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3rd Trimester
Going to smack DH (vent obviously)
So my 38 week appointment yesterday was less than spectacular. First, LO wasn't moving enough for the doctor on the NST so we spent over an hour and a half hooked up waiting for her to wake her lazy butt up. Then the OB came in and told me that my induction date is going to be the 31st instead of the 27th (not a big deal) because my chance of a c-section is going up the bigger she gets because he doesn't think she'll be able to fit in my pelvis. Fabulous! I know as long as she comes out healthy that's all that really matters, but I was pretty disappointed that I went from being 1 centimeter dilated three weeks ago, to being completely closed and not thinned out at all. Again, Fabulous! But the worst part of all of this, DH drives us home and I started crying, he then precedes to call me selfish and says I'm making too big of a deal about this. So of course, I start to cry more. He then tells me he's disappointed that I didn't ask more questions and seem to care more about the health of our daughter! Ahhh! I could kill him right now for being such an a$$. I want her to be healthy more than anything, but I still get to be nervous about labor and scared about a possible c-section right?
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Re: Going to smack DH (vent obviously)
I would smack my DH upside the head if he said something like that to me. Of course you want her to be healthy. If he was so concered about it, why didn't be go with you?
He's probably anxious about your new baby coming too but you're the one who has carried her all this time, and you're the one with an impending delivery... he needs to adjust his attitude!
Oh i know what you are feeling. This is number 3 for me, and I am scared because the doctors tell me that if I go till 40 weeks, baby could be between 12 and 13 lbs and they will schedule a c-section. Last week at my 36 week appointment I was 1 cm and 50% effaced and that is odd for me, because with the other 2 I was already at 2 or 3 cm by that point and at least 80%. So the doctor sent me from my appointment yesterday right to the L&D to have my BP monitored, and they did a cervical check and said there was no change! I was completely upset then, because I have had some pretty intense contractions on and off for the past 3 days! So now I am worried that I cannot get anymore done.
So I get home and my husband says, "well what kind of natural things do you need to do to get things going"? I was like WELL, You need to put out (sorry, lol TMI) then last night he rolled over and went to bed. Then this morning he brought it up again about needing to do stuff to get things going again!!! I wanted to smack him! I have heard so many scary stories about people that have had really big babies and one told me that her aunt actually broke her back when she had hers! So I am scared to death I already have back issues, That is all I need!
Seriously?? She was obviously kidding....I don't think there's any cause for concern.
ANYWAY, don't feel too bad about it. Chances are YH is just as scared about the whole thing, especially when a possible surgery is involved. So, maybe that's why he pulled out his jerk card. Just talk to him and ask him what his concerns are, then find out why he didn't feel the need to ask the Dr anything!
I agree, I'm pretty sure that was a humorous statement.
Also men handle their fears differently. I know you are feeling emotional and sensitive right now, but try to set that aside and give your husband the benefit of the doubt. He shouldn't have said it, but, I know that in the past my husband has pulled out the jerk card when he was concerned about something. A little communication goes a long way. Good luck with everything
It sounds like your DH is scared. It's super not fair for him to take it out on you, but it sounds like he doesn't understand what's going and wants you to be able to explain it to him. Can he call and speak to your doctor so the doctor can explain more and help alleviate DH's fears? You're scared enough bc it's actually going to happen to you. DH needs to remain calm.
Oh and I'd demand an apology out of DH. He crossed the line with his comment.
Lady you are kidding me with that statement right?? She is at the point in her pregnancy when she is ready to be done. Why dont you get off your high horse for a minute and get the fact that she is upset about how her DH is acting.
What's wrong with that? Obviously her daughter is fine after the NST. I call nugget my little lazy ass during the NST because he always sleeps through it or takes some time to wake up. He passes once he wakes up and that's what's important.
ditto this! He's going to be LO's parent too, it's not all hanging on your shoulders. If he wants to know something he needs to ask. This is an emotional time for you and he needs to be supportive. It's not like he's the one who has to have a whole person exit out through his body whether c-section or vaginal! You stay strong and everything will be ok.
I would definitely call the OB and question the statement that your baby won't fit through your pelvis, unless you are OK with a c-section. Our bodies rarely produce babies that are too large to pass through. And to get back at DH for being a jerk, I would ask him to research it with you so you can both talk to the OB since the pregnancy and both of yours!
Sorry, I hope he apologizes and realizes he was being insensitive!
Why the frick didn't HE ask any mo fo questions??? He's climbing all up your bunghole about not asking questions- hello, if he was there HE should have taken charge and asked questions!!
Calm down, and then come back to him and let him know when you were in the appointment you didn't have any questions prepared for the doctor and sit down and ask him to help you think of questions. You can always call the office and ask for the doctor to call you to answer your questions. But first, sit down with him and tell him he did NOT have a right to go off on you the way he did and that you need an apology. If he's scared about a c/s, FINE, he has as much right as you do to be scared- you're going in for a major operation, and you are his wife. But, he had no right to turn his fear into a reason to be a douche canoe to you.