of friends and church friends, but neither one of us have a large family and both of our parents aren't in the area, so that is why I turned to you guys!  I have read some posts before and was amazed how everybody really comes together, so I figured I would give it a try!  You guys are truly amazing and have really brightened my day with the outpouring of support you have shown!