Closing in on first dr's appointment

blackbird01

I made an intro here back in November or December, but I've kept to lurking since I hadn't hit the one year mark yet. Well, this month is one year and I have an appointment with a new OB in early February and I'm freaking out. It's stupid, I realize, since I'm due for an annual exam so no major decisions are going to be made. At most she may start the ball rolling on some testing. Or she may have me make a separate appointment for that discussion. But I hate that it's gotten to this point. I'm worried that she's going to tell me to lose weight (I'm overweight, but not obese) and then I'll feel like this whole struggle is all my fault. I'm worried about my increasingly long cycles. I'm worried about all the "what ifs." I'm worried that my son is going to be an only child.

Anyway, just the rantings of a crazy woman, but I thought perhaps you ladies would understand and could tell me to calm down.

BabyRN2006

Good luck! I cried when I got off the phone after setting up that initial appointment. The actual appointment was pretty painless though. She did a physical exam, drew some blood, and we set up DH's SA. She also told me to set up an HSG when I got my period but I decided to wait until we get some answers about DH.  I am obese and she never mentioned my weight, so maybe yours won't bring that up either That was one of my fears. I know I am overweight and I know it can cause problems with fertility.

blueberries8

Talking to your ob/gyn is a great first step and I'd recommend asking her for a referral to a RE at your annual appointment and then let the RE take over from there. Please don't blame yourself, and while it can always help to make healthier lifestyle choices, see what the initial tests show and what your RE recommends before jumping to conclusions about the root(s) of your problem. GL to you and I hope you feel more at ease once you have the initial conversation with your ob/gyn and get a referral.

Mrs. Mo

blueberries8:

Talking to your ob/gyn is a great first step and I'd recommend asking her for a referral to a RE at your annual appointment and then let the RE take over from there. Please don't blame yourself, and while it can always help to make healthier lifestyle choices, see what the initial tests show and what your RE recommends before jumping to conclusions about the root(s) of your problem. GL to you and I hope you feel more at ease once you have the initial conversation with your ob/gyn and get a referral.

Ditto. It's not an OB/GYNs job to get you KU, only to care for you once you are. They do not know as much about what tests to run and the meds to put you on as a RE does. Also, when you do go to a RE, they most likely will want to to have all the test re-ran by their labs. Different labs/docs have different criteria. So, to save time, $$ and the emotional roller-coaster of feeling like you have to "start over", you should just ask for the referral ( if you even need a referral to see one, I didn't).