I LOATHE being jealous

pinkr0ses

Jealous about babies and pregnant women that is.  I am a jealous person by nature, but never about this!

The announcements are just killing me (on fb, on my lo's board, etc.).  I know I need to just take it all with a grain of salt, and one day it will be me, but right now, I am being a jealous little baby.

Rant over, ugh!

Tapatio

You're not alone. I get jealous all the time. I think for me it all boils down to what feels "fair." When someone already takes their existing children for granted and then has another....I am NOT happy for them. If someone has an "oops" and complains about being pg....I am NOT happy for them. I've only been genuinely happy (and not jealous) for a small amount of people.

It's ok to feel jealousy so don't be so hard on yourself. I hope your BFP is right around the corner. Feel free to vent all you want

LifeInANutshell

Tapatio:

You're not alone. I get jealous all the time. I think for me it all boils down to what feels "fair." When someone already takes their existing children for granted and then has another....I am NOT happy for them. If someone has an "oops" and complains about being pg....I am NOT happy for them. I've only been genuinely happy (and not jealous) for a small amount of people.

 

HadleyS

It's okay to vent/rant about this.  I think it's a natural feeling that many people on here have at least from time to time.  I really try to fight it, and then if I do get jealous or angry, I later end up really upset that I was upset in the first place.  It's a vicious cycle.  If you can vent about this anywhere, it's certainly here!  (((hugs)))

Izabella22

I'm with Tapatio on this one, if I know someone has has problems my jealous impulse doesn't even register, but yeah... anyone who it just provokes that "not fair" response I'm green with envy. I hate it, but its my natural response right now. I try to temper unknowns (like Dh's daughter) with "Well, I don't know their history, maybe they've been through the wringer too" but if its someone who falls in Tapatio's criteria, meh. I don't even feel bad for the jealousy, cause yeah it isn't fair.

vitan

LifeInANutshell:

Tapatio:

You're not alone. I get jealous all the time. I think for me it all boils down to what feels "fair." When someone already takes their existing children for granted and then has another....I am NOT happy for them. If someone has an "oops" and complains about being pg....I am NOT happy for them. I've only been genuinely happy (and not jealous) for a small amount of people.

 

Amen to this. 

You are so not alone in this. Glad I'm not either. 

clauseka

You are not alone.  Don't feel bad for your jealous feelings.  The truth of the matter is that pregnant women are reminders of how unfair things can be for us.  I try to take a positive outlook and see them as signs of what "will be" for us, but it's definitely hard most days.  ((Hugs))

pinkr0ses

Thanks ladies, you made me feel better!

iggy.d

Vitan:

LifeInANutshell:

Tapatio:

You're not alone. I get jealous all the time. I think for me it all boils down to what feels "fair." When someone already takes their existing children for granted and then has another....I am NOT happy for them. If someone has an "oops" and complains about being pg....I am NOT happy for them. I've only been genuinely happy (and not jealous) for a small amount of people.

 

Amen to this. 

You are so not alone in this. Glad I'm not either. 

Exactly all of this. ((hugs))

Kristipie

You are not alone!  I am so jealous of anyone who is pregnant right now and then I get mad at myself for being like this.  It helps knowing that if I'm a horrible person for being jealous - then I'm not alone!

It will be your turn soon I hope. 

MommyandKate

We hear ya!

mizdiz444

Vitan:

LifeInANutshell:

Tapatio:

You're not alone. I get jealous all the time. I think for me it all boils down to what feels "fair." When someone already takes their existing children for granted and then has another....I am NOT happy for them. If someone has an "oops" and complains about being pg....I am NOT happy for them. I've only been genuinely happy (and not jealous) for a small amount of people.

 

Amen to this. 

You are so not alone in this. Glad I'm not either. 

Ditto!  (((hugs))) to you!

Laurakat81

I have a hard time hearing about other pregnancies too. I have never been a jealous person but now I'm not sure jealous even touches what I feel. The thing is when I hear of someone else who is pregnant I judge them. Do they already have healthy living children? Did they struggle for this at all? Infertility or losses? It's like the worse they have had it in my mind then the happier I am for them. But if I don't think they struggled then I almost feel like they don't deserve it. I am going through this rite if passage so it's only fair everyone else should too. That being said I am NOT proud of the way I feel and how I'm judging who should or shouldn't have a baby. That's not me...not the old me anyways. A co worker announced on FB two days ago at not even five weeks along. It makes me sick. She is as sweet as can be and has a beautiful three year old so why does she get one more before I even get one? And why does she get to feel so confident that she can announce to hundreds of people at not even five weeks? I'm torn between honestly not wanting bad things to happen but seriously wishing I wasn't the only one I know irl going thru this. Sigh. I'm working in it.

vitan

Laurakat81:

And why does she get to feel so confident that she can announce to hundreds of people at not even five weeks? I'm torn between honestly not wanting bad things to happen but seriously wishing I wasn't the only one I know irl going thru this. Sigh. I'm working in it.

You must have jumped into my head to write this, right? No. I've thought this way and I feel like such a sh!t for even letting it cross my mind. I would not EVER wish the pain on anyone but I judge/side eye the fact my SIL announced her pregnancy at 4 weeks. They're mighty confident, aren't they? Ugh. So horrible to think this way. Anyways, again...you are not alone. If I could hug you, I would. Hang in there sister. I'm sure a bunch of us are on that rope with you. 

ColleenS629

I can't help but be jealous. If you figure out how not to be, let me know!

LilMaggs

Tapatio:

You're not alone. I get jealous all the time. I think for me it all boils down to what feels "fair." When someone already takes their existing children for granted and then has another....I am NOT happy for them. If someone has an "oops" and complains about being pg....I am NOT happy for them. I've only been genuinely happy (and not jealous) for a small amount of people.

It's ok to feel jealousy so don't be so hard on yourself. I hope your BFP is right around the corner. Feel free to vent all you want

I couldn't have said it better!