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I didn't know...(pg mentioned)

JennF4185JennF4185
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HOW BAD IT HURTS!!  My SIL was over for dinner tonight and they announced they are expecting their second child.  Don't get me wrong, I am excited for them, but I couldn't give it my all.  I just felt my heart sink to the floor. I WAS SUPPOSE TO BE THE NEXT TO HAVE A BABY! I have dealt with acquaintances telling me their expecting, but this being so close to me, it just hurt way worse!  I had to leave the room and I was crying hysterical for a good 10 minutes.  I wish them a very happy and healthy 9 months, but I have to say deep down inside, I feel totally defeated.  Happy friday to me!!!  :(
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  • PachitaPachita member

    I was in your shoes a little over 3 months ago....when my SIL announced she was PG. I went home crying to DH and venting.  It was difficult to be happy for her knowing that I should have been 2 months ahead of her.  I know how you feel.

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  • TapatioTapatio

    This is EXACTLY how I felt when I found out my little sister was pregnant. I was supposed to have the next baby in the family. It was MY turn, not my baby sister. I felt like the rug had been pulled from underneath me and the world seemed so fvckin' unfair! Having to fake happiness for her was such a difficult moment.

    I know you wish nothing but the best for your SIL and that shows what a great heart you have. I'm so sorry you feel defeated. You WILL have your turn some day and it WILL be your take home baby. ((huge hugs))

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  • NY-allieNY-allie
    I've gone through this so many times this month.  I've had 4 friends announce their pg.  It hurts every time because I think that I should be there with them experiencing it too.
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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    Sending hugs

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  • LaraGaudessLaraGaudess member
    This was me as well, 4 days after I lost my baby, I found out that my sister in law was pregnant. It totally sucked (for me). All my friends are having babies now too, and I'm the odd one out. I hope it gets better for all of us, it sucks feeling like you've been kicked out of the cool kids club.
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  • cutebride73cutebride73 member

    (((hugs)))  I know it is really hard.  I have had a couple of pregnancy announcements like that.  I am happy for them, but it hurts at the same time.  In fact there were 2 right near my 2 fall EDD's - one of my good friends and DH's counsin's wife.  It's just hard to accept that they have what you want so badly and should have had. 

    I really hope it is your turn soon!!  

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  • sarahandadam1029sarahandadam1029
    {{HUGS}} I completely understand how you feel.
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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    (((Hugs)))  I felt the same way when a really good friend told me she was expecting.  It's not that I'm not happy for her, but it made me so sad for myself.
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  • clausekaclauseka member
    So sorry your week is ending that way.  I think it's even harder to hear baby news from those who are closer to us.  I know it was harder for me when my SIL got pregnant than more distant relatives made announcements.  I am truly happy for them, but it only amplifies my own disappointment.  I feel your pain and wish you didn't have to carry it.  ((Hugs to You))
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  • vitanvitan member

    Just wanted to also say that I know exactly how you felt/feel.

    I found out 2 weeks ago my SIL was pregnant and literally it's like the life was sucked out of me all over again. It's getting easier to deal with but I do not want to hear about it, not ready for it. 

    Sending a BIG hug your way.


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  • christineandaaronchristineandaaron member
    i'm so sorry you have to be going through this. i have SIL right now who is pg as well. we would have been 3-4 weeks apart. she is due the end of march. i keep telling myself that i just have to be pg before she has the baby. i will be devastated if i'm not. it is going to be so difficult to hold that little baby. BIG BIG HUGS! i hope the rest of your weekend gets better.
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  • LilMaggsLilMaggs member
    *hugs*  It's incredibly painful.
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  • ColleenS629ColleenS629 member
    It sucks. Hugs!
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  • thewayiamthewayiam
    Oh, that really hurts. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this now.
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  • JennF4185JennF4185
    Thanks for all your kind words.  It made me feel good that my MIL told me today that she was proud of the way i handled the situation last night.  She said she knew how much it hurt me to see/hear a close family member announce that (she had a miscarriage as well years ago).  THanks for the support
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