Working Moms: Does the guilt get easier to deal with?

jamie217

Lately I feel like I'm spread so thin and I ALWAYS feel guilty.  I am a teacher and I've only been back to work less then 2 months and by the end of the day I want to run home to my girls, but I feel guilty that I don't make myself available enough to my students after school like I used to.  I only stay after one day a week now and that day I feel awful that by the time I get home I only have a couple hours (the cranky ones no less) with my girls.

I also feel guilty that my dog doesn't get as much attention, that I fall asleep half the time my H and I get alone time!  I feel like my mom gives me guilty that I can't talk on the phone for long!  Please tell me it gets better!  I love my job and need to work, but I hate feeling like I'm always letting people down!

 

dleigh81

I'm in the same boat. I'm a teacher and have been back about 2 months also. It's not easy being a working MoM. I want to be a SAHM desperately. GL and ((hugs))... you're not alone.

Pipigirl

Same thing here. I always feel torn. I want to spend time with my girls but I know I should be planning or grading for my classroom kids. And the husband and dog hardly get any time! I feel so disorganized this year because when it comes down to it, my family is always going to come first. You're not the only one who feels guilty and stressed out. Summer can't come fast enough, huh? Wish you the best!

Pipigirl

Same here. Teaching is extremely difficult this year. I know I should spend more time planning or grading for my classroom kids, but I would rather spend it with my girls. Family wins every time and as a result, I feel disorganized and stressed at work. But I refuse to give up the already limited time I have with A and C. It stinks all around. You are not alone! I hope things ease up soon.... and here's to summer!

ETA - Sorry about the similar posts! Dumb bump!

TheNewFry

I could have written this exactly....well, except I'm not a teacher.  I just went back to work at the start of January and I am so exhausted all the time.  Which turns into me neglecting my work, my cats and my husband. I barely have any time with my babies since I usually don't get home until close to 6pm, which is when they are fussy, and then they go to bed between 7-7:30. 

Then I wash bottles, do  laundry, and make formula... sometimes I eat dinner, sometimes not... and then I usually pass out on the couch at 9pm.  I feel more exhausted now than when I was home full-time on maternity leave.  Ugh.

So, I can't help since I am feeling the exact same way.  I hope it gets easier.

PianoPlayingSarah

Yes and no.  Wait until your kids beg you not to go to work - I get that quite often.  I try to explain to them why I work - to provide for them.  They don't really understand that but it helps me with the guilt.

E&RMommy

Can't say it has gotten any easier for me.  I went back at 7 weeks PP and the babies are almost 6 months old.

I'm up at 0400.  Out the door at 0500.  Don't get home until 7 PM.  I rarely sit down all day;  I am always exhausted when I get home.  I rush in to help put the babies to bed.  Then it's time to eat dinner and study while DH does the dishes, the bottles, etc.  I feel like I do nothing around the house and for the babies.  It stinks.

Haven1

It gets a little easier. I like my job and don't think I'd be a good sahm, but that doesn't remove all the guilt. Every evening I try to cram in cuddles, skills/play, and a nap. It rarely all happens, and I feel like a failure once they are in bed. I'm hoping to win the lottery.

akaMrsL

I am also a teacher and have the same guilt.  I feel like I only give 50% at school and I always feel behind/disorganized.  My motto this year at school is "it is what it is...I can only do so much. 

dtwmco

Not that I love going to work or would rather be there...

But, I do think it gets better.  Now that DDs are older, I can tell that they love being at daycare.  They also sleep better, so I sleep better, too, and don't feel quite as run down.  At least not because of them.

Hang in there!

Dec31stBride

I'm too tired to feel guilty! Haha. Seriously, I feel like I am giving maybe 60% at work, 50% to household stuff, and 75% to the kids. 

Hey, we just do our best. You are not alone. If the guilt gets out of control, something more might be going on. It will get better.