have you ever.... (loss and other peoples pregnancy mentioned)

twistedmetal

...gotten mad at your loss?

id been doing really well this past couple days and then something that someone said got me, made my mind go too fast, and made me think stupid thoughts.

someone said ''im leaving it all up to the baby, they can decide what gender, when they want to come meet mommy and daddy, etc''

 

my mind moved way too fast and went straight to ''so my baby didnt want to meet me?'' (in my head, definitely not out loud)  then i got a flush of anger, then i realized what an idiot/@sshole (stronger words) i was being and was overcome with guilt.

i know anger is one of the stages of grief, but that just completely threw me.  i dont know why id even think such a thing.

i really wish no one else has experienced this, but then i kinda hope im not alone.

Tapatio

You're not alone. I've gotten angry at my losses in general. I focused my rage towards my body and wonder why the f*** it doesn't work properly.

mizdiz444

I was angry for a long time.  I didn't understand why other people could have babies just fine and I can't.  I would get rage-a-holic every time someone said, "it will happen when it's time" or "it wasn't your time yet".  Really?  Cause why would I get pg if it "wasn't my time". 

 

(((hugs)))

rosenb2b

I actually finally introduced myself on here because I realized how angry I was and knew that the bumpies would understand.  I needed someone to vent to (or while I lurked, at least be able to read that I wasn't crazy)!  Trust me, you aren't alone in this!

iggy.d

lissasue3:

I do that all the time.  I twist others' words around to be about me and my loss.  I'm assuming it's just natural. 

 

This. Even people who don't know I was ever pg or ever had a loss. Something just triggers this well of anger. And I wonder what's wrong with me, or why I wasn't good enough, or what I should have done all over again. 

Oatoa

iggy.d:

lissasue3:

I do that all the time.  I twist others' words around to be about me and my loss.  I'm assuming it's just natural. 

 

This. Even people who don't know I was ever pg or ever had a loss. Something just triggers this well of anger. And I wonder what's wrong with me, or why I wasn't good enough, or what I should have done all over again. 

These two exactly.  Took the words right out of my mouth.

Izabella22

My rage comment is generally "It wasn't meant to be" - if it wasn't meant to be why did I get pregnant? Eh? Riddle me that one... that just never made any sense. And mostly my anger is at my body for being a big fat failure at something it is designed to do.

LifeInANutshell

I got so angry/distraught/upset the other day that I accidentally cut the *** out of my finger... what's worse is that the cut is crazy deep because of how long it took the pain to make it past the flurry of pity party thoughts in my brain

Carolee

This has happened to both me and DH. You are not alone. (((Hugs)))

LilMaggs

Tapatio:

You're not alone. I've gotten angry at my losses in general. I focused my rage towards my body and wonder why the f*** it doesn't work properly.

This! *huge hugs*