Need a rest...WWYD?

Gerts

At this point, I'm 34 weeks prego, have a rambunctious 2.5 year old, a demanding full time job, a dirty house, a dog that needs walking, etc.

And today I just can't handle it anymore.

You know the drill: can't sleep, feel bad, headaches, backaches, nausea, constant kicking, the works. I just want to crawl into bed with a book and stay there for the rest of the day. Since my first was born, I've never been able to do anything like that.

But my husband has his own stuff to do. I feel like he'll be resentful if I even ask. WWYD?

kabarbanel

Why would that make him resentful? If you're not feeling well and need a break, then that's what you need to do.

BunniesAreSoft

I would ask for his help. What kind of stuff does he need to do? I mean, what you've listed above seems like something that two working parents should share equally and then with you being pregnant on top of it he needs to kick in with some extra help at this point.

 I'm right there with you, I'm 34 weeks on Sunday, work full time and have a two year old and a dirty dog that needs to be bathed. My husband, who also works, has to step it up at this point and help more than he already does (he helps ALOT) because carrying baby Zoe at this point is incredibly painful and exhausting. 

You have to carry the baby = he does extra work. End of story.

Can you tell I'm to the exhausted, no BS point right now?  

 GL!

 

 

JenSaidYes

sounds like the "stuff" that needs to be done is HIS stuff too.  Sounds like you feel the need to get permission to rest and that would so not fly here.  DH, DS and I were out and about this morning, on the way home my back started to hurt pretty bad, so I said to DH, "I'm not feeling well, when we get home I am going to lay down and rest" which Dh then understands means that he is responsible for DS- like changing the bathroom accident that just happened and I listened to on the monitor.  

Your DD is his too, it is his house too, and maybe the dog?  He needs to step uo and realize that your body is working 24/7 and sometimes you need some down time. 

alli&pat

Repeat after me: "I am not the only one responsible for my home.  I am not a single parent.  It is OK if I can't do it all."

Then I would ask DH to occupy DD and I would curl up in bed for a bit.  In fact, I just passed off DS to my DH, I'm ignoring the carpets that need vaccumed and I'm about to take a nice, long bath!

heylee

Ask, why shouldn't you get some time to rest??

ctodd498

I remember one point being so stressed and exhausted that I just looked at my hubby and said, "I need your help."  Of course, I was crying at the time, but he was fabulous about it.  I explained to him that I wasn't saying that he didn't help, just that I needed a little more than usual that day.  Maybe your husband just needs you to lay it out there for him that you're feeling overwhelmed and need some time to yourself.