Was I crazy? LONG RANT XP from Feb

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I am so fed up with my OB practice.
I have a history of Preterm contractions with all 3 of my pregnancies, I was lucky enough that they started later this pregnancy, however the office is still acting like i'm crazy. It is to the point where the nurse actually said to me "I don't know what you want me to do, are you SURE its worse....ugh fine come in then."

That irritated me but the doctor made up for it for making me feel better. However, I went to L&D last week for contractions, was 2cm but didn't dilate anymore. Was 1cm at my office visit the next day. The contractions continued all week but didn't get worse, Monday I was bleeding so went to L&D again, they didnt' do an ultrasound or anything just said everything looked fine and sent me home. I cried because i felt they should at least do an ultrasound. I also want an ultrasound because my first was 3 weeks early  and 7lbs, my 2nd was 2 weeks early and 8lbs and they both got stuck and it was horrible experience. They won't do one because the measuring tape measures fine.

Yesterday I felt horrible, I was dizzy and lightheaded, I had my regular OB appt but I have been seeing a NP for the past couple of weeks to avoid my regular OB who I hate (and just switched from at 38 weeks...another story) and she really wanted me to make an appt with the doc for next week.  They couldn't get me an appt with her for 10 days and I was upset about that... They didn't find anything wrong but I asked to stay in the room until my husband could pick me up. The nurse came in and was like "WHY ARE YOU ON YOUR BACK, GET UP AND GET ON YOUR SIDE (no offer to help and I WAS on my side), so what is wrong with you why are you still here? Your blood pressure is fine everything is fine." I was in shock....later I got an email from a different nurse in response to an earlier email requesting an ultrasound and explained to me they wouldn't do one because all the measurements are fine. I kind of freaked out and told her that I was tired of everyone there acting like I was an idiot and my concerns are invalid...thats just in so many words. I now have a phone appt with my new OB doc tomorrow(she saw me in L&D)...and don't know what to expect. 

lilbit923

What you need is an advocate. You need someone to be your voice when clearly, no one else, will listen to you. Do you have a family member who won't mind raising hell when it's needed? Have you looked at talking to a doula?

I had a similar experience when I was pregnant with Emma and I got tired of being told what I was feeling (when it wasn't) or listening to a L&D nurse alter what my response actually was in order to suit her needs.

Shiz gets old when you KNOW how you feel. Next time? Be a biitch. Don't take no for an answer and push them to listen to you. Oh and, if you just happen to show up to L&D when you believe you're in labor they HAVE to see you, they can't send you away without checking you out first. If your nurse is a biitch, request a new one. YOU have rights.

LadyXaverian

My gut reaction is that yes, you are acting a bit crazy and that you are over-reacting. I've never been in your situation, though.  It sounds like they are completely dismissing your concerns, and that's not ok either.

Edited for clarification. 

 

Lucky_Dragonfly

I will say that it is a little odd that they did not do an u/s, but at the same time I am not surpirsed. I was in L&D 2 wks ago and MH was surprised that they said no to and u/s esp when I was only 33wks. alot of other people on here get one to check the baby and for some reason they didn't think it was warrented.

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SarahL77:

My gut reaction is that yes, you are acting a bit crazy and that you are over-reacting. I've never been in your situation, though.  It sounds like they are completely dismissing your concerns, and that's not ok either.

Edited for clarification. 

 

In response to this, i guess i should clarify as well. It may very well not be necessary for me to get an ultrasound, but I just feel like I shouldn't be treated like an idiot. When I was in L&D and the doctor told me why he didn't want to do one, he was very sweet and I totally appreciated it. My problem was that my nurse would not even ASK my doctor, she just acted as if I was over reacting and wasnt worth her time....thats what really set me off. 

Jaylea

My first was 3 weeks early and almost 8 lbs. I didn't expect an u/s. I ended up with one due to decreased fetal movement AND measuring 3 weeks ahead. But wouldn't have gotten one otherwise.

My gut is that you're overreacting here and are coming off as the high maintenance patient.

That said, if you do not feel as though you mesh well with your practice, you should absolutely go elsewhere.

karakel

I agree with pp that either you or someone else needs to be your own advocate.  The office staff should not be dismissing your concerns however if you have acted this way throughout your pregnancy and I can kind of see how they would think you were just over-reacting. 

I don't know why you are so worked up over not having an ultrasound.  You were told that it was not needed.  Even if they did do a growth ultrasound they can be off 1-2 lbs each way so that's not going to give you a definitive answer either.

LadyXaverian

belamour616@gmail.com:

SarahL77:

My gut reaction is that yes, you are acting a bit crazy and that you are over-reacting. I've never been in your situation, though.  It sounds like they are completely dismissing your concerns, and that's not ok either.

Edited for clarification. 

 

In response to this, i guess i should clarify as well. It may very well not be necessary for me to get an ultrasound, but I just feel like I shouldn't be treated like an idiot. When I was in L&D and the doctor told me why he didn't want to do one, he was very sweet and I totally appreciated it. My problem was that my nurse would not even ASK my doctor, she just acted as if I was over reacting and wasnt worth her time....thats what really set me off. 

That makes sense.